Lesser-known labels

[Lilac]

Hi everyone ^^ just thought I’d see if anyone here identifies with some of the lesser-known aro-spec labels, like me!

Mine are:

Desinoromantic people do not experience ‘full-on’ romantic attraction, but do experience ‘liking’ someone instead of loving them romantically; the attraction then goes no further.

Nebularomantic, the feeling of not being able to distinguish romantic from platonic attraction and therefore being unsure if one has experienced it due to neurodivergence.

Autiromantic is a romantic orientation on the aromantic spectrum defined as when one's autism greatly affects one's romanticity. Autiromantic describes an experience of romanticity that that is so heavily influenced by being autistic that one's autism and one's experience of romanticality cannot be unlinked.

Arospike is defined as someone who usually feels no romantic attraction, but occasionally has rare and sudden spikes of romantic attraction for an amount of time that can vary from a day to a couple of months before returning to one's normal amounts of aromanticism.

 

Post if you have any, I’d love to discover more identies!

[Salami]

I use Non-SAM aromantic basically im not ace(spec) or allosexual 

[MulticulturalFarmer]

On 9/14/2024 at 12:40 AM, Lilac said:

Hi everyone ^^ just thought I’d see if anyone here identifies with some of the lesser-known aro-spec labels, like me!

Mine are:

Desinoromantic people do not experience ‘full-on’ romantic attraction, but do experience ‘liking’ someone instead of loving them romantically; the attraction then goes no further.

Nebularomantic, the feeling of not being able to distinguish romantic from platonic attraction and therefore being unsure if one has experienced it due to neurodivergence.

Autiromantic is a romantic orientation on the aromantic spectrum defined as when one's autism greatly affects one's romanticity. Autiromantic describes an experience of romanticity that that is so heavily influenced by being autistic that one's autism and one's experience of romanticality cannot be unlinked.

Arospike is defined as someone who usually feels no romantic attraction, but occasionally has rare and sudden spikes of romantic attraction for an amount of time that can vary from a day to a couple of months before returning to one's normal amounts of aromanticism.

 

Post if you have any, I’d love to discover more identies!

Out of curiosity, where did you hear about those identities? Just curious if there's a website with a list or something :)

On 9/14/2024 at 1:25 PM, Salami said:

I use Non-SAM aromantic basically im not ace(spec) or allosexual 

Would GSRM work here too?

[Lilac]

I’m not really sure honestly, I’ve known about these identities for a while and I can’t remember where I found them, sorry!

4 hours ago, MulticulturalFarmer said:

Out of curiosity, where did you hear about those identities? Just curious if there's a website with a list or something :)

 

4 hours ago, MulticulturalFarmer said:

Would GSRM work here too?

Yeah, sure!

[MulticulturalFarmer]

6 hours ago, Lilac said:

I’m not really sure honestly, I’ve known about these identities for a while and I can’t remember where I found them, sorry!

 

Yeah, sure!

I remember when I used to see a list of identities on Tumblr, but I've since resigned myself from that website because it no longer suits my needs. That's okay, though :)

[Salami]

12 hours ago, MulticulturalFarmer said:

Out of curiosity, where did you hear about those identities? Just curious if there's a website with a list or something :)

Theres the aromantics wiki its older and i dunno if it gets updates but it has lot of terms and the second one is new.lgbtqia.wiki its newer but doesnt have that much aro idetities.

12 hours ago, MulticulturalFarmer said:

Would GSRM work here too?

Yes if its your personal choice but for me its more like im only aro i dont have a sexual orientation bc it aint that important to me as being aro.

[P4R4D0X]

11 hours ago, Salami said:

Theres the aromantics wiki its older and i dunno if it gets updates but it has lot of terms and the second one is new.lgbtqia.wiki its newer but doesnt have that much aro idetities.

There is also an older LGBTQIA wiki that has more pages, although the newer one is supposedly better resourced.

