abt two weeks - a month ish?? ago i ended a 1½ yr qpr with someone who was dear to me once i realized our realtionship wasnt exactly Healthy. they didn't take it well and, despite me expressing that id still like to be friends but i just dont think an emotionally intimate relationship like a qpr is good for us, we are no longer friends (they basiclaly attacked me thru their twitter priv saying that im not a good partner and that i led them on, saying im older than them and should be more mature (we are 5 days apart in age i am Not more mature than them)). they also have tendencies to seek out people who have "wronged" them, which is why im doing this anonymously. about a yr ago, half a yr after me and them became qpps, one of their other qpps asked me to be their qpp as well, to which i said yes, thus a qp polycule emerged between the 3 of us. currently im still qpps with the 2nd one, and afaik theyre still qpps w my ex qpp as well (i told them directly that i dont care if they are).
im not gna sugarcoat it, im kinda scared theyre telling so many more people to not support me solely bcs i broke up with them. i miss them, sure, but its really Not worth my mental health to try and save the friendship that was doomed when i sent the breakup letter which took like 2 weeks to even get seen bcs of the lack of ebing able to communincate on my part (context to this is my irl situations dont exactly allow me to get on much social media despite me currently being only a couple months away from adulthood (my parents unjustifiably dont trust me, ill be able to get on socials in the later half of 2025 becasue ill be moved away by then), so i communicated in ways i was able to with them. each qpr began when i had ready access to social media, before it got taken away, so its not that i started a qpr w these ppl on a whim.)
im trying to move on but i really dont think my brain got the closure it needed to move on entirely. ex qpp left the internet after they got called out for things that ive seen them do firsthand but i was in a way really really attached to them and i subconsciously ignored the fact that a lot of what they did wasnt exactly good or healthy (i.e. rose tinted glasses phenomenon, i was practically in love w them and me breaking up w them was a way for me to distance from them but it, again, didnt go well)
im not giving too much info to keep things private but if you need clarification or more info if im willing to give it, please ask. any advice to get over them would be much appreciated bcs im mad at them, i wish i never met them, but i miss them.
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abt two weeks - a month ish?? ago i ended a 1½ yr qpr with someone who was dear to me once i realized our realtionship wasnt exactly Healthy. they didn't take it well and, despite me expressing that id still like to be friends but i just dont think an emotionally intimate relationship like a qpr is good for us, we are no longer friends (they basiclaly attacked me thru their twitter priv saying that im not a good partner and that i led them on, saying im older than them and should be more mature (we are 5 days apart in age i am Not more mature than them)). they also have tendencies to seek out people who have "wronged" them, which is why im doing this anonymously. about a yr ago, half a yr after me and them became qpps, one of their other qpps asked me to be their qpp as well, to which i said yes, thus a qp polycule emerged between the 3 of us. currently im still qpps with the 2nd one, and afaik theyre still qpps w my ex qpp as well (i told them directly that i dont care if they are).
im not gna sugarcoat it, im kinda scared theyre telling so many more people to not support me solely bcs i broke up with them. i miss them, sure, but its really Not worth my mental health to try and save the friendship that was doomed when i sent the breakup letter which took like 2 weeks to even get seen bcs of the lack of ebing able to communincate on my part (context to this is my irl situations dont exactly allow me to get on much social media despite me currently being only a couple months away from adulthood (my parents unjustifiably dont trust me, ill be able to get on socials in the later half of 2025 becasue ill be moved away by then), so i communicated in ways i was able to with them. each qpr began when i had ready access to social media, before it got taken away, so its not that i started a qpr w these ppl on a whim.)
im trying to move on but i really dont think my brain got the closure it needed to move on entirely. ex qpp left the internet after they got called out for things that ive seen them do firsthand but i was in a way really really attached to them and i subconsciously ignored the fact that a lot of what they did wasnt exactly good or healthy (i.e. rose tinted glasses phenomenon, i was practically in love w them and me breaking up w them was a way for me to distance from them but it, again, didnt go well)
im not giving too much info to keep things private but if you need clarification or more info if im willing to give it, please ask. any advice to get over them would be much appreciated bcs im mad at them, i wish i never met them, but i miss them.
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