PumpkinsLinked

Omg, I haven't seen many others who watch the good place!! Good show taste :D Anyways!! I hope you enjoy it here!! I'm also kinda new, and I already love the site, so I hope you do too!! :D

Hello!!!! I've only been here a lil while, and its a pretty good site!! I hope you enjoy it here ^^

Question, if any one of your friends told you that they were an age dreamer.. would you react like this? If the answer is no, then I have a question.. What makes you feel this way when it's you? You are being harsh on yourself for having trauma that requires stuff like this to help heal, if anyone else had any problems with this it's most likely that you would treat them with respect. Yes, it may be "Childish" but what's wrong with childish? People try to make other people ashamed for being "Childish", but when you didn't get that childhood in the first place? It's understandable why you need this, it may not seem like it helps on the surface, but it does. You don't need to be ashamed of being like this, there are so many others going through the same thing, feeling the same way, and thinking the same thoughts... You aren't alone, you aren't weird, and you don't need to "fix" this. What you are doing? Is a way to repair whatever childhood trauma you went through, and it's a valid way to handle it... A way recognized by therapists, your brain is doing the best way it can think of to fix that past damage and then beating itself up for trying to repair that past damage. Register that, and try to figure out what you think is the best next step... But attempting to repress what will, in the long run, help? It won't do your mental health any good. Please give yourself some grace, don't judge yourself for doing your best to heal your past. You've got this! Okay?

"Most are too young to know" "Maybe it's just a phase" "Aro's are selfish" "It's so rare, so they can't be it!" I've been told these too many times, and they make me so mad every time

4 hours ago, Keith said:

I know a few!!

1. Jaiden Animations - AroAce.

2. Samantha Aimee - AroAce (if I'm not mistaken).

3. lukie way - Aro.

4. Clara Dehlin - AroAce.

5. Nik Hampshire - Aro.

6. Yasmin Benoit - AroAce.

TYSM!!!!!!!! I'll look into all of em'!!!

Hey, as an (sfw)Age regressor.. you are perfectly valid! Your experience does sound like Age dreaming, but that is also a perfectly legitimate coping mechanism!! Not everyone can regress, and that's okay <:] It doesn't make you any less valid!! I'd recommend looking into age dreaming and seeing if you resonate with it, and if so-- try that out! Just because you can't seem to regress, doesn't mean your coping mechanism isn't valid, it doesn't mean your trauma isn't valid, and it doesn't mean you aren't valid. You've got this!!
(Also I will say, you don't need to be embarrassed about wanting little kid stuff!! You had bad experiences in the past, and needing/wanting that stuff to help with those bad experiences is perfectly okay!!)

Does anyone know any Aro YouTubers? I realized I don't know any YouTubers that are aro, and I feel like that's a crime.

I have no clue why I still have the amogus April fools update still copied

10 minutes ago, Isa1116 said:

3 words: I love it. :)

1 minute ago, Keith said:

MARINA AND MY CHEMICAL ROMANCE!!! So cool!! I also love it!!!!

YES >:D Thank you both. Though I have a "Main" playlist, this is the one I listen to the most :]]]] 

5 minutes ago, Isa1116 said:

 

Again, thanks a lot everyone, I think imma take a break from this stuff for a bit. (I'll still be on the website though)

Aight, if you ever need to talk to anyone to get a second opinion; my DMs are always open. <:]

I've been playing a lot of stardew valley, it's a super calming game! Honestly nice to play on switch while in bed. Another one is jackbox and gartic phone! A streamer I watch often plays it with viewers so it gives me a chance to actually play.

OKOKOKOKOKOKOKOKOK SO!!!! I found this video a month or so back, and I think about it a lot cause any time I have any doubt about myself? I think back to this and remember I'm not alone. (I know my experiences don't have to match others perfectly to be lithro, but it still helps!) And knowing that it was released so long ago makes me so happy tbh. SOOO!! I thought I'd share it!! Though the pictures are a liiil slow paced, so just skip ahead a bit if you need to :] 

It's titled as specifically lithromantic.. but! it's mostly a personal playlist, and it's just me projecting-- ANYWAYS!! It has a bunch of aro coded music, and just stuff I feel as I've related to at some point or another in my life. There are some songs I probably should remove cause they don't fit the theme, buuut that's for future me. Anyways, listen to it if you want! 

Yellow

3 hours ago, Isa1116 said:

Thx a lot, this actually really helped :)

I'm still in my crisis but thx :)

The reason I was so excited when I realized I might be a-spec is because I never really knew who I was before so I felt complete almost. But thx.

