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Eowyn

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    Am I Aro?

    in Aromantic Discussion

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    1 hour ago, meaningfulgibberish said:

    I recently started calling myself aromantic after polling several friends about, specifically, their physical response to feeling "love." It took about 2 months and a therapy session to finally understand how I "feel" it, but its very similar to what you describe. I know I am "in love" when I feel safe. That means feeling safe enough to share my thoughts, my emotions, etc. whether that be with friends or with a partner (I was in a relationship during this.)

    You're kind of hitting on that same feeling. You didn't say whether or not you "felt" love, but you felt safe to be open with someone.

    Take it or leave it, but I identify as aro (still playing around with it, but pretty confident), soooo....I don't see why you couldn't call yourself aro.

    Same here.

    Before I knew about my aromanticism I told a friend that I never had been "in love" so far. She was a bit confused and asked me how I could know that I'm a lesbian when I never had a "crush" on a girl. My response: "It just feels right to call myself lesbian."?‍♀️

    To cut a long story short, only your heart knows how you identify. If it feels right to say "I'm aromantic", you are aromantic. If it doesn't feel right, maybe you aren't or it's not the right label for now but maybe the right in the future or in the past. Or you doesn't need a label at all.

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    To "come out"

    in Aromantic Relationships

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    Until now I only came out to my best friends. Their reactions were great. One asked me to explain the term. The reaction to the explanation was something like "I'm sure you will find a relationship wich makes you happy. The view of society on "perfect love" is way to old-fashioned."

    Next person on my outing list is my therapist. My plan is to give her a paper with a definition of aromanticism and wait what will happen. Wish me good luck!

    On 5/18/2021 at 9:12 PM, FragileDear said:

    I would also be interested to read more about reactions to coming out. So far only my therapist knows. I'm considering making some sort of video compilation to explain things for when I come out to my immediate family - that way I can either send it to them or hit play and walk away. 

    Hit play and walk away sounds nice. In this way they will have time to think and avoid stupid reactions.

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