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I had a lot of Pokemon drawings and posters, I still do, various drawings and a little banner that said it could be worse.

I agree, I do not like how when people are babies they are immediately put into blue or pink clothing, why! I am female, but I normally wear clothes that are more masculine, currently I am wearing a bowtie.

On 6/14/2021 at 1:54 PM, mewix said:

I want some advice on counteracting gender stereotypes/accepted fashion on clothing and presentation. Basically I feel like there is pressure to dress and present a certain way.

From family or even some friends (tho I ended up cutting of one of those people for a different reason) who don't support the way. Sure they can't pressure you into stuff but the stuff they say it kinda seeps in after a while.

And the thing about bot dressing well enough gets to me, like I would never dress the way others say I should I find it disgusting tbh (no offense to them just to me) but I feel like I could do better so I internalise the feeling.

I don't have any friends who would help me locate clothing tho to my taste. I guess there is online but idk the most popular sites don't have a lot I like to my gender at least tho I could get the opposite sex clothing (I guess clothing is neutral technically) but there is a problem with sizes and I dunno about bagging clothing, and it doesn't necessarily mean I will like it. I guess if I was clever I could make clothing but nah haha. Online is kinda risky tho cuz things don't fit and my parents dun like the idea of returning stuff for some reason, I got some cheap tshirt online b4 but its way too small and weird fabric.

I also dunno about spending so much for something that in the end is just there to cover my body ya know lol. I guess I wouldn't mind paying more if it means a fairer wage for the person who made it and something that lasts longer (throwaway fashion sucks) but I dont really care about designer brands for the sake of it. I guess tho maybe I should if it means I could get something but I feel like people wont care either way and I guess I will still get pressure maybe even more if I dressed how I liked.

With make up I know many countries don't or are much lower on it however I see many women in my country absolutely caked in it.

I have not worn such before apart from once a bit of lipstick and eye stuff for a fashion show but not because I wanted but not more than that. I don't really care generally but it kinda is annoying how judgemental people are or forcing their tastes on you.

I don't need to wear it fortunately for my job, but I would never want to either for any job lol. I think it's sad tho that its almost seen as required in many cases, like do all female entrepreneurs really have to dress that way like surely beauty is not the asset they are trying to sell in that case. It's also very double standard and often doesn't work the other way. It would be fine as optional just not compulsory or pretend optional. I wouldn't like to go to a dressy party or whatever either for that reason.

I feel like I am not allowed to dress how I like and be who I wanna be get what I mean? It sucks on top of everything else I have to think about. I guess it's a very minor thing but it's on my mind and it's annoying me a lot. Btw i don't want to dress weirdly or anything just simple is fine. It's just kinda hard for me I dunno why, even when I lived alone I didnt enjoy or really look for anything and I feel trapped and even more now, you cant even go out and buy anything. 

 

On 2/17/2022 at 3:12 PM, blueberrydragon said:

I ID as aegosexual, and I really relate to this experience. It made me unsure of my ace-ness for a little while because I thought being extremely repulsed was a requirement. 

I am ageosexual too. I agree, I also thought being sex repulsed was required.

I learned about asexual first, but I still thought something was missing, then I leaned about being aromantic through Google searches and I knew that sounded like me, yeah.

I agree! whenever the romance part unfortunately happens in a book I would, and still do read it as fast as possible to get it over with.

Is the universe alive? 

On 9/3/2022 at 3:16 PM, nonmerci said:

Is it weird that it givese ideas for writing stories ? That would be a fun plot.

To save the people from the romanciverse, our aromantic heroes decide to use the force of chaos and black matter and destroy gravity.

 

I suppose it means Defying gravity is the aro musical song (Elphaba and Glinda are already in a QPR, right ?).

That would be an awsome story! I am writing it right now!

On 8/30/2022 at 4:21 PM, Guest Anonymous said:

Yes, I have had something like that. I am new to this stuff,what is a squish?

I m bad at explaining but, so a squish is like a crush, but without the romantic attraction, IDK.

I just realized what a squish is and a lot of things make sense now.

I never thought about romance or any of that stuff when I was a kid. Then in 6th grade my friend got a boyfriend and I was completely shocked, I thought people only did that in college! I also was completely oblivious to crushes, bored with romance, and I never had a crush, I just never saw myself having a romantic partner or getting married. I still think, Whaaat!? when someone tells me or mentions anything related to romance, weather it is crushes, it I have one, romantic partners, planning/wanting to get married, everything romance and sexual. It is all just crazy!

On 4/8/2016 at 5:06 AM, Cassiopeia said:

You might be aro if you mistook sexual, aesthetic or sensual attraction for a crush.

 

You might be aro if you thought romantic feelings described by others must be exaggerated.

 

You might be aro if you never notice when someone has a crush on you, unless someone points it out to you.

 

You might be aro if you broke somebody's heart by accident, even without realizing it, simply because you underestimated the intensity of their feelings.

 

You might be aro if you felt suffocated and overwhelmed in a romantic relationship.

 

You might be aro if the pet names people gave to their partners, always felt artificial and ridiculous to you.

I relate to all but one of these. 

On 9/1/2022 at 5:58 PM, roboticanary said:

set your hair on fire and run around screaming. also throw toasters at people.

 

ok serious answer, don't do that. its not a good idea to make yourself less attractive to other people just so they dont try anything romantic.

I love the fire toaster idea! I have had this experience multiple times with people who have liked me, looking back it was really obvious they liked me, but I do not pay attention to romance! Politely saying you do not feel the same is normally what I do. And if that does not work, then light you hair on fire and throw toasters!

*rides a dragon* save the world!

I know nothing about romance, so take this with a grain of salt. when I have aesthetic attraction to someone, or just think they are really cool. To be sure, I will look up on Google how to know if you like someone, or something like that. Then I will think about them a lot and compare my feelings about them with other things, for example recently it was a favorite song played in public. Hope this this helps.

I agree, I have had people who I was obsessed over, but only in a platonic way.  

On 8/22/2022 at 11:07 PM, AroAcedragon13 said:

I love this meme!

I would imagine the couple kissing and then the badass character pushing them apart and telling them they have more pressing matters. I would totally read a story with a character like that!

I have not read it yet, but To Be or Not To Be, by Ryan North has asexual characters in it.

Maybe you could try bringing up other interests your friends have, so they talk about something else? 

I never paid much attention, but some were around 8, and most started in middle school.

On 7/15/2022 at 9:17 PM, Guest uWu said:

when i was in grade 6 i had a friend and nothing would stop our friends from shipping us until i ignored them do that

I had the same experience.

yup.

I do not think my friends even know that being aro/ace is a thing. I go to a small catholic school, so they do not teach us about LGBTQIA+. And now a boy in my class has a crush on me and it is incredibly annoying and awkward. Everyone ships us, And I did not even know what shiping was until a couple weeks ago! I thought they were actually talking about ships that go on the water.

I do not know anyone who is on the ace spectrum too. Sometimes I forget other people are like me, and it makes you feel sort of alone.

I wonder, would it be the same with a split tongue, or would it actually help you eat ice cream?

there is a boy in my class who has a crush on me, so it is really awkward. My class does not know I am aro ace.