Bergenquest

I have always felt uncomfortable in situations where I was being asked out in general.. most of the people I have attracted tend to be a bit mentally unstable which makes it even scarier to say no. Once, a close friend of mine at the time told me he liked me and I didn’t know what to do so I wasn’t clear about my response. I was trying so hard not to hurt him and not to lead him on at the same time but in the end I did both. This was a person that only relied on me for his emotional stability, only talked to me about it, and thought he had no one else. He was so attached to me and was close to suicide multiple times so it was clear to me that I had to stick around somehow to keep him alive. I was stuck in this cycle of responsibility for him and it was horrible for my own mental health. Eventually I managed to tell his family about his lack of stability and I stepped back, but it hasn’t been the same since. Not only did he pressure me emotionally he pressured me physically because every conversation we had turned into him wanting sex and I am Aro and Ace so obviously that isn’t down my alley. I still have to see him on a daily basis, which sucks, but at least I managed to cut him off from that..