[ABC]

On 9/14/2024 at 1:40 PM, Lilac said:

Hi everyone ^^ just thought I’d see if anyone here identifies with some of the lesser-known aro-spec labels, like me!

 

Desinoromantic people do not experience ‘full-on’ romantic attraction, but do experience ‘liking’ someone instead of loving them romantically; the attraction then goes no further.

Cool, I’m desinoromantic too! In my case I’ve only experienced it with 1 person and never again.

[nonmerci]

I use neu aro to say that I ID with the aro identity but not really with a sexuality (though I fit the definition of ace). I don't really like the term at first cause when I saw it for the first time, I thought "neu" was for "neurodivergent", so I find it misleading (neu is for neutral actually). But the definition fits and I grew to like it.

Edited September 17 by nonmerci

[The Newest Fabled Creature]

Non-SAM aros don't get a whole bunch of attention sometimes (neither do non-SAM aces), and we're often seen as "weird" by some aspec people and supposed allies, since we don't "pick" a side - as in, we're neither aroace or aroallo, and that can leave people confused. We don't get talked about as badly as I once saw before, but we kind of don't get talked about a lot anyway. I don't say I'm a non-SAM aro whole bunch, but that's basically who and what I am, and how I view my aro identity anyway; where I'm technically aroallo but I don't label my sexuality anymore (and I often forget that I have one even while I'm experiencing sexual attraction), and I really only say I'm aromantic and non-binary and never mention my sexuality, if I enter a conversation with someone who openly wanted to talk about queerness with me. I kind of just use aroallo as a term nowadays.

Before I started to accept the fact that I can't fall in love, I used to identify as orchidromantic (when someone experiences romantic attraction but doesn't desire a romantic relationship) for a short bit as a means of trying to "soften" the "harsh" reality of being aro; I now understand how I shouldn't have done that, since I wasn't really identifying as orchid-, but it's what happened. When I dropped the orchid- label and started to explore my own personal lack of romantic attraction and what my past feelings were towards other people, I identified as post-rubor aromantic for a short time ("post-rubor" means "blush" in Latin - someone who quickly experiences crushes on people but the initial excitement of the crush doesn't develop into a stable attachment, or someone who experiences romantic attraction, but once the excitement of the crush goes away, you lose your romantic attraction towards the crush).

But after realizing that my past romantic crushes was actually me experiencing alterous attraction, I simply now just go by the label of 'aromantic'.

Edited September 22 by The Newest Fabled Creature

[MondoBilby]

I use the term zeromantic for myself, which @nonmerci created on here fairly recently. It's an alternative to using the term "fully aromantic" or "100% aromantic" where you never feel any kind of romantic attraction or have any desire for a relationship. I definitely prefer this term over the other ones, it feels more specific and like an actual label.

[lillia]

This definitely useful terminology. I've told strangers and my good friends (as well as nesting partner) that I see the world through the scope of companionship, NOT attraction (sexual/romantic/sensual/whatever). It's why I feel like such a black sheep in so many conversations relating to human sexuality/romance in general. 

[TrueEvergreen]

While I don't have a label to add to this, I was just thinking about how to the outside world not many people even know what being aro/ace means, but people within this community are well researched enough that there are sublabels that are more or less well known than others.

idk I just find it cool that the community is close enough that people know about certain more known sublabels in an orientation that not many people know much about. 

[The Newest Fabled Creature]

On 9/19/2024 at 8:46 AM, lillia said:

This definitely useful terminology. I've told strangers and my good friends (as well as nesting partner) that I see the world through the scope of companionship, NOT attraction (sexual/romantic/sensual/whatever). It's why I feel like such a black sheep in so many conversations relating to human sexuality/romance in general. 

