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happened to me too, fixed now though! ♥♥♥

I do feel this a bunch, i'm pretty lucky in that im more comfortable with online interactions than offline ones but still, i want people with me, someone to have in my life that i know wont leave.

My current thoughts are moving down to the little farming town i used to live, and adopting/fostering children. Possibly inviting other friends to come live with me.

I'm a little romance repulsed but have been in a romantic relationship and a QPP that didnt work out since i learnt dont enjoy relationships. I still frequently wish i were in a relationship   

You might be aro if you spend years thinking 'im not ready for a relationship' and aren't sure of the reason why.

27 minutes ago, IntrspctvAzlin said:

Oh!! I know I’m two years late, but I think “This Is Home” and “Just Add Water” by Cavetown would do since they both have aromantic vibes! 

Heck yeah! Plus Robbie (Cavetown) is arospec! ♥

12 minutes ago, Cristal Gris said:

I have a aro shirt (with the word "pride" in the aro coulours. The shirt itself is dark gray, it was the worst idea ever… ).

 

and i have a lot of badges too. Aro, rainbow, trans and non binary

 

I would like a flag someday. Maybe i will make it myself.

oooh those all sound awesome!! Even the shirt If you wanna make it more visible and are comfortable with changing it - you could do an outline for the letters, like in a white maybe?
And making a flag yourself is good, a friend and i did that one pride and they turned out well
I've got an aro flag shipping in at the moment from wish, which was nice because it was affordable for me  

anyone got any pride stuff [clothing, accessories, objects, ect]?

I just got a leather bracelet with an aro flag button which im loving so far, an ace flag and some ace shirts from an american friend, and ive made some rainbow shirts and a bunch of pride badges

13 minutes ago, raavenb2619 said:

"'Love is love is love' is the slogan of the entire queer community!"

ah gosh this.
Like as an a-spec trans person I think 'love is love' is lovely! When its specifically talking about love. Not about the whole LGBT+ community.

Like people say "The LGBT+ community is about who you love!" and its like "?? im trans, its the 4th letter, and love isnt relevant to my identity"
which, whoops im going a little off topic.

So, yeah, "LGBT+ is about love" very amatonormative
Also the phrase "Have you found [someone, a boyfriend, ect] yet?" No, i havent, and i will not ever.

Maybe "there's someone for everyone"? Its used to mean that every person has someone who will be a good fit for them romantically and I know for a fact there's no one for me.

3 hours ago, Cristal Gris said:

Note : the brightness of the colours… depend if you are on mobile or on your laptop. For me, at least.

Brightness is a good point! I have my phone and laptop on low brightness always so, i guess its a little less bright for me whoops

4 hours ago, running.tally said:

The green and purple might be a bit too much of a contrast, but for me personally, only the green is a little too bright.

I made this version too originally which may help the contrast a little, but also makes it look a little more like the aroace flag?

I made this, as a basic concept for an aspec flag

Black - lack of attraction
purple- asexuality
green-aromanticism
white- community
blue-aplatonic
grey-spectrum of identities.

what do people think? ♥

I can never quite decide what i want

I tried romance and QPPs, and they didnt work well with me, but still part of me is like 'pls, i want a long distance qpp',
I do want and like having friends but also having friends is exhausting and i dont like having people at my house or being at other's houses, 
I do always love internet friends though, thats my favourite type of interaction. ♥

It'd depend on the couple but i wouldn't advise them not to date an aro person any more than i'd advise them not to date an alloromantic person, aro just means no romantic attraction, the person may still be very interested in romance and be a great romantic partner for the person, we can't make assumptions based solely on a lack of attraction   

I'm autistic!

Dunno if there's an inherent link, but i spent a lot of my childhood wondering about the concept of love, whether I could feel it or not; because it was a complex, undefined concept that I didn't really understand. Same applied to my orientation and gender; I don't understand it and in this case; I'm certain I don't experience.

