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On 4/28/2024 at 5:14 AM, P4R4D0X said:

Oh, btw, the Nordic countries are really cool about just LGBTQIA+ in general. Iceland had the first *openly* gay head of government.

Finland had a gay man run for president this year

Det är ovanligt att se aromantiska nämnas någonstans

21 hours ago, nonmerci said:

I just got banned from reddit for 7 days cause they think this term is encouraging division in the community

Yeah, I wrote a very long rant just to have it removed because I said that I'm "fully aromantic" to specify my label :/

Hello! I also figured out I'm aromantic around the age of 14 or 15. I called myself ace when I was 10 because I didn't like anyone, though I didn't know about the aro label. It's stuck with me since and I haven't had to change it.

I thought I had a crush around 13-14 and called it that mistakenly but it was some sort of platonic attraction after all. I first looked into microlabels like aegoromantic, greyromantic, biromantic, lithromantic etc. before I realized I'm just aro. I have faked one crush in the past to 'fit' in which I guess is kind of common?

I've only come out to my closest friend, and I didn't really initiate it. She told me she likes guys and asked about me. I said I don't like anyone and told her I'm aroace. I don't plan on coming out to my mom before I'm 18, and that's only about a year away. I'm most likely not telling my dad or my sibling or other family members. Come out when and if you want to, no pressure or rush!

I was thinking about a guy I 'liked' and thought "hey but I don't actually want to kiss or date this person..."

"...wait, what was that one label again?"

I'd rather not kiss anyone. Not even a small peck on the cheek or hand

Don't fall in love - Danko jones

Never been in love - Will Jay

Kalmia kid - chloe moriondo

46 minutes ago, Holmbo said:

Also what is "aged based arophobia?"

I'd think it's the "you're too young" argument that's used sometimes when a younger person comes out as aro

One time I dreamed of getting a very specific grade from a test. Later that day I checked it, and boom. I actually got the grade in my dream from the test. Maybe it was a strong gut feeling, idk

I've only come out to my closest friend, but I believe it still counts

She used to tease me about me liking certain boys at our school and even shipping me with them. When I came out, it stopped right away. I told her that I don't like it, and she listened to me, which was nice. So, for me it was definitely for the better.

I had an alterous kinda crush on a total stranger at my school because we had some shared interests. Never spoke a word to them though. That actually helped me realize I am aro: the one time I had a "crush" I didn't even want to date them

False, my life is very bland

TPBM can juggle

False

TPBM has read any book by George Orwell

False

TPBM likes birds

False, sadly

TPBM likes some sort of winter/snow activity (ice hockey, skating, skiing etc)

I'm offended by that dry "lol"

True

TPBM collects cool rocks

So I just wanted to share a little bit of how I discovered I was aro. Not a vent or rant.

When I was 13-14 I suddenly somehow caught feelings for a random stranger. During that time I was straight ace. It kinda confused me because I had never felt like that before and I realized that when walking to school behind said person, lol.

That started my questioning. I wasn't entirely sure about my romantic orientation because I hadn't given it much thought. I went through a ton of labels, including biromantic, grey biromantic, lithromantic, greyaromantic, heteromantic, aegoromantic, and others. I think during the autumn of 8th grade (I was 14) I told my friend about the thing and she of course assumed it was a crush, but I said I don't want anything romantic with the person. She kept teasing me about it and I kinda felt like I was supposed to date them, but I never did and I kinda pushed the thing aside until the winter of 9th grade, when I was 15. During that time I did a lot of questioning again and I found the label "aromantic". I just thought "yes, that's me" because all feelings I've ever had for a real or fictional "crush" were less than romantic. I came out to my friend as aroace, which I talked about here. (All times I mention "friend" it's the same person).

Now in high school and after turning 16 I've considered myself aegoromantic again. I'm not as repulsed by romantic media as I was before, but I still don't feel any attraction. I barely ever see the person I "liked" anymore and I can go weeks without thinking of them. My friend has dated some people and we've actually discussed alloromanticism and aromanticism, because she's very romantic and I am very not romantic.

Yeah, that's how I figured out I'm not allo

False 

TPBM likes noodles

I got a full score on my English finals last spring

Dear Dictator by Saint Motel. Absolutely amazing

Rain world. I'm also playing Hollow knight (even though I have max completion percentage already) because I love the bug game

I'd say to cut your hair short if you want. I also have plans to look more androgyne, so I'm cutting my hair short and mostly wearing unisex clothes. I don't use makeup so I don't know about that. For binding you could use sports bras? Two of them on top of each other is good, if they let you move normally and aren't too tight

4 hours ago, SwiftySpeedy said:

so is it non-binary?

or something else that I don't really understand.

Non-binary falls under the trans umbrella, because usually enby individuals identify as something else than cis. With absgender I personally feel that my gender consists of some parts of my AGAB but some other major factors that don't make me demigender. It's hard to explain how I feel but I'm just somewhere inbetween cis and trans