Just trying to sort this out I guess?

[DreamSeeker]

Hi! It’s been a long time since I’ve been on here. And I also realize I’ve posted something similar to this before, but I still don’t feel better after it. Anyway, just want to warn you that this post might get super cheesy at times or not flow that well. But it took me way too long to finally figure out what I wanted to say and how I wanted to say it, so here we go.

I am asexual and I know I am without a doubt. It was easy to figure out if I was or not like no celebrities I was attracted to, never really experienced sexual attraction, etc. Aromantic is super confusing to figure out though.

So idk what it is about it exactly but lip kissing just sounds so uncomfortable to me. Like really the idea of leaning in to kiss someone- especially someone not good looking- it all just sounds weird and awkward and gross. Forehead kissing for some reason I could do and I think I might even like, because it gives you the same feelings without the awkwardness of having to look at them. But like lip kissing is a flat out no. I’m trying to figure out if the anti kissing thing is a part of being asexual or if it’s a part of being aromantic. 

I wish I could just figure out whether I’m aromantic or not based on how I feel about someone but that’s super difficult, because I get along with basically everyone and I like talking and meeting new people. It’s just hard to know if it’s platonic or not.

So for other people who have felt the same way, or similarly, which idk if there even is at this point, what helped you?

[Jot-Aro Kujo]

For what it's worth, I'm aromantic and allosexual, and I like kissing. But then again, I've also met aces who like kissing, and alloromantics who don't like kissing, so... who knows. Good luck!

[Windi]

The lip-kissing thing? Totally relatable. I'm ace and the idea of it grosses me out too, even with people I like. Focus on how you feel about people, not just what society says you should feel.

[DreamSeeker]

1 hour ago, Windi said:

The lip-kissing thing? Totally relatable. I'm ace and the idea of it grosses me out too, even with people I like. Focus on how you feel about people, not just what society says you should feel.

Yeah thank you for responding! It feels good to know you feel the same way. And thank you for the advice.. just how do you know how you feel? Most people look for signs like butterflies and things like that.

[catparent7092]

AroAllo here, and for me kissing serves a puroose for like sexual stimulation. I like the sensual nature of a french kiss for sex, but stuff like little pecks I will never go out of my way to do, and I will find it annoying if people want me to reciprocate a kiss by moving in. 

Edited November 14 by catparent7092

[alto]

I like pecks.  NOTHING beyond that.