This actually kind of explains a lot 'bout how I feel about/view/experience my relationships and my aro identity. I may talk about this or that attraction - just to make things a little more easy to understand if I'm talking to someone not in the know in regards to aromanticism - but I often kind of never really think too much about what other people may be experiencing or the lack of experiencing from my end; I don't really label me making new friends as experiencing platonic attraction, nor the love I have towards my family as familial "attraction," nor do I even actively think about how I experience my tertiary attractions (alterous attraction, which a little more well-known, and presential attraction, which isn't as well-known); much like my sexuality, I kind of forget that I experience those kinds of attractions, as well. I namely just view everything in companionship, as you said, and in the time worth spent with people I actually like. Thank you for putting it into words. 

Edited September 22 by The Newest Fabled Creature

[nonmerci]

On 9/19/2024 at 11:02 AM, MondoBilby said:

I use the term zeromantic for myself, which @nonmerci created on here fairly recently. It's an alternative to using the term "fully aromantic" or "100% aromantic" where you never feel any kind of romantic attraction or have any desire for a relationship. I definitely prefer this term over the other ones, it feels more specific and like an actual label.

I'm glad if the term can help. 

help

On 9/17/2024 at 11:06 PM, The Newest Fabled Creature said:

Non-SAM aros don't get a whole bunch of attention sometimes (neither do non-SAM aces), and we're often seen as "weird" by some aspec people and supposed allies, since we don't "pick" a side - as in, we're neither aroace or aroallo, and that can leave people confused. We don't get talked about as badly as I once saw before, but we kind of don't get talked about a lot anyway. I don't say I'm a non-SAM aro whole bunch, but that's basically who and what I am, and how I view my aro identity anyway; where I'm technically aroallo but I don't label my sexuality anymore (and I often forget that I have one even while I'm experiencing sexual attraction), and I really only say I'm aromantic and non-binary and never mention my sexuality, if I enter a conversation with someone who openly wanted to talk about queerness with me. I kind of just use aroallo as a term nowadays.

Same (except I'm technically aroace). I always only say aro, I don't even notice I do : I view my identity as "aro" so much that it never crosses my mind to say "aroace", except sometimes when we discuss sexual attraction, and not because I feel ace but because I feel people would like to know that I don't feel sexual attraction. But I kinda hate that I feel like people would like to know, cause it felt so irrelevant to me, if you see what I mean? And I kinda hate that people expect me to say "aroace" or "aroallo", or would assume that I ID as "aroace" if I say I'm aro, even if I do fit the definition... I just don't feel the need to link the two like that.

Edited September 25 by nonmerci

[lazlohollyfeld1728]

reicioaromantic!

when your arospec identity is affected by fear of/repeated/etc rejection :P  i'm greyaro but being reicioaro has made me more zeromantic

[The Newest Fabled Creature]

5 hours ago, nonmerci said:

Same (except I'm technically aroace). I always only say aro, I don't even notice I do : I view my identity as "aro" so much that it never crosses my mind to say "aroace", except sometimes when we discuss sexual attraction, and not because I feel ace but because I feel people would like to know that I don't feel sexual attraction. But I kinda hate that I feel like people would like to know, cause it felt so irrelevant to me, if you see what I mean? And I kinda hate that people expect me to say "aroace" or "aroallo", or would assume that I ID as "aroace" if I say I'm aro, even if I do fit the definition... I just don't feel the need to link the two like that.

I totally get what you mean! I just simply say I'm "aro" or "aromantic" as well and leave it at that, since it's the truth anyway. I may say I'm aroallo for the most part, but even when I do - I kind of don't acknowledge the "allo" segment of the term, and similarily to you, I also feel like it's not important for me to even state if I experience split attraction or same attraction - but I'll do so just to fulfill someone's curiosity. With that being said, it's not like I hate straight up saying I'm aroallo, though, since sometimes I'll state that I do experience sexual attraction to let other people know that aroallos exist; kind of like how I'll sometimes tell people I'm aromantic and leave it at that to remind them that aros exist.

Edited September 25 by The Newest Fabled Creature