Mark Posted August 15, 2017 Share Posted August 15, 2017 On 10/08/2017 at 10:44 AM, Eklinaar said: This is my greatest struggle in sexual relationships, that it is a very emotional and intimate experience for me, but it is not romantic for me. Everyone I meet seems to want both emotional intimacy and romance, or neither. It''s often seemed to me that many allos equote "emotional intimacy" with "romance". Effectively it's, yet another, romantic coded thing. 10 hours ago, NullVector said: Although I wouldn't want to imagine it like a 'spectrum' on which 'committed romantic relationship' and 'ONS' were extremes at either 'end' (not saying that's what you were doing; but it potentially could be read that way, just from the use of 'in between'). I'd want to imagine it more like a complex multi-dimensional space of relationship possibilities, within which 'committed romantic relationship' and 'ONS' were just two particular points, with various possibilities spanning various different dimensions existing all around them. That's a fairly good model. Far better than either romantic/ONS or romantic/platonic friend binaries Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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