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On 11/27/2023 at 8:09 PM, dordor said:
Well this is the first week of exams for me in uni, and i have one on Wednesda(auto mechanic shit sth) and generally physics the day afterrr. Im not prepared for either of them and i have a deadline for my programming homeworks for tonight(im just physically incapable of doing them) and my paper for physics lab is due Wednesday too. God it's too much work and im just tired. Just so tired
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On 10/20/2022 at 8:09 PM, SilentShadows said:
Very fascinating! I definitely find it enlightening to hear of different experiences in the community. I do distinctly relate to the idea of human/monster and non-standard romances, humans with monsters or non-humans I find fascinating because it's no confined to the human idea of romance. If I ever wrote something romance/adjacent, I'd totally start there.
Very relatable, I find the build-up is a lot easier but anything where it crosses into "real" romance feels strange. I know, realistically, what folks do, but it does feel fake and always leaves me with the feeling "why would anyone do this/want this." I do agree as well about writing romance feeling less authentic and off-putting just due to not fully understanding it due to lack of well... experiencing it! I think media could definitely play a role, though I find even the happy couples to be kind of strange - I don't quite get the appeal or why someone would want that as opposed to a close friend or life partner/roommate who is committed to living with you.
Ooo nice! What's the name of the comic - is it posted online at all? Definitely agree on there being quite enough romance stories, haha. That's really fascinating though with playing characters in a "romantic relationship" who really aren't romantically involved at all. Fun workaround, too!
It's important that everyone can see themselves in the stories they read, and it can help raise awareness and understanding of the aromantic community. I appreciate when authors make an effort to explore and accurately portray a diversity of experiences in their writing. Speaking of academic endeavors, I recently faced a challenge in my studies, specifically a physics homework assignment that turned out to be more difficult than I expected. After finding the website mypaperdone.com/do-my-physics-homework , I got the support I needed, which helped me not only to cope with the task but also to understand the material more deeply. It was a real lifesaver at the time and I would recommend their services to anyone looking for extra help with physics or any other academic subject. They truly understand how to make learning less stressful and more successful.As someone who identifies with the aromantic spectrum, my experience with writing or roleplaying romance is complex. I find it challenging to authentically convey romantic relationships in my work, as these feelings don't naturally resonate with me. However, I excel and find joy in exploring deep connections, such as friendships or queerplatonic relationships. This discrepancy in my writing and roleplaying preferences has been a significant part of understanding and accepting my aromantic identity. It's a journey of discovering how to express closeness in ways that align with my experiences.
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On 7/8/2022 at 3:32 AM, Tinkere said:
This isn’t the best essay since I had no pre planning . I tend to be a bit scatterbrained, so my ideas may be all over the place. This is meant to be an informative essay with a little bit of personal experience/content towards the end.
What is aromanticism?
Perhaps you’ve heard of asexuality, and despite having similarities, aromanticism and asexuality are NOT the same thing. Some have debated on the definition of aromanticism, but it is generally classified as “having little to no romantic attraction and/or having no desire to be in a romantic relationship”. This definition may be confusing to some. What even is romantic attraction, anyway?
Romantic attraction is generally defined as “having the desire to engage in romantic coded activities such as kissing, hand holding, cuddling, and dating in general”. When one has romantic attraction, it is typically directed at a certain person(s). These aforementioned activities can be performed in a platonic sense of course, but people who are aromantic tend to dislike doing these things with romantic intentions. As hinted by their title, romance is not normally something aromantics desire. While they may not feel or desire the “norm” of romantic love, they can still feel love and attraction in several other ways
Despite lacking romantic love, aromantics can experience love, just not in the conventional way. They may feel extreme platonic love, familial love, or even sexual love. Many aromantics tend to prioritize their platonic relationships (such as friendship) over romantic ones. As mentioned before, aromanticism and asexuality are NOT the same thing. Aromantics may be able to feel sexual attraction or the urge to have a sexual relationship without romantic attraction involved. Some aromantics also may be asexual as well, and that is not uncommon. Not all aromantics are asexual, and not all asexuals are aromantic . Some aromantics may not even feel platonic love necessarily, because it is a spectrum. Not everybody will have the same experience.
Just because they don’t desire romance does not mean that aromantics are heartless. Many aros have very deep and committed friendships. Even though this may sound contradictory, some aromantics still may experiment with dating for several reasons. Aromantics still are allowed to date, but they may not have the same romantic attraction their partner does. They may just do it for sheer experimentation, or the need to have someone close. Some aros may even “date” in a platonic sense.
Unfortunately, aromantic people receive a lot of amatonormative comments that may make them feel invalidated. Amatonormativity is the belief that everybody should eventually be in a romantic relationship to have happiness in their life. This belief can be very harmful and stifling to some people, especially when romance is just something they have little to no desire for. It can be extremely hurtful to an individual and they may feel “broken” due to not being able to feel romantic attraction. Many people, be aromantic or not can be extremely happy and fulfilled without having a romantic relationship. Lots of aromantics get dismissed because they “just haven’t found the right person yet” or they “just aren’t experienced enough”. This may be true for some people and love may come eventually, but many aromantics feel repulsed to the idea of themselves in romance. It just simply isn’t for everybody.
