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On 10/7/2022 at 2:31 PM, Disco Cow said:

I love folk rock like the crane wives but most indie artists in general are great.

I like folk rock too! I've never heard of the crane wives, so I'm gonna go check them out :)

I'm late but....

I ID as a sex-favourable ace. To me, that just means that I have a libido and I'm definitely not repulsed, but I've never really wanted to have sex with any specific person.

On 10/4/2022 at 11:20 PM, Collie said:

For me, a sex favorable ace would be one who enjoys participating in sexual activity when with an allosexual partner, but doesn't desire it for themselves and would be happy in a completely sexless relationship.

This also described me pretty well!

Good luck figuring things out :)

I've been in a similar situation before! It sounds like you may very well be somewhere on the aro spectrum to me. I know how it feels to love the idea of love, but freak out once it becomes reality. 

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Hey there!

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Welcome to arocalypse! I hope you enjoy our community :)

Just 2 things I like, really. On other platforms, I use some variation of RaspberryDragon, but I felt like mixing it up here haha.

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Congested 

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I ID as aegosexual, and I really relate to this experience. It made me unsure of my ace-ness for a little while because I thought being extremely repulsed was a requirement. 

I wouldn't be surprised if someone tried to seduce Nessie ?

How did I not see this sooner- I would love to join!

Hi!! It's nice to meet another aro teenager :)

I have a week off of school, so I'm just planning to relax at home, feel proud, and give myself a break since I've been really busy!

I'm 15 and in high school, unfortunately ;-;

49 minutes ago, Unikitty said:

Do you have any resources explaining alterous attraction more? I think that may apply to me but I honestly am having trouble understanding. Is it like queerplatonic? 

This is just my personal experience, but alterous attraction is sort of an emotional connection to me. I care deeply about the person and want them to be happy, along with being a part of their life, usually in a platonic/queerplatonic way. A queerplatonic relationship, on the other hand, is a type of relationship that is not platonic or romantic. The types of things queerplatonic partners do really depend on the comfort levels of the people involved, so there is no one-size-fits-all. There is also queerplatonic attraction, (sorry for dumping so much vocabulary here lol) which is when you specifically want to be in a QPR with someone. For me, QP attraction is a combination of alterous attraction and a few other kinds. As for resources, the good ol' LGBTQ+ wiki explains alterous attraction pretty well, but there are probably other resources out there. https://lgbta.fandom.com/wiki/Alterous_Attraction

50 minutes ago, Unikitty said:

So many terms lol. Idk if I'd use them like, publicly, but it is nice to keep in mind!

Same here. I don't want to blow people's minds with all this vocab, but for me it feels nice to have a personal understanding of my feelings with specific labels :D

I think it's about intent. If you wanted to kiss them with romantic intent, or in a romantic context, it would probably be romantic attraction. Since you're a bit romance-repulsed and uncomfortable in those situations, it seems like sensual or alterous attraction to me though. Kissing does not have to be inherently romantic, but it's often labeled as such, and wanting to kiss someone doesn't make you any less aro!

On 12/8/2021 at 5:47 PM, Unikitty said:

For a while I was having a hard time even calling myself aromantic because I thought did feel romantic love for people I dated. But looking back at it, it was not love at all. It was just obsession and attachment issues. I know some people say obsession can be a sign of romantic attraction, but I believe my obsession was not healthy or romantic at all. Unfortunately I would be extremely clingy and basically want to be conjoined with someone I "dated". Romance as a concept is something I struggled with a lot as well.

I really relate to this, I think for me it was because I felt pressured to act a certain way around my "crush"/partner which manifested as obsession. 

1. Asking my mom if I could marry my best friend when I was 11. I did this because in my grandparents' house, there was a photo of them at their wedding above some text saying "I married my best friend." which sounded pretty good to me XD 

 2. Whenever I claimed had a "crush", it would either be aesthetic, alterous or platonic attraction. So I usually ended up avoiding my supposed "crush" because my friends would expect me to flirt with them and I didn't really want to...

3. My one attempt at romance failing horribly as I tried to force myself into uncomfy things like marathon hand-holding :/ 

I do! I have a ring that is a circle of small, white flowers, which I love because it usually flies  under people's radar. :)

I was in a romantic relationship once, in middle school. He asked me out, and I went along with it because I didn't want to hurt his feelings and it was what a lot of people were doing at the time. I felt pretty uncomfortable for the whole 3 months we were "dating" and couldn't figure out why for years. Now I know it's because he was romantically/sexually attracted to me and my poor aroace younger self just... didn't feel the same way. My first kiss was very messed up. It was in front of a lot of people at a school dance who were pressuring us. I felt sick and basically forced myself to let him kiss me. After, I told people that it was great because that's what I felt like people expected to hear. We broke up a little while later, and I haven't dated since. I am interested in QPRs, but not romantic partnerships.

Hi! I'm Blueberry, and I'm aroace. ?

I have known I'm asexual for a while, but more recently I've started to identify as aro. I was questioning for a long time, and because I experience pretty strong alterous and queerplatonic attraction, I thought I was alloromantic. 

I am a part of too many fandoms to list here haha.

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 Hope you are doing well!