I do not know how to feel...

[Ray0May0]

So I'm having a slight problem. My friend of 3 years sent me a long paragraph telling me how much they love me, and it was platonic. And I was grateful for him he is a good person, the message started to sound like a love confession but he stated it was platonic, I sent the same type of response back to them because I wanted to show mutual appreciation. A day passes and I find myself thinking about our friendship, they stated they wanted to get close to me, and now I'm thinking about that I don't know how to feel I don't know if this stems from attachment style, or me just being aromantic because the thing is I don't want to get back into any romantic relationships again I already experienced that and I want to avoid giving people the wrong idea/impression that I will love them on the same level as they love me. So it's kinda scary reading through their text, I recently told them that I wouldn't be ready for any relationship right now, and they started stating how long they'd wait for me, and that they'd even wait forever, even in their grave... I'm concerned right now and think I need feedback from other people about this. I remember someone saying that love can be obsessive or sound obsessive, but I need other people's input about this.

 

(also I'm sorry if anything I said doesn't make sense, I went back 3 times to check over my spelling)

[TrueEvergreen]

Just want to preface this by saying that I don't know the whole situation (whether or not this is making you uncomfortable, and other factors) so this is just my opinion on what might be the case and is not guaranteed by any measure.  

 

Honestly, if what they are doing makes you uncomfortable, I would be very clear how his actions and words are making you so, and ask him to stop. 

While it is very possible that this is truly platonic, it is also possible that this person is just slapping the word platonic on what they view as romantic, either as an attempt to make you more comfortable about the situation or just as a way to get it off of their chest. (Again this might not be the case, but it is a possibility, again don't know the whole situation). 

Hope this was helpful :)