I feel stupid

[Anonymous]

I feel like I'm too young to know. I'm demiromantic, I think. Everyone tells me "oh that's normal you're just a kid" or "everyone feels like that". I feel like I'm just forcing myself into a label even though I really like it.

[ghost_bean]

I think "being too young" is bs, there is no age cap on being aro (or more specificity Demi)If u feel like you want to wait till ur older that's ok too. If u want a label I would say go with demi, queer, questioning, or arospec. Also look into more labels if u want. GOOD LUCK!!! >:D

[allhailtheglowcloud]

On 10/18/2024 at 9:08 AM, Guest Anonymous said:

I feel like I'm too young to know. I'm demiromantic, I think. Everyone tells me "oh that's normal you're just a kid" or "everyone feels like that". I feel like I'm just forcing myself into a label even though I really like it.

If people around you are old enough to know their orientations, then so are you. If you like the label and you think that it describes the way you feel, then by all means, use it. That's what labels are for after all :)

[An Aro Passes Bi]

If it feels right and is useful to you right now, I say go for it. There’s nothing wrong with identifying as something for a while and realizing later on that you’re actually something else, or that you’re more comfortable with a different label.
 

There’s no harm in trying out labels, especially if you give yourself room to grow: that is, not restricting yourself based on what you think a “real” person w/ [insert label] would do, or feeling like you have to use [insert label] forever if you don’t want to.

You’re not stupid for asking these questions or for thinking you might be something different than the ppl around you. Also, I can tell you for a fact that not everyone “feels that way.” If we were all demiromantic, celebrity crushes, hallway crushes, etc, wouldn’t exist. No one would crush on fictional characters. And, as someone who is still quite young, and vividly remembers being younger still, I can tell you that most young ppl don’t behave demiromantically. Quite the opposite, actually. 

[Merrie]

If you feel this way right now, then is fine. You might chnage later, and that will be fine too. Like, dont make yout life revolve around this, but if you feel comfortable and it makes you happy, its okay! 

Personally what I like most about this comunity is to stop this idea of "romance is your top priority in life". If you think romance might not be for you, or will never be a priority or conceived in the "regular way" its fine! 

Its okay to don't feel the need or want for a romantic relationship, you aren't weird or anything for thinking that, is VALID and if later you change that VALID TOO! 

 

[alto]

Then don't force yourself into a label :)  Just keep in mind that you might be demiromantic.

[SleepyGirl]

Pretty much any age can know they’re queer. Listen to yourself rather than them ^^

[squinkiy]

i can say with confidence that realizing a queer identity at a young age is perfectly fine. and in the context of aromanticism, i first started using the demiromantic label at 14 yrs old and even thru many times of switching the label i recently started using it again and i turned 18 recently, so if you feel connected to the label now, use it! if you find out you connect to a different label instead, go for it! as well as go ahead with the previous label if you find out that, "actually, this label i used a year ago actually seems to fit best."