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Sure. Having a life partner seems practical and I'd want the legal protection of marriage if we were to combine finances or have a kid. And parties are fun.

Wouldn't be as emotional for me as it is for alloros tho

Maybe, for logistical reasons. If I'm raising kids with someone, I'd like for us to be married so that custody is more secure, and I could see myself being interested in raising kids with a QPP. Similiarly, if a QPP and I decide to combine finances or buy a house or smth, I'd want us to be married for that. I would not marry an alloro person, though.

I like the idea of a life partner, so long as it isn't romantic. And if I have a life partner, marriage gives us a lot of legal rights that are important to me.

Hullo! I'm aroallo but sex-averse and wondering if I'm the only one 😅 Constantly feeling not sexual enough for the allos and too sexual for the aces. Add in that sex-averse allosexuals seems to only pop up as an occasional theoretical in ace discussions, and uh. Feeling very alone. Still struggling to figure out where I fit in, or how to find a relationship type that works for me.

4 minutes ago, Themathlover said:

This is what I think, but it's not as simple as that, in particular when you're just a teenager (I'm 15) and you feel alone in your journey...

Ah, fair enough, being underage does make things more complex. Now's a good time to explore what's available online and do the self reflection and learning that you need to figure out what you want your life to look like. I wish you the best of luck in your journey.

10 minutes ago, Themathlover said:

I definitely want to remain Muslim, at least, at the moment. I've had a period of fluctuations between losing my faith in Islam and strongly feeling it for a certain time because of those expectations you're relating to, and this is uneasy for me. Currently, I feel like the best for me would be to pursue my journey a bit more spiritually, as my community (and the Muslim community in general) hasn't my values and has disappointed me many times. I don't think I belong to it anymore, yet, I don't want to give up my precious relationship with God (I'm talking for myself, not trying to influence anyone) because of them. This makes me feel lonely, of course, it's not as colorful as the LGBTQ+ rainbow flag, I'm just doing my best.

You don't have to leave Islam to leave the community. You can have a relationship with God without following every rule that your community insists on.

Personal experience, I was surrounded by some very conservative Christians growing up. I was told that in order to be Christian, in order to believe in God at all, I had to follow their rules about my life. I was told that any attempt to think for myself was a waste, because ~obviously~ the local church knew better. Then, I started to research religion. I found sects of Christianity that held entirely different values than those I'd been raised with, and I actually found a lot of wisdom from Jewish folks that really resonated with me. I'm not a Christian at the moment, but I was able to choose that for myself, after exploring all the different ways to be Christian, and to be religious in general. Even then, I still believe in and pray to God. I didn't have to give that up, just because I started to explore the possibilities.

I would encourage you to seek out Muslims outside of your community. Some blogs I've found that talk about being Muslim and being queer are hijabi-frog, russianmuslimlesbian and queer-muslim-culture-is.

So I'm not Muslim, but I can try to give advice. For starters, you're never obligated to come out. Never. Your identity is yours alone, and you definitely shouldn't feel pressure to come out if it'd put you at risk. Do you want to stay in your community and follow those expectations? You don't have to.

The emotional bond in a marriage doesn't have to be romantic. There should be trust and care for each other, but romantic love isn't a requirement. The prevalence of arranged marriages in history and in current day, would offer some societal assurance for that stance. I've not encountered any Muslim sources that indicate otherwise, either. Marriage is a partnership, a lifelong commitment, and the exact reason you're getting into it is much less relevant than the action itself. If you think you could go along with the romantic aspects of a marriage and be happy in it, then you can do that. If you don't think you'd be happy, then you can focus on what would make you happy, and what it'd take to make it happen.

Hello! I'm also a nonbinary lesbian :D

Check the box. The identity is absolutely yours to claim. Even if later your identity changes, at this moment in time it's what fits. And that's all that matters.

Hi! I'm aroallo but sex-averse. Found this place through the AVEN forums and thought it'd make more sense for me to be here lol. Also trying out the demiplatonic label. I'm autistic (probably, I think, at least I have a lot of the traits and no better explanation) so I tend to process attraction and relationships differently to most. Mainly looking for community, and a place to talk about my identity and also hear about others' experiences.

I haven't personally witnessed you reading every text ever written, so you have unsubstantial evidence for your claim.

Our counting system should be base 12.

Yum!

Black olives

But you can't have any voice as "muscle-memory'; you have to consciously decide how to present your voice every time you speak and it never feels like yours.

I can see all wavelengths of light, from radio to gamma rays.