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I didn't fully understad this relationship consept (but from the little I understand it sound really nice)

On 4/7/2016 at 5:07 AM, DeMorgan said:

This may end up being bloody, but it has to be done at some point. We, as a forum dedicated to aromanticism, need to settle on a definition of romantic attraction. Soon we'll be designing pages for the main site; such a definition will undoubtedly be needed. The concept is intuitive enough, but defining it concisely in a way that the majority of the aromantic community can agree on has proven an unreasonably difficult task in the past, and has led to the existence of many similar but nonetheless contradictory definitions existing. I'd venture to speculate that this stems from the difference in perspective between asexual and allosexual aromantics, but I won't go any further without evidence.

 

We should avoid circular definitions such as those that define romanticism in terms of "love", "infatuation", or any other terms that are generally themselves defined in terms of romantic attraction. Now one can see why this description's formation is such a behemoth task.

 

The best definition I've seen so far comes from AVENwiki, which defines romantic attraction as "an emotional response that most people often feel that results in a desire for a romantic relationship with the person that the attraction is felt towards". I think that the use of "romantic relationship" is fully justified in its usage for the sake of brevity, but I would consider editing parts of the sentence so as to obtain the following:
 

• Romantic attraction is an emotional response that results in a desire for a romantic relationship with others.

 

Given this, we can define aromantics similarly to the AVEN definition of asexuals:

 

• An aromantic person is a person who does not experience romantic attraction.

 

This is wonderful and all, but it misses an important point: just what is a "romantic relationship" and how does it differ from a platonic one? I've never seen a satisfying definition, only people listing the traits that such a relationship has. Any ideas?

Tbh I pay attention that romantic attraction have some kind of a pattern. So with that pattern I create a definition to romantic attraction:

romantic attraction- "an need to give to someone else love and affection in a way that count as "traditional". I don't really sure if it 100% accurate, but I hope that's help!

I do want to be in a relationship that based on intimacy and care. Like I do want(at least I think I want) someone to care about me and live with me. Like someone that I can sometimes kiss and  cuddle, but I don't really need all the "I will die for you" part (more of a strong care and empathy toward me, not obsession or something like that).