macattacthesnac

I think Rony's right, middle finger is not the baseline but also not entirely out of the ordinary. If she knows about you picking your nails that might be all you need, and it being black can just be your preference. 

Either way, just do what makes you comfortable and lets you feel proud of your identity!

5 hours ago, roboticanary said:

Hi

totally relate to that thing of not knowing any aros in person. It can be frustrating but at least with the internet we know we are not alone.

Hope the figuring out goes well.

Thanks! Finding this forum/group is already better

I started thinking about it last year, when I was 18. I'd been identifying as ace since I was 13 and spent the next few years paying so much attention to being ace and figuring that out that I thought not having crushes or ever really looking at someone that way was just a part of it. I'm starting to work through accepting it and figuring out what it means for me and how I want to exist in friendships as I'm learning that. 

On 12/17/2020 at 3:32 PM, Confused Artist said:

When hearing the age you guys figured out your romantic association, it feels like I found out to early. I'm only I'm middle school, and most of you are older, or in high school. So now I have the question, is it to early to decide. I think that even if I did have some sort or romantic feelings, I would still be on the Aromantic spectrum. What do you think?

I don't think it's too early! From what I understand, everyone's always figuring out more about it and becoming more sure/accepting/confident in their own identity. I started identifying as ace in seventh grade and spent a few years going through various definitions and experiences as I became more comfortable with it. Now I'm doing the same thing with aromanticism. 

On 11/28/2020 at 5:03 PM, cyancat said:

i'm a teen too.

i only realized i was aro when a friend started having feelings for me and while i thought i returned those feelings (and in one way, i guess i do? idk its complicated but it doesn't feel like it's quite in a romantic sense - more like a general 'love and care' for a close friend) i've kinda realized that their feelings are... pretty different from mine. i'm not necessarily opposed to a romantic relationship with them since i'm quite touch-starved so i kinda want the physical contact that goes into it? but i also don't see it as necessarily a romantic relationship so much as a close... for lack of better words, friendship.

honestly tho,,, realizing i'm aro has been more distressing for me than anything else. i try not to think about it too much, but i've fallen so hard in love with the idea of being in love i guess? i mean, i've mostly made my peace with the fact that i'll never experience romantic feelings. or, more accurately, when i think about my relationship with said close friend, i realize that i feel satisfied/happy/content with what i currently feel? but romance is so idealized that there's just a part of me that wants to wallow over the fact that i'll never experience it (or at least not to the extent as others do).

on the upside, i no longer spiral in attempting to convince myself that i absolutely have a crush on 'x' because that was shit i used to do for... some reason? much to my own consternation, i always wanted to be in love with someone. never managed truly managed though, but man was i living in that denial for a long time

I relate to this so much. I used to basically pick someone in my friend group and try to have a crush on them fake-it-till-ya-make-it style but it wasn't what I wanted. I'm starting to figure out what kinda relationships I wanna have for the rest of my life (physical affection, yes please) but it's hard when you're surrounded by a society that believes romantic love is the end-all, be-all. 

Hello!

My name is Mac, I'm 19 and aromantic/asexual. I found this forum looking for aro/ace (or just aro) communities because while I'm lucky to have a lot of asexual friends, I've never met someone else who's aromantic. It's been a process to start figuring out what being aromantic means for me and I'm hoping to find some other people who know what it's like and be able to learn what it means to other people too.