Additionally; there are higher percentages of LGBT+ autistic people and autistic LGBT+ people! Some theories I have - Concepts like gender may have less hold on us, or, it may be that if you're already deemed a social outcast you may be more willing to explore other aspects of yourself that are also not socially accepted. And with more LGBT+ people being open with our autistic identity in LGBT+ spaces it may lead other LGBT+ to recognise shared experiences and begin to question whether they're autistic too   

oooh fair! they're a nice one to get make sure you go to a piercing/tattoo place if you do get one! i got my first ones at a chemist but oof, never a good idea to get piercings at any place that uses piercing guns.


I have - double lobe piercings on each ear, a helix, labret (middle of bottom lip), eyebrow, navel, septum, and today!! I got an industrial piercing!! I was terrified and my friend held my hand the entire time ♥

I also have 3 stick n pokes (self done) of an arrow, a tortoise riding a skateboard and wearing sunglasses, and a trans symbol but with a love heart instead of a circle.

I frequently dye my hair unnatural colours.

I really want a split tongue but they're a lot of money and also it seems like it would be too scary for me to get done.

My favs are: stick n pokes (makes me feel more comfortable in my body. Tortoise is on my bicep and makes me look a little more buff), labret (helped me with dysphoria, focused on a nice shiny thing instead of feminine features - also fun to stim with) and my navel piercing (helped with tummy related body image issues)   

Anyone have any body-mods? (eg, hair dye, tattoos, piercings, aesthetic surgery, ect)
If so:

• Which do you have?
• Which do you want?
• Which are your favourites?

♥♥♥!

ive been in a romantic and a queerplatonic relationship, i knew i didnt feel attraction; but i still had a desire for those relationships only,,, as it turned out,,, im not good in relationships.
I get too uncomfortable, i don't show as much affection because it feels to serious and like its something i need to do; rather than want, and don't like getting affection from partners, because it still feels like something im obligated to accept rather than want to. Pretty much as soon as we stopped dating i went back to being overly affectionate with my ex bf.

Every so often i still crave a qpp, i think because on one level i want that commitment; but on another level it doesnt work out for me.  

There's a song called "Aromantic Moodboard" which i've been listening to on repeat non-stop, i love it so much

working now! and ? i love it!! ♥ 

8 minutes ago, Cristal Gris said:

Can I ask about mental illness? Where do it go (if it even fit in the list) . Because peoples can't agree on that it seem. Sometime they say it's a neurodivergeance, sometime not so i want to ask you what you think about it. (i mean… i can be healed and it's actually an illness, so…it is really a neurodivergeance?). And sometime they say it's a disability. Idk

Hmm fair question! I'd say under neurodivergence, as thats how I identify my mental illness, but, for ease; I've added a mental illness option if that makes it easier  

Are you disabled and/or neurodiverse? 

Mark: "here's some facts about disabled people"
Spacenik: "how dARE YOU?? This is way too PC!! how can people post facts i hate this place"


Giving information about disability isn't "insane" or "an echo chamber" its just,,, factual? Why is that so offensive to you Spacenik?

8 minutes ago, Spacenik86 said:

refer to people of unknown sex or to someone who is neither male nor female,

The word to refer to people who's gender you know is they,
 

8 minutes ago, Spacenik86 said:

transgendered person

Just trans person, or transgender person,  transgendered is like calling someone a talled person.

10 minutes ago, Spacenik86 said:

identifies as a woman but keeps eir cock

That's a woman, statistically; that person would use she/her pronouns. Her genitals dont affect which pronouns she uses.

Singular they exists, use it. It's been around for a very long time and is actually a neutral pronoun, calling people e/em when they havent told you those are their pronouns is misgendering. Calling trans women e/em when they havent told you those are their pronouns is misgendering. 

Use they/them for anyone who's pronouns you don't know, or just dont use pronouns.

12 minutes ago, Spacenik86 said:

Like your username. Why did you choose it?

Just because my name's Orion (chosen due to my love of space) and orion wasn't an available name, so I just put a random letter at the start