Jirago

This is a really good point actually. I think that really settles it.

2 hours ago, Apex said:

Were you romantically attracted to/infatuated with her at some point, and it just never turned into anything "more"? Did it fade over time, or did you not feel romantic attraction at all?

I really liked her because we had a lot in common, but looking back I think from my side it was more of a "friend with benefit" relationship (which I didn't realise at the time, and when I did I broke up with her).

2 hours ago, Apex said:

In regards to the depression, have you had any treatment for it? If so, did your symptoms improve? Because if they did, but you still had a lack of attraction, then I'd say it's probably not your depression

Yep I am currently taking a treatment, but I am not feeling any change, but I will not bother with this because I do not feel like this is the right place. Also I do not know for how long I have been depressed, but again I don't remember having a crush on anyone as a child.

2 hours ago, Apex said:

But either way, if you don't feel romantic attraction then you can call yourself aromantic. Even if it is a symptom of your depression. If calling yourself aro feels right to you, then you can use the label. Cuddling also doesn't have to be inherently romantic, a lot of aro spectrum people like to cuddle.

Those are both things that are really good to know. I guess from now on I will refer to me as aro.

 

26 minutes ago, sevan said:

i didnt notice that and i thought i read that you were afab. i got that wrong and i apologize

No problems really.
 

26 minutes ago, sevan said:

strictly aromantic til proven otherwise then. idk about the bond thing so im not going to say anything about it but thats all the labels i can recommend to you

Thanks again for your time and help. I will look into that.

43 minutes ago, sevan said:

you didnt specify whether you are sexually attracted to your sex partners. if not then youre just a sex favorable ace but if you do youre probably homosexual

 

I wasnt clear, I was born a male and still identifies as one. Did you mean heterosexual ?

45 minutes ago, sevan said:

demisensual and aromantic perhaps?

I can feel sensual attraction to people i dont know, I can find someone hot and want to have sex with that personn, but that's about how far my emotions can go.

47 minutes ago, sevan said:

requisromantic it is

The thing is that I dont recall having any sorts of romantic attraction at any given moment of my childood/life


I also forgot to mention I have a strong bond with my friends, but close to not at all with my family, except from knowing them.

Anyway thks a lot for your time and attention

Hello everyone,
I have always wonder what crushs are or how I should identify them. From 14 to 15 years old, I wondered if I was bi cause I did not feel having any attraction to girls (in a romantic way) or boys, and I thaught it was supposed to happen. After a few experiences, I realised that I did enjoy sex or any derivative, but only with girls, which put this out of the way. I have had a girlfriend in my 16-18 but I left her because I did not fell "in love" with her. Moreover I realised recently (I'm now in my 20es) that I wasn't really looking to date anyone to date.

The thing is I really like to cuddle, and I know I can only do it with someone that feels close to me, and I had a few sex-friends in the last years, but never a romantic partner.

The other thing I am asking myself is that I have been diagnosed with depression (currently under treatment) and I know that lack of romantic attraction is one of the symptoms.

So I came here today to try to find myself out, maybe with your help ^^.

Thanks for reading (sorry if my english is bad, it is not my original language), and thanks a lot if you consider answering.