YokaiDisarray

I am 1000000% sure I'm asexual

I would love to as a symbol of how much I love my friends and whatnot. And also tax/medical/etc reasons.

Another one of the super obvious signs was how anytime someone had a crush on me, my first and immediate thought was, "How??? Why???"

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Yoooooooo! That's beautiful! :0

True!

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I felt it once in middle school yeaaaaars ago, and from what I remember, it was this very blushy, "gotta look cool gotta always impress this fella" feeling? Like I would short circuit any time we hung out and I was p much like "pretty boy I want to be around so much hes so pretty and cool"

Been through super similar. I've always had obsessions with fictional characters, but after like 19 years I realized they were almost all either me being a massive fan of the character, thinking they had a cool design/and or personality, or wanting some kind of queerplatonic thing--or even all of that. For me it wasn't a matter of "suddenly" becoming pure allo, it was a matter of recognizing what my feelings actually were. Even if you do discover you can have romantic feelings once or twice, you can still be aro. Gray-aro and demiromantic are things that are 100% still aro.

I love platonic/joke flirting so much. I'll be like "Omg I love you so much tee hee *buries 300 gold bars in your backyard and places a maker on your mini map*" and just more increasingly bizarre phrases like "Omg sotrue bestie im gonna go feral and hide in ur vents ^w^!" My friends find it funny and we generally say things like that to each other a lot lmao. Its such a bizarrely pleasant back-and-fourth with increasingly absurd ways to tell friends how much I love them lol

Its always said in the most genuine, wacky way possible

43 minutes ago, bat said:

I actually really enjoy games where you can romance characters. I like it because it's not real, more like roleplaying for me. I can have my little fictional romance then close the game and not think about it until next time I play.

I just really like fictional romance in general, so long as it's done well.

Oh same!

I quite like games with romantic elements, even if I don't really relate to those things. Can make dynamics pretty interesting when done right. Only thing I hate is when you don't want to be with a certain character, but you still wanna learn more about them, but the extra info is only unlocked via pursuing them romantically >.>' or if a certain pairing is pushed super hard even when it doesn't make sense and or you despise the game's love interest (the sheer amount of games where I just despised the main love interest...).

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There is no "old enough" to know your orientation. I knew I was asexual at 11, and at 19 I learned I was aromantic. Some people find out super early, some people find out super late. It varies from person to person, and theres no "right" age to discover parts of your identity.

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Made this when I was realizing I was aroace~! 

Theres a waaaaaaaaay higher quality ver on my DA but the file is too big for here ^^'

You can't have a conscious effect on whether or not you feel romantic attraction. It just physically doesn't work like that, there have been many, maaaaaany times in history where people tried to change how one's attraction works. It's a physically impossible thing.

That being said, even if you feel romantic attraction maybe once ever, you would still be aromantic. Aromantic means little to no romantic attraction. Which means even if you've felt it maybe once or twice, you're still on the aromantic spectrum, even if you're not 1000000% unable to feel romantic attraction. I've had maybe one actual romantic crush in my whole life, and none before or after that. I still identify as aromantic because the chances of me feeling anything like that for another person are smaller than winning the lottery.

And the truth is, people are rarely 100% of their identity, especially when they're younger (but it even happens w the older folk). Took me until this year (I am 19) to even consider the fact that I am aromantic, despite identifying as gay for yeaaaars. Nothing can be 10000% set in stone in life, and honestly the best thing to do is just explore and do whatever you feel is right for yourself.

False, never have and don't really have plans to do so ^^'

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Not really. I still get all fanboy-y about fictional romance, even if I can't really relate to it. It's sorta comparable to like, liking weapons in videogames and hating weapons irl. I am not the biggest fan when it comes to me in real life but damn do I like watching it in a story (if its good lol).

INTJ and aroace! INTJs are supposedly bad at romance which is! Hilariously ironic in a way lmao

Art is a major thing for me, and so is writing. I will never physically grow tired of art and writing, its literally impossible. Even after the hundreds upon hundreds of poems, drawings, comics, characters, and whatnot that ive made, I continue to never grow tired. I always have ideas and a drive to create.

Also fallout.

-Was always like "why should I care?" In elementary school when people were like "omg I have a crush on this person!!! shhhh dont tell them!!!"
-When I had ""crushes"" it was really moreso "I think this person is super cool and I love them in a friendly sense." I did have maybe 1 actual crush in my whole life though lol. I thought I was bi for awhile cause I had a ""crush"" on a girl in elementary school because I thought she was SUPER cool and wanted to be her friend.
 -Always was like "Aren't we a little too young for that :/" when people talked about dating at school. It would annoy me because of it, I was like "we should be 16 at least!!! come on guys" (and when I was 16 I was like "dating should be done much older" lol)
-Didn't get how my friends and acquaintances could be blinded by romantic feelings to the point where they ignored red flags. Didn't get why they were so mad at me for pointing out the things wrong with their partner either, I just couldn't understand why they thought like that.
-Always thought I just had "SUPER high standards"
-Despite how much I love romance and fluffy stories, the actual thought of me in a relationship based in reality and not fictional characters always had me like "?How would that even work? Like...ew? Why would I even want that? Maybe in the far, faaaaar future maybe...?"
-Always felt a little weirded out when people would talk in depth about their feelings for real people. I'd be like "God I'd be super offended if people thought about me like that. Maybe a little flattered if they thought I was handsome and cool but beyond that is weird."
-Any time someone confessed their crush on me I'd be beyond confused. I'd always be like "Why? We aren't that close. You don't know me well so how could you feel that way about me? We're too young anyways." Didn't realize how crushes worked. At all.

So yeah im surprised i didnt realize sooner lmao

Elementary school. My first and likely one of the only crushes in my life was in middle school. Sorta had a half crush in elementary school (wasn't sure if it was platonic or not, looking back at it). I remember everyooooneeeee being like "ohhh I bet so and so likes so and so!!! omg i have a crush on so and so" and whatnot.

I mean its still part of the aro spectrum, so yeah.

When I hear people genuinely describe celebrities and whatnot as sexually attractive and I'm just confused like, "???Why would you think about them like that???"

I'd usually consider crushes to mean like romantic attraction, but there's also platonic crushes