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I reckon I've always been kinda anti-touch. I'd say that if I knew someone well enough, I'd be better at it, but nope even with my friends I get a bit uncomfortable. BUT the worst thing is like I'd always want to hold hands with people and be all cuddly, but I just get awkward and panicky.

13 hours ago, hemogoblin said:

Ah, but have they been romantic for 2 - 3 years? While a romantic relationship is not "more" or "better" or a relationship and friendship isn't "lesser", the two are different, and when those transitions are being made, people involved in them do start seeing each other differently. There's different feelings behind their interactions. Things you always found annoying can become cute in the honeymoon stage. Things that never mattered in the friendship can become grating or annoying while dating. It's why people aren't automatically compatible in any type of relationship just because they get along on a casual manner. Friends can be amazing friends but totally terrible together in a sexual and/or romantic sense. Sexual partners may have wonderful sexual compatibility but not work in a platonic or romantic sense. Transitioning from friends to romantic can still bring out that cheesiness.

(Sorry, yeah, Who is one of the fandoms I've never gotten into.)

Don't worry!!! I suppose Doctor Who (especially the 1963-89 run) is kinda niche to people nowdays :)

No, these characters previously didn't have a romantic relationship, more so everynow and then the Doctor would pop up and help the Brigadier with alien issues.

Its only really at the point where the Doctor has been exile to earth that the two characters have become more connected.

Really getting into writing it, almost at the love confession...

PS ummm so I was on this forum on my old practically deceased chromebook, so that it can go igcognito (no browser history) and it crashed and won't turn on. Lets just hope none of my family try and turn it on and it works :D

Well I suppose this story will be the defining answer to my storytelling abilities! These characters have known eachother for about 2-3 years now (well technically they've only met twice before the Doctor is forced to stay on earth and becomes more involved with the Brigadier, but still...) Trying to reformat it so I can get more used to writing dialogue, plus its in the style of the 1970s, one is a military officer, and the other is an alien, so I don't suppose its the most traditional story. Thing is, one of the characters, (The Doctor) can change his face to avoid death. Makes relationships rather difficult, but I suppose this will only be about the Brigadier's feelings towards the Third version of the Doctor so I dunno how much I'll involve that whole thing. 

Terribly sorry lol I'm in ANOTHER Doctor Who phase (they come and go every couple of months), and I will use any excuse to just overexplain it. Any other Doctor Who fans on this forum?

How on earth do you write romance fanfiction???

I'm trying to write a Doctor Who romance story on ao3 (Third Doctor/The Brigadier, yes classic Who is good), and I thought, how hard could it be? Very. I just keep describing the characters history, and like sorta all that stuff. But I've never been good at dialogue and how the hell do I convey attraction through a character observing another character's appearance. Like yes I know the Third Doctor is like a silver fox and a smooth talker and whatever etc, but how do I make it not sound sooo cheesy??

For example, this is some of what I've got 'It started with small looks, at first only of gratitade and respect, but then slowly developing into affection and trust', 'His mid-length grey curls and velvet coats made him seem like an action hero, especially with all the running and saving the world he did. It made the Brigadier both in of his achivements, and also his dashing and loyal attitude'

Yes I know I already can't write stories/fanfiction to save my life, but omg romance is definatley not a strong point. Any sort of advice would be cool, I think I'm gonna try again in the morning.

BTW for context, these characters are not together in canon, but are work colleueges/defenders of earth from aliens. Also its the 1970s.

Probably not the best place to ask for advice, but at least some people may be able to relate to my struggles!!

PS does this count as off topic? Couldn't really find an active area to post this, plus just I need general advice on how to write any part of fanfiction lol

Update: lets just say this last month has been a mix of anxiety induced debate over if im actually aroace which i know is all in my head and kinda hope it stops one day. Celebrated my bday which was nice. So yeah ive really been trying to fully accept this, and i was okay with it, until today.

Sooo i came out to cat lol (dont worry hes chill), just so i could test out these words and phrases to myself. Then today i was walking home from school with a friend and we were talking about the future and relationships and stuff. Thats okay, then i sorta told her that yknow romance is good and all but the reality is just not appealing. I figured i could come out to her without reprecussions because i knew she would be chill and shes more of a distant but still close friend nowdays. I mentioned the book loveless and its subject in passing, then when we continued talking about this kind of stuff, i told her that i think im aromantic asexual. She was sooo nice and just accepting of it which made me feel happy.

But now at home, its kinda made me think. i guess that saying it to an actual person reminded me that this is real, and this will be my life. So now im sorta going through this mini crisis thats like omg this is happening, and also my mind constantly telling myself that i was kidding and i could fall in love one day (nah). I think i never really considered how it would just affect me being out. im not sure if i wanna come out to my friend group, they are all LGBTQ, but i like how things are and i dont want to feel, not the odd one out, but some indescribable outcast in a way i suppose.

So yeah, im coping both really well, and coping rubbishly. Had to write an english mock essay on Romeo's love in Romeo and Juliet, so fun... 

But yeah life update. Sorry if this is too long and hard to explain, just felt i needed to tell someone, and why not loads of interent strangers? :)

12 minutes ago, AroAcedragon13 said:

probably a daisy or a dahlia

Nice!! The pink is sooo nice

2 minutes ago, -Veet-Voojagig said:

Good plant favorites 💚

Succulent plants. They're green, require very little water, find them fascinating.

I especially like my rubber succulent plant because: 1.) It's immortal 2.) Goes great with my desk skull.

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Yeah try telling m sister that... shes killed at LEAST 5 succulents so we don't trust her with organic life anymore

Yeah fake plants are great, no liability or responsiblilty

Personally, I like stuff like roses and poppies and also purple fuscsias or more shrubbery stuff like lavender and lilac! I also love ferns for fav plant.

I love roses because idk they're pretty and come in loads of cool colours like pink and red. Poppies share the name with my previous cat, and we grow fuscsias and lavender/lilac in our garden every year, as well as red and yellow tulips. My mum is obsessed with ferns and they're just kinda cool ig.

Just thought it would be interesting to see everyone's favourites and the reasoning behind them, either great significance and symbolism, or its kinda pretty!

15 hours ago, Guest Phoebe said:

For about a year now i have been debating whether i am aroace, but tonight everything just kinda snapped into place ig. I always thought i developed crushes on legolas or draco malfoy, but im thinking that that was more aesthetic attraction overall. Every time there were new people and classes in my school, i scouted out for a potential love interest, found one who looking back on i never interacted with or truly cared about and forgot about over time. I LOVE romantic comedies but ive realised that it wasnt the characters not being attractive that confused my perception of it, but me just not being attracted to them. Gotta thank Alice Oseman's Loveless which really brought this to light for me. Sorry for ranting just kinda excited. So yeah im pretty sure thats me. Knew there was a reason i always felt a bit lost talking about romance in lessons or with friends.

Hiiiii!! That was me just testing the waters, now im obsessed with this site and will be staying here for quite a while i think!