I understand you so much! I feel the exact same way. I was even a little hesitant to join this website because I often feel alienated from the aro community. While I support and respect all the lovely aros who are happy and content being single, I personally am not. I identify as aroflux or grayro because I can't decide if I'm cupio, demi, or some other microlabel. I could probably use a number of them. But sometimes I think that maybe I'm only using aroFLUX or GRAYro because I want to deny the fact that I'm actually completely aro. That thought scares me. I want a romantic relationship/a deeply committed relationship (which, let's be honest, for alloromantics are basically the same thing) that I'm afraid I'm denying the fact that I might never be able to experience a traditional romantic relationship in any way, shape, or form.
DM me if you want to talk more. I think we understand each other quite well. You can message me here or on instagram: ace.pride27
I relate greatly to when you said “That thought scares me.” And everything past that. I’m personally very conflicted about this, as I know I’ve never experienced romance, and I’m actually quite uncomfortable when I perceive someone is doing romantic actions towards me (I.E. being winked at and that same person I barely know anything about being extremely clingy). But I do, ironically enough, crave a “romantic relationship” because they’re accepted by society as long lasting, ever important connections. I think it’s the devotion, and the loving someone no matter what they do, that pulls me in. I guess I crave companionship in that form, because of that. Despite this, I think you may be able to also gain comfort from the knowledge of “Queer-platonic Partnership”s. Knowing about these has honestly comforted me greatly, and made me more comfortable with my orientation. These are also heavily apart of the Aro community, and seem to be widely accepted by the community :)
(Also I’m sorry for this ramble and you really just expressed everything I’ve been feelings so well! ?)
P.S. I’m sorry if my acc seems sketch or anything, as I made it just after reading your reply!
Cupioromantic struggles
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I relate greatly to when you said “That thought scares me.” And everything past that. I’m personally very conflicted about this, as I know I’ve never experienced romance, and I’m actually quite uncomfortable when I perceive someone is doing romantic actions towards me (I.E. being winked at and that same person I barely know anything about being extremely clingy). But I do, ironically enough, crave a “romantic relationship” because they’re accepted by society as long lasting, ever important connections. I think it’s the devotion, and the loving someone no matter what they do, that pulls me in. I guess I crave companionship in that form, because of that. Despite this, I think you may be able to also gain comfort from the knowledge of “Queer-platonic Partnership”s. Knowing about these has honestly comforted me greatly, and made me more comfortable with my orientation. These are also heavily apart of the Aro community, and seem to be widely accepted by the community :)
(Also I’m sorry for this ramble and you really just expressed everything I’ve been feelings so well! ?)
P.S. I’m sorry if my acc seems sketch or anything, as I made it just after reading your reply!