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4 hours ago, Cristal Gris said:

I am just going to say that you can be aro and have happy dreams about relationships. Even if one day it become real. Also, not every relationship is romantic. (not that aros can't be in romantic relationships )

 

 

It can be a side-effect, but it don't make you more aro or less aro.

Being aro is about romantic attraction (well, the lack of it). I can't tell you exactly what it is because i never felt it, and i guess peoples can give it their own definition?

 

My answer is probably incomplete, but i hope it help...

3 hours ago, treepod said:

To begin with, I don’t think these dreams necessarily have any bearing on whether you’re aro. As has been pointed out, if in your day to day life you experience a lack of romantic attraction to real people in real scenarios, that is enough. 

 

I can see how it might be a confusing experience though. People dream about all kinds of wild things that don’t really say much about them as a person, because while you sleep your brain is crash testing even the most unlikely possibilities that could come up in life. Society, and maybe your friends and family, are probably giving your brain signals that a romantic relationship is desirable, so it makes sense that your dreams would attempt to roleplay that desire. Whether you actually want to pursue it in real life is up to you. And even then, wanting a romantic relationship and actually being genuinely attracted to a specific person are two very different things.

I just can’t tell anymore if I experience romantic attraction or not, I have no idea what I’m supposed to be feeling if I do experience it all

I used to be really sure about being a romantic but now I’m not. Lately I’ve been having dreams where I’m in a relationship and they’re so great. Does disliking relationship nicknames, romantic movies, and being unable to understand the concept of monogamy/long term relationships make me aro or arospec or allo? I can’t tell and I’m just confused

When my friends were dating they would do even more pda when I asked them to stop so I can’t relate

You should listen to “I don’t love you” by My Chemical Romance, “I don’t love you like I did yesterday” is a line in the chorus

On 6/28/2019 at 9:24 PM, Questioning peep said:

Hey I’m new here and found this after I recently found out about the Aromatic and Asexual community I’m 12- about to be 13 and going into 7th grade all my (mostly lgbtq) friends are getting crushes and dates I’m not sure if I’m aro or just a late bloomer any help or forms you guys can point me to

There’s no need to rush. Maybe you are a late bloomer, but maybe you’re aromantic. You’re just gotta wait it out and see what happens. Or maybe think about how you would feel about a romantic relationship. 

Hey everybody my name is Leviathan and I’m new. I id as aromantic and heteroflexible and I know zero aromantics irl so I’m looking to find some people to relate to