There are many happily single people who choose the “single life” because of different circumstances such as success, distaste of lack of freedom, or for spiritual reasons. This does not necessarily mean that they are aromantic. If they have romantic attraction and they’re making the conscious choice that they don’t want to date for certain reasons, that is not aromantic. Aromantics don’t CHOOSE to feel this way or CHOOSE this “lifestyle”. In fact, many celibates make the choice of celibacy for spiritual and religious reasons, but they may still have romantic feelings. Just because they do not act on those feelings does not mean they aren’t there. Celibacy is VOLUNTARY. Aromanticism is NOT.
Some people may beg the question: “If aromantics or asexuals DON’T feel any romantic/(and or) sexual attraction, and it revolves around their lack of attraction, why is it considered in the LGBTQ community?”. The LGBTQ community isn’t just about being gay or trans, it’s a community for people who have non-normative experiences with their sexual, romantic, or gender identity. Aromantics and asexuals do not fit in the mold of what society considers a “normal” romantic or sexual identity. You may be also wondering: “If you’re aromantic (or asexual), do you have to associate yourself with the LGBTQ community?”. The answer to that is NO. Not all aromantics or asexuals consider or associate themselves to be a part of the community. They are not obligated to.
-“But why do they get a fancy label then?”
This question seems to be irrelevant. Heterosexuals who don’t identify with the LGBTQ community still identify as straight. It simply is no different.
Being aromantic or asexual should not conflict with any religious views or rules, because a lack of romantic or sexual feelings is nothing of sinful nature. In fact, it may be seen as a blessing by some people because there is no temptation to fall into sexual immorality. Paul even promotes singleness if it can help you become closer to God.
“I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” (Corinthians 7:8-10)
He even states that perhaps staying unmarried is better for your relationship with God because a spouse can distract you from the Lord.
“An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world--how she can please her husband.” (Corinthians 7:34) Like mentioned before, not all of these people associate themselves with the LGBTQ community, so there should inherently should be no problem. Someone’s lack of romantic or sexual feelings should be no reasonable cause for concern.
My personal experience with aromanticism is quite complained. I never had any crushes at all growing up (not even any fictional ones). I didn’t have my first “crush” until I was 11 or 12. I hardly recalled even liking him much, but I believe I forced myself into liking him so I could feel “normal”. Of course, those feelings never lasted for long, nor escalated into anything serious at all. I’ve had other “crushes”, but looking back, none of them have ever had any romantic desire whatsoever. Most of them stemmed from either really appreciating them as a person or as a friend, or just straight up non-romantic obsession. I have never wished to date any of my “crushes” or do anything romantic with them.
I’ve always had extremely blurry lines on whether I liked someone or not. Every time I make a friend, I start to get obsessive feelings over them. Looking back, none of them were romantic at all, and they were just sheer appreciation of them. I personally could never find myself enjoying a romantic relationship at all. I am very averse to physical constant and especially physical intimacy (even non-romantically/sexually). Dating has always seemed utterly useless to me. I think that if you have so much in common with someone and you really appreciate them, being friends seems like a way better solution. Unfortunately, not everybody thinks the same way as I do, and there may be some issues with unrequited love from the other person that I would see unromantically. Romance just seems completely unappealing to me in so many ways. I despise physical contact, even non romantic hand holding or cuddling puts me at unease. Kissing seems absolutely horrible and disgusting in so many ways. Intimacy in any shape or form seems awful. I’ve never felt the urge to say “I love you”s to anyone. It’s always been uncomfortable for me to say platonically or in a familial sense. Being married and living forever with someone seems much more like a curse than a blessing. I have zero desire to have children or get married, and do not see my ideals changing any time soon.
I’m not going to tolerate “You just haven’t found the right person yet”. Romance and any sort of intimacy is just not my cup of tea. I’ve felt this way for a long time, and I truly can’t see my opinion changing very much in the future. It’s possible I may change in the future, but I do not want to be invalidated because of how I truly feel. I don’t want words being put into my mouth about how I’ll supposedly feel. Not everybody desires romance. Not everybody needs it. I could never see myself loving somebody that way, and that’s alright. Not everyone will feel the same, and not everybody will have the same experiences. Some people center their whole life around love and couldn’t imagine it any other way, while some people just don’t feel that way and have no desire for romantic love. Not everyone needs romantic love to feel fulfilled. I can find happiness in other things, and I am perfectly content with who I am. This is how I feel. I am NOT a copycat, I’m NOT mentally ill, and I’m NOT making this up for attention. Every passing day, somebody asking me out is a debilitating fear of mine. I don’t care who it is, it stresses me out thinking about it. A lot. I fear anyone liking me romantically. I fear having to deal with that. I don’t feel romantic love at all, and that’s okay. I don’t need someone in my life to determine that my existence has meaning. I’m proud to be me, and this is just the way I am.
