I just kind of defaulted to gay when I was younger, which confused me greatly later on, because in my mind whenever I liked a guy it was gay, but because I'm trans and hadn't figured that out yet I eventually had the thought, "Oh, I'm a girl. Being gay would mean I like exclusively girls". So I identified as bi for awhile, then I figured out that I'm trans and identified as bi/pan. Then I tried to date a girl, immediately (I'm talking as soon as I asked her out) felt trapped by the relationship, over corrected into identifying as ace and aro and denouncing marriage and condemning everyone who was in a relationship. Luckily enough I kept most of that to myself and didn't make the girl feel awful. Anyway now I'm super gay and aro, so that's pretty cool.
I just kind of defaulted to gay when I was younger, which confused me greatly later on, because in my mind whenever I liked a guy it was gay, but because I'm trans and hadn't figured that out yet I eventually had the thought, "Oh, I'm a girl. Being gay would mean I like exclusively girls". So I identified as bi for awhile, then I figured out that I'm trans and identified as bi/pan. Then I tried to date a girl, immediately (I'm talking as soon as I asked her out) felt trapped by the relationship, over corrected into identifying as ace and aro and denouncing marriage and condemning everyone who was in a relationship. Luckily enough I kept most of that to myself and didn't make the girl feel awful. Anyway now I'm super gay and aro, so that's pretty cool.