It's weird. So many different labels make me feel happy, I still am in a gender crisis and idk what my pronouns are.

I feel like if what I think I am now was 'just a phase' then I will have to tell everyone I've already come out to. When I first got my a-spec merch things my brothers made jokes about what would happen if this is just a phase and now I feel like I'm just looking for attention.

 

About the last thing.. Don't listen to your brothers!! They're just upset that you are exploring yourself. It's important to be proud of who you are now! And if you figure out that's not who you are? Then you can look back on it, and see it as a positive thing! All your past identities were a stepping stone to figuring out who you are now, and at this time? The now is all you have to worry about! Not something else at a different time, yeah it's important to figure yourself out! But right now it seems to be causing you stress; take a quick brake! Do a hobby that makes you happy. Once again, you've got this! It's YOUR journey!!! Your brothers should understand that talking like that can be very discouraging. If you feel comfortable with it, you should talk to them about it.. maybe share some resources!

Take your time, aight? It's always okay to take a break.

Horror movies, I watch them and I literally giggle and kick my legs like an 8 y/o at a theme park. 

520 :]

Well, from my experience its when you have a crush but then when there are signs of it being mutual the feeling fades.. it's not JUST when you get in a relationship, in fact, you don't even have to be in a relationship! But with what you are describing, orchidromantic sounds correct! Another thing, if you are worrying about yourself being wrong and worrying that its a lie.. most of the time when you worry about that its a sign that you are right about it!! Having fear that you aren't who you say you are, 99% of the time? It means you're right; I have personal experience with stuff like that. You've got this!! Plus even if it *is* a phase? guess what! That's okay, this is your journey to figure out; take your time! You'll figure everything out in time.

16 hours ago, Nix said:

Welcome! I hope you have a good time here 

Tysm!!!

15 hours ago, Isa1116 said:

Hiii I'm Isa, idk what my pronouns are and it's really nice to meet you! I'm also lithromantic, and I hope you have fun here! :)

:O Lithromantic gang!!! Also thanks ^^

14 hours ago, Keith said:

Hello and welcome on the forum!!

Hihihi!!

Currently laying down in bed under the covers watching TV and eating snacks, and I'm abt to play some games on my switch! It's nice being able to take a day (or in my case night) off!!! I'm also thinking about how I'll be able to dye my hair JUST how I want it in a couple of months at most!!! But yeah, if you're reading this!! Friendly reminder to give yourself a break to lay down, and do things that calm you down. SELF CARE FOR THE WIN!!!!!!!

I'M SO HAPPY FOR YA!! As someone who also has a squish(queer platonic crush) I really hope things go the best for you!!! Its always nice having that one friend that makes you feel SO happy and just has you wanting to give em the biggest longest hug in the entire world.

Before I was out, I just said the long hair irritated me and made me overstimulated! Its more weight, and in hot weather it makes the heat worse; so if you need an excuse, that's the main one I think of.

3 hours ago, PumpkinsLinked said:

Before I was out, I just said the long hair irritated me and made me overstimulated! Its more weight, and in hot weather it makes the heat worse; so if you need an excuse, that's the main one I think of.

I- Just realized how long ago this was posted DFHLFSJLDS

Nonono!! It wouldn't be weird at all!!! if you Identify as cis but you wanna use different pronouns that's 100% fine!!! Pronouns don't equal your identity, and it's your job to choose what makes you comfortable!! Do whatever makes you happy. :] I wish you luck on your journey!! 

I don't wanna fall in love by Addison grace, I think the name of the song is a dead giveaway.. BUT ITS SUCH A GOOD SONG!! I love it, 10/10 would recommend >:] 

3 hours ago, PumpkinsLinked said:

I don't wanna fall in love by Addison grace, I think the name of the song is a dead giveaway.. BUT ITS SUCH A GOOD SONG!! I love it, 10/10 would recommend >:] 

OH AND ONE MORE!!! Call me what you like by lovejoy, I think I'm personally reading it wrong; but I relate to it in my own way! So I think you guys might too ^^

My name is Link and I use They/Xem pronouns, I am Lithromantic and Cupioromantic. I like bartending(as of now I only make mocktails), I am practicing guitar, I do art, and I watch a lot of tv! I came to this site cause it got recommended to me by a counselor to meet more people on the aro spectrum! Also to maybe educate my parents more but that's more of a side project rn jdlsfsjdk. Buuut yeah! That's why I'm here, and I'm glad to be here as well!