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11 hours ago, Arsenic said:

Imagine that we were actually planning to be aro scouts. I mean, imagine that we all lived in a tiny house in a forest, and prepared garlic bread on our own, and made uniforms, and had a lot of plants (because living in a forest is not enough green)...

That is the best idea ever, omg, that's it, I'm packing my bags and leaving! TO THE FOREST!!!

What is your ethnicity/culture? Did living in that kind of environment affect the way you view romantic and sexual attraction? Was the narrative of getting married and/or raising a family pushed on you because of this?

Sign me up zir!

Ay another teen aro coming your way!

These are some things my parents told me when I told them I was aromantic.

• "You've had crushes on guys though?"- First off, aromanticism is a spectrum, so some people can still technically have the possibility of feeling romantic attraction, but have found the label that truly fits how they feel, and second, people have made up crushes/and/or confused their feelings with a squish (I have done this).
• "You're so young, I just don't see the point in labelling yourself!"- Well the label resonates with how I feel and makes me feel a lot more confident and sure of myself in my identity, but I'm sure if I was a straight allo girl you wouldn't be saying anything about labelling myself.
• "It's probably just a phase, you'll most likely grow out of it."-This is just rude and is such a inconsiderate phrase, you have no right to invalidate my feelings, and you don't know me more than I do, so what makes you think you have any say in whether I'm going through a "phase"?
• "You might find someone in the future and change your mind!"- Here's the thing, I DON'T WANT TO. Please stop forcing this idea on me that I'll find this "true love" in the future someday, I don't want a romantic relationship and I haven't met anyone in the present time that's "changed my mind", so please stop saying that.
• "Are you saying you're LGBTQ+ because you want to fit in?"- Ok, I understand there are some very stupid people that pretend to be LGBTQIA+ because they think it's a trend and want to follow on it, but again, THIS IS A RUDE AND INCONSIDERATE PHRASE. No, I'm not trying to "fit in" with people at my school, what I've done is found a label that finally fits how I've felt for my whole life, and you're invalidating my feelings yet again, and even accusing me of faking it! Even if I truly wanted to "fit in", and did something stupid like that, I wouldn't be identifying as an aroace, I'd be identifying as a sexuality that is way more relatable such as bisexual, pansexual, lesbian ect.

That's what I can remember, sorry it's so long, I've been wanting to get it off my chest, thanks for reading this long rant, have a good day/night!

Kind of, it's been awhile since I've had one, but that person was always in my head, it almost always influenced the decisions I made (what to wear, what to say), and it was always nerve wracking talking to them. Looking back, it was a very anxiety inducing experience, honestly not worth the trouble. 0/10 product, would not recommend.

Ash Ketchum from Pokemon was my comfort character when I was smaller, I would make up scenarios in my head of him and me having pokemon battles, going on adventures together, and just having fun in general. This topic really brought back that nostalgia lol, but yea, it's a thing!

1 hour ago, roboticanary said:

grey might fit you.

Remember though, you don't need to find a finer label if it doesn't help you. If nothing seems quite right just go on with life, try anything you want to try, avoid anything you don't and generally learn more about yourself. Maybe something will click with you later but you don't have to immediately go searching for the one label that suits you.

 

Thank you for the advice, I'll definitely keep that in mind!

Thanks for the help! I think Grayromantic fits me best after doing a little research on it since you guys all suggested it, and DeltaV, thank you for blessing me with your presence, I wish I could say the same, you are so wise sensei lol

A definite 'no'. I would rather jump off a bridge than get pregnant and have kids, and here are my reasons why:

• Taking care of babies (especially twins) is hard, and eats all of your time+energy (take it from me, the oldest sibling)
• The thought of actually having to conceive a child and giving birth is terrifying enough
• The world is messed up, it'll probably squash the purity of a child like it squashed mine
• The strain on my mental and physical health would be too much for me
• If I change my mind, I'll adopt, simple as that

Thank you for reading this, have a good day.

I've recently discovered I relate to many of the aspects of an aromantic person but not all, and so I'm confused on which sub label suits me best. I've always disliked the idea of a romantic relationship for my whole life, and I've only ever had 3 crushes in the 14 years I've lived which were on guys I was very close with. One was very faint, the second one was more of an obsession, and the third one resulted in a romantic relationship with them, but I feel like over time it felt like I was in love with the idea of the person than the person themselves. Ever since that last one, I haven't had any of the "butterflies in stomach" feelings to anyone, including fictional characters which I would also have small crushes on. Currently I'm just going with the umbrella term Aromantic, but could someone help me pinpoint where exactly I fall? I would appreciate the help!