I just kind of defaulted to gay when I was younger, which confused me greatly later on, because in my mind whenever I liked a guy it was gay, but because I'm trans and hadn't figured that out yet I eventually had the thought, "Oh, I'm a girl. Being gay would mean I like exclusively girls". So I identified as bi for awhile, then I figured out that I'm trans and identified as bi/pan. Then I tried to date a girl, immediately (I'm talking as soon as I asked her out) felt trapped by the relationship, over corrected into identifying as ace and aro and denouncing marriage and condemning everyone who was in a relationship. Luckily enough I kept most of that to myself and didn't make the girl feel awful. Anyway now I'm super gay and aro, so that's pretty cool.
What You Thought You Were Before You Identified as Arospec
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I just kind of defaulted to gay when I was younger, which confused me greatly later on, because in my mind whenever I liked a guy it was gay, but because I'm trans and hadn't figured that out yet I eventually had the thought, "Oh, I'm a girl. Being gay would mean I like exclusively girls". So I identified as bi for awhile, then I figured out that I'm trans and identified as bi/pan. Then I tried to date a girl, immediately (I'm talking as soon as I asked her out) felt trapped by the relationship, over corrected into identifying as ace and aro and denouncing marriage and condemning everyone who was in a relationship. Luckily enough I kept most of that to myself and didn't make the girl feel awful. Anyway now I'm super gay and aro, so that's pretty cool.