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12 hours ago, hemogoblin said:
Different person than who you asked, but in my case, it wasn't. There's only so much compromising someone can do before they lose who they are - and that's not a healthy relationship. Is it POSSIBLE that there's an acceptable amount of compromise people can do to keep each other in their lives in a committed, intimate relationship? Of course. Billions of people are doing it everyday. And is it possible for aspec people to hold committed, intimate relationships with allo folk? Sure! Not all of these relationships (including not all alloXallo relationships) will work, but it's certainly within the realm of theoretical possibility that they can. But only you and your partner can decide if you can accept each other's differences and be happy with that in a relationship or if the differences are too big and are an incompatibility. At the end of the day, a relationship should make you feel happy, accepted, and supported. Conflict will happen but a relationship should not be full of strife. As much as you may care for another person, you both deserve to be happy at the end of the day. Good luck!
Thanks for this. I guess I know this, but needed to hear it from someone else if that makes sense. Time to talk to my partner and we'll have to see how compatible we are...
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On 2/4/2023 at 8:34 AM, SpectralWizard said:
my romantic relationships were all pretty short-lived. Almost invariably my partners felt that I didn't feel the same way about them as they felt about me or that I "couldn't meet their needs". Around the time my last such relationship ended i became acquainted with aro/ace spaces and found that a lot of the pieces fit. Part of me questioned whether this was simply bitterness over the breakup but after 5 years i'm quite sure its not.
Hey can I ask you something? I'm currently in a serious relationship and only recently learned that I might be arospec. For a while we have been having issues which basically come down to having different needs, as you described. Is it possible in your opinion to continue a relationship like that? I'm worried that accepting that I'm aro immediately means the relationship is over. And because I've just been learning about all this recently it all feels sudden and confusing
What made you question(?) if you were aromantic?
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Wow it's impressive how well put together your thoughts on this are. You sound very mature. Good luck on your journey.