Considering identifying myself as aromantic?

[theFluffyDog42]

so im pretty sure this isnt against any of the rules but im 13 and turning 14 soon, and this is sort of the age where everybody gets into relationships(not everyone but im pretty sure there are relationships happening around me to some degree) and i also have a lot of experiences with love in the romantic sense being that im not exactly very familiar with it.

My experience is that i often have come to like the idea of loving someone romantically and marriage and all that stuff, and i would definitely marry somebody if they wanted to marry me and fit some standard, with my intent in the marriage just being to probably be useful to my partner and maybe having some kids or something of the sort, but the intricate details of it are disgusting when i imagine myself in it, and it sometimes kinda repulses me(as for the sexual part but there are parts of me that could genuinely enjoy that if prompted).

As for the romantic aspect because im not familiar with it i compare it to be sort of like platonic love with extra steps ig? Like its just being deeply interested in a person or finding comfort in them, but then again theres like an entire aspect to it that makes it hard for me to differentiate from platonic love so i equate them together... No firsthand experience with actual love but im pretty sure people have some kind of desire to protect or be protected by that person. Its an emotion i cant feel at least to my knowledge and thats what makes it so hard to pin down. I'm not even sure what kind of romance im not feeling.

And while im not very comfortable discussing the sexual aspects its safe to say i might be developing those parts of myself slowly, and after talking with a close friend i decided its best to let it develop on its own and i have preparations for expressing them privately in safe and comfortable ways for me(drawing, writing in my journal, and well talking online about it on forums like this one if possible).

So when i found out the aromantic and asexual terms i think i somewhat identify with them in a stronger way than i do with their opposites, "i.e. i can love someone". I may not be sure for whether im asexual because i know what a sexual feeling feels like and i have experienced it before but i dont have any preference and i leave it at that for now. But one thing that scares me with the love thing is that if i define it for myself now(even with all my past experiences being fully valid) i have a fear that i might actually experience love for someone in the future romantically and it destroys my identification with that label.

but right now i sort of like the term and i want to identify as it because it expresses the kinds of feelings and experiences i have up to this point. problem is i dont even know if its legal to change to another term...

 

does anyone have a similar experience or any good words of advice?

[alto]

Don't worry about changing terms.  It's ok to identify as aro for a while, and then change your mind, if that's in the cards for you.  ESPECIALLY if you are young.

[AroAcedragon15]

It's absolutely fine to change labels whenever you want. Everything is changing for you right now and that can get so complicated and confusing. (Speaking from experience) if you like the label and it feels right today use it. If it doesn't feel right tomorrow change it. There's no laws here,changing your labels isn't illegal. I started identifying as aroace when I was 13. So as long as you're comfortable with the label go for it.

[theFluffyDog42]

Thanks a lot :3