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On 12/13/2023 at 6:10 PM, Jeeperz_ said:
This is a personal essay I wrote for one of my classes about being aromantic and asexual. I hope you like it.
Something Is Not Right
The whole world started to fracture around me. The grime of Nate's couch, the itch of his woolen blankets, the stench of weed, a place so unfamiliar to me and my mind was revolting against it all. I had always suspected there was something wrong with me, like a storm rising within, from around the fourth grade. It came stumbling onto me at that moment, a cascade of panic and wrongness punching me right in the face, knocking me down swiftly and mocking me happily. I leaned over the side of the dirty beige couch; I drank metallic water from the stained glass cup and it gave me little comfort. I tried to focus on the buzzing TV, my heavy breathing, anything to distract myself from the body heavy atop me and what every single person in my life seemed to want me to do. What I should want to do, I reminded myself, you want this. I pushed down the lump in my throat.
The ride here had been long and uninviting. We hummed along in Dane’s old car, listening to bad pop mixed with country off her personal playlist through old speakers that jittered at the change of each song. It was dead middle of the night, the roads pitch black and frightening, only dulled by the occasional honey-colored streetlamp. It was just the three of us, Maci, Dane, and I. They laughed at the absurdist idea: we’re driving a whole hour so that Dane could bang her boyfriend. But of course that wasn’t all, of course, that couldn’t be it all. They both stressed on every occasion that Maci and I would have the downstairs couch all to ourselves, making it very clear the expectations for the night. So they went on talking of sex and the adjacent; I, the strangeness of it all.
I suppose it’d be a lie if I said it was just them. For the past few weeks, every acquaintance I knew came up to me under the fluorescent glow of the hallway lights to weigh in on my love life. ‘She likes you, you know’, from our closest friends, band kids with bright shocks of tacky dyed hair or the people they dragged along that we barely put up with. ‘She did these things, you know’, from people who almost knew me, concerned citizens almost always looking for drama. But worst of all, ‘Are you really considering this?’ from the people who only knew of me, the people who knew all too well the world of trouble I was getting myself into. Words flew by more wildly every day, the rumors growing in a violent symphony, low whispers following me everywhere I went. Despite how bad it was getting on the outside, our inner friend group stayed warm to the idea. They giggled like schoolgirls, asking for the gory details, everyone waiting on me to tell them exactly what they wanted to hear. Slowly, the thought formed in my head, growing more concrete every time I gave it attention: give the people what they want.
So there I was. For preparing to do something so adult, I was feeling so very small. It felt like I was nine years old again, watching everyone around me get crushes and write love letters. What it felt like most of all, was that I was out of place, the fifth corner piece in a battered puzzle, something wrong. She was on me, and I was climbing out of my skin. I stood in front of me, watching it all happen. I saw my hands move awkwardly, a combination of panic and inexperience, watched the TV blast pale, almost sickly light on us. I listened to the sounds coming from upstairs, hollow creaks of bed frames and floorboards, things that made me uncomfortable to even imagine, observed the condensation forming on the glass, little drops of clear liquid contrasting the calcium stains riddling it. I did anything to distract me from what was really happening. I dragged it along, stretching out every move I made, blocking any progression she tried. I could do this, I could run out the clock. If I was in any better frame of mind I would have probably told myself to get it over with. Push through, this is what people do after all. But something primal came over me. It turned into survival, a matter of life and death. I was a stark white rabbit, hiding poorly in the bushes and waiting for a bigger, badder predator to chase away the one hunting me.But just like that, it was all over. Dane and Nate came back down, everyone made their disappointment known, but it was over. I went to bed alone that night, lying and saying that my mom needed me just to escape another night sleeping in the too-soft bed of a woman everyone seemed to want me to sleep with. Laying by myself, alone in my too-big bed and too-plush blanket, everything caught up to me. The storm building within me started to overflow, trickling down my face in large tears and solidifying everything I had been feeling. Something is not right, my brain rasped in a foul screech, this is not what people feel. I found myself on the same website that seemed to haunt me, something I knew in my soul but denied in my mind. Arocalypse: welcome and forum rules.
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Writing Romance As An Aromantic?
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Hey there! Writing romance can indeed be a challenge, especially if it's not something that resonates with you. It sounds like you're approaching it with a lot of dedication by researching and trying to understand the dynamics of romantic interactions. That's a great first step! What might help further is to think of romance in fiction not just as a series of physical interactions like holding hands, but as a way to develop characters and advance the plot. Try focusing on the emotional connection between characters, how they impact each other's growth, and the conflict their relationship might introduce.