Cloud

16 hours ago, nonmerci said:

In these cases I would be very prosaic and directly ask "how does slot body parts together cure naivety" (maybe even more prosaic lol). I probably won't get an answer but it will be fun to embarrass them.

HAHAHA that's a good one 

2 hours ago, nonmerci said:

Nobody said it to my face (closer I get was on the internet, someone argue that you can't know your body if you never had sex ). But if someone says that to me, I ask them to give me a full essay on why romance and sex is essential to grow up, hoping they discover how non-sensical it is in the process.

I've had people that have implied it while talking to me, like not say it straight up but implying I didn't know an essential part of life. that or treat me like I'm naive just because I don't give a damn about sex😒

On 12/18/2022 at 1:38 AM, EternallyTBD said:

and I’m always scared that if I never feel romantic or sexual love or attraction I’ll be as childish as I am and they’ll grow up without me no matter what my friend promises me 

this is a stereotype I've been dealing with a lot of time. there will be people that treats you like a child because you haven't had a romantic or sexual relationship, but really they should know better. its just nonsense, maturity doesn't have anything to do with those experiences, believe me

oh I've been there. the "sexually attracted to someone so I told everybody I had a crush so I could feel that I'm like everyone else". 100% has happened to me. I even told my parents about it

as acecream has said, I can't tell you if you are aro or not but you should look up queer platonic relationships. you may not fall in love with sarah but you can attempt to have that kind of relationship with them. also, you can do "romantic" things like hugging or kissing without being romantically attracted to them. 

I know aromantic is a hard romantic orientation and there isnt a lot of information about it, but things will get better. I was scared when I found out too and there are hard days because I'm still figuring things out (I discovered it only some months ago), but aromanticism has also make me value a lot more platonic and familial love. I know that in this society being in love romantically with someone seems like the best that could happen to you, but there are A LOT of wonderfull kinds of love that are also beautiful and worth your time and energy

On 12/23/2022 at 2:23 AM, DeltaAro said:

Hi! First Cloud I meet after Cloud Strife

HAHAH didn't really think about it!! cloud is just a pun with my real name

ooh thanks to both of you!! I will try what you have told me c:

3 hours ago, ChimaeraNinde said:

Soy de Madrid 😊 de qué parte eres tú?

yo también!!! :O conoces si hay en Madrid algún grupo de aros o algo así? me gustaría mucho conocer gente aro en la vida real🥺

omg hii I'm Spanish too

Te importa si te pregunto de que parte eres? no hace falta que me contestes si no te sientes cómoda c:

6 hours ago, Arden said:

 

My first piece of advice is to talk to your friends about it. Tell them what you are scared about. Like for me, talking to my friends made me realised that they are the biggest allies ever. Some dumb little straight people tried to put themselves into my painful position and work out solutions. It may be that they can't do much, and you can't ever ask them to sacrifice their romantic love: but at least they're aware what position you are in. Make it clear to them that you'd never ask them to pick between people, but merely just letting them know what your position and feelings are. 

 

They already know I'm aroace because I told them just as soon as I knew. They kind of had a feeling before I even realised it myself, because I always told them how I had this "crush" with a girl I met but I didn't want to get involved in a romantic relationship with her (turns out it was a squish) or how I am not attracted to anyone in the movies... well they know me well enough

I know I need to speak to them, but I'm thinking how to do it because they are the best people I know and I don't want to pressure them or make them think they need to sacrifice something because of me. But I will figure it out with time I hope

6 hours ago, Arden said:

 

My second and best piece of advice: QUEER PLATONIC RELATIONSHIPS 🥳. There is something as a queer platonic relationship. Maybe you've heard about it, or maybe you haven't but honestly, if you communicate with your partner it is honestly the best thing ever. I had a decently close friend who was aroace like me and I asked her a BUNCH of questions about being aromantic since she was the only other person I knew and then we bonded over smaller things, and now she is literally my closest friend, and we're considering getting into a queer platonic relationship. I experience the best label for it is 'alterous' and it's basically in between platonic and romantic feelings for her, and she feels strong platonic attraction. We've been discussing how scared we both are to end up alone in the world, and from there we just sort of stemmed this bond and now we're in the process of working out through stuff but honestly, even if it doesn't work out with her, I'll still try to get into a queer platonic relationship. You could always try to get involved in social media groups, or find local aroace (or just aro) people through meeting sites etc. It's always a good shout. 

 

About this, I reaaally would like to have one but I don't know any aro people irl :( I know I could have one with someone who's not aro but I don't want to engage in a platonic relationship with someone that later on will not be down for it. I have a really strong platonic attraction towards people I'm interested in so I don't want this happening again

But one of the main reasons of starting on this forum is to know more aro people. I also want to meet aro people irl but since I'm more of an introvert I'm doing this slowly lol. However, do you know meeting sites for aro people? I am really interested in those👀

I'm really really thankful for your advice, it has gave me some kind of hope that I am not going to feel forever like this so thank you c:

11 hours ago, Storm_leopardcat said:

Hey there, Cloud! Welcome to Arocalypse! Hope you enjoy it here, and meet tons of aro-spec people, and perhaps become friends with (If that's something you want!

Sure!!! I really want to meet more aro people

Hii I'm cloud. I'm 21 and I use she/her pronouns. I don't usually meet people online and I like being quiet in my social media, so it's kind of my first time trying to join a community online c:

Okay so, I'm aroace on the gray spectrum. I'm gratefully surrounded by queer people irl but I don't know any aro people and talking to my friends or family about this is awkward sometimes, specially since I don't understand a lot of things because I discovered I'm aro just a few months ago. I hope I can learn more about myself here!!

Anyways, I have a lot of hobbies and they change every other week, but to sum it up I like cooking, video games, watching series, reading books, webcomics and manga aaand I love spending cuality time with my loved ones c:

Nice to meet y'all ✌

Kind of a sad post, sorry. I'm just lost.

I love my best friends. I have two of them and I have thought of them as my soul mates since a very long time. Of course, I have never felt romantic or sexual attraction towards them. But when I discovered I was aroace I also realized I am in love with them platonically. But it hurts. 

You see, they both have partners and although they have told me our friendship is first I can't get over the idea of being abandoned. It's just that everyone around me has always said that having a romantic partner is like the biggest achievement of our life.

So when I think of the future I wish for my best friends to live with me, even raise a family together. But that won't be it, right? They will form a family with their partners and I will live alone and I need to come to terms with that but I don't know how. 

I have just came from a movie night with them and their partners and I feel miserable. I enjoyed being with them and I love that they have invited me because they have thought of me to watch this movie. But it hurts to know I won't be anyone's priority ever. 

Sorry, I know this is long, it's just that I don't know any aro people irl so I don't have anyone to talk about this stuff.