Any qpr experience?

[dordor]

Have you ever been in a qpp or a qpr? What was your experience and how did it go? And alsoo How did start? 

[alto]

I got in a QPR, but it turned romantic.  Best romantic relationship I ever had.  Only decent one I've had too.

[dordor]

13 hours ago, alto said:

I got in a QPR, but it turned romantic.  Best romantic relationship I ever had.  Only decent one I've had too.

it might be too personal for me to ask but how did it exactly start?i generally want to know how to start a qpr with someone 

[catparent7092]

My current relationship went from a romantic one to a qpr in a couple of years in. Much to my satisfaction, and really it just feels like a chosen family of sorts. Neither of us really liked doing any romance things, and she wanted to open the relationship to a long time friend. Been 9 years and, as far as I can tell, will go on for longer. Provided one of them can get a job within the next year. Layoffs at the beginning of this year were awful. 

[dordor]

21 hours ago, catparent7092 said:

My current relationship went from a romantic one to a qpr in a couple of years in. Much to my satisfaction, and really it just feels like a chosen family of sorts. Neither of us really liked doing any romance things, and she wanted to open the relationship to a long time friend. Been 9 years and, as far as I can tell, will go on for longer. Provided one of them can get a job within the next year. Layoffs at the beginning of this year were awful. 

hi, this is really nicee:) hope you would always find happiness in your relationship

[catparent7092]

I should also state that the relationship originally started via competitive online  gaming and Skype. It was honestly strange and I didn't understand what was going on. We were practicing and out of all the people she played with I was one of the few who just treated her like everyone else trying to learn. We honestly would not have been together had she not both confessed and insisted on loving me. Probably not the story you could really learn anything from, as I basically did fuck all except for be myself lol

 

Edit: This was supposed to quote OP's response to me but I didn't understand that I had to touch the quote after I hit the quote button for it to show up on mobile. :(

Edited November 12 by catparent7092
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[alto]

17 hours ago, dordor said:

it might be too personal for me to ask but how did it exactly start?i generally want to know how to start a qpr with someone 

We got in a political debate, and he realized he loved me.

[dordor]

19 hours ago, alto said:

We got in a political debate, and he realized he loved me.

for a a second i forgot i'm on a aromantic forum and thought once again i am surrendred by alloromantic people and have to pretend to be happy and understand why when someone loves you is a good thing then it hit me. 

shit i am sorry for both the political difference and the falling in love part it it must have felt like shit. 

this is one of the reason i am afraid to have qprs with allo people, srs why do they have to ruin friendships and qprs with romance. 

i actually went through a kind of similar thing. with the difference that i thought i liked her romantically(i figured i am aro about 6months after things went down with her). when i figured out the difference between our feelings, god it felt awful. i never want to go thro that again.

[alto]

On 11/13/2024 at 12:42 AM, dordor said:

shit i am sorry for both the political difference and the falling in love part it it must have felt like shit.

You know, it was actually ok.  When we ended up meeting in real life, neither of us wanted to go further than a kiss on the hand.  He identified as aro before he met me, I think he identifies as grayromantic now?  Not sure.