Arom GUy

Had my first one yesterday. 

Me: I don't want a relationship or marriage. I'm more happy to be friends with someone and have physical contact as well for the rest of my life. 

Friend: Thats not a life 

Me: But it what works for me and what I'm happy with. 

Friend: That's still not a life.

?‍♂️?‍♂️?‍♂️?‍♂️ I changed the subject after 

On 2/28/2021 at 6:57 AM, Guest daydream-dog said:

 so i thought about it for 5 seconds and finally said "ok, then, someone who can make a really good homemade mac and cheese" 

I can relate to this on so many levels it's unreal ??

Thank you for sharing ?

On 2/21/2021 at 1:02 PM, eatingcroutons said:

.....mate, there is no situation where it's okay to have a relationship with someone without their consent. 

That said: A "queerplatonic relationship" can mean all sorts of different things. Most generally, it's a relationship that isn't romantic, but may not fit into the typical social norms expected of strictly platonic relationships or friendships. But what that means in practice can vary dramatically from person to person, and from relationship to relationship.

I'd recommend taking some time to sit down and ask yourself what specific things you want from a relationship, emotionally and practically. Do you want someone to share a living space and expenses with? Do you want someone who will be your primary emotional support, and vice-versa? Do you want someone you have sex with regularly, but not exclusively? Do you want someone you can make a mutual, long-term commitment with, but not marry?

Asking someone, "Will you be my queerplatonic partner?" is in my opinion kind of a nonsense question, because a "queerplatonic partner" can be so many different things. I recommend figuring out what you personally want from relationships in your life, and then when you find someone you think might be able to fulfil those relationship needs, asking them whether they'd be happy to do so. Be specific about what your boundaries and needs are, listen to what theirs are, and figure out whether they and you are a good fit.

If that all works out you may or may not choose to call your relationship "queerplatonic", but honestly, the nomenclature is secondary to finding something that works for you and your partner(s).

I've have been looking for the exact explanation of how I would broach such a subject with someone and you've answered it in a nutshell. 

Sorry for hijacking the thread. 

2 minutes ago, A User said:

EYYYY!!!
Welcome!!
I'll give you some cake, it's the AVEN tradition ;)

Thank you ?

I do love cake ???

I did post a topic in another forum which guided me to here and how grateful I am to said person. 

Context so ive been dating over the past 16 years some long relationships some short and every relationship I get into I end up wanting to run for the hills or feel trapped and don't feel myself.  I have always put it down to it being the wrong person and when I meet the right one I wont feel like this.  I've done romantic things for people while in those relationships but not because I have the feelings to match the action but because I thought they would like it.  I've always felt more comfortable with FOB arrangement forgive the crude term.  

Fast forward to this week I see a friend of myn post on social media about aromantic awareness week.  I think ooo whats that (she always posts interesting topics) and I google it and start reading. First article read and I'm like ok this is sounding very familiar to me.  I message her and go how did you know and she explains to me that it not experiencing any romantic attraction for others.  It like a light has been switched on in my head and I feel like a weight has been lifted.

I've read two threads here and i can relate to every comment that has been typed. It all resonates with me I don't feel broken anymore. I'm happy that I finally understand and can say that I'm an aromantic hetrosexual.