loveroflavender Posted August 25 Share Posted August 25 (tldr; im happy of finding out what this term means to me) I'd had a few (empty) crushes in primary school, but I've dated one guy for majority of my high school years. After I got to college, we mutually broke up. Ever since, I've never felt the need to get back into a romantic relationship. I had heard of the term 'demiromantic' and 'demisexual' before, but had that "well, isn't that what everyone goes through?" kind of mindset. Regardless of my lack of knowledge for the term, I stuck in the back of my mind. I had gotten into a couple of casual sex relationships/with-benefits with people over a couple of years, but it stayed pretty much the same after a few years: being in a romantic relationship isn't important to me/wasn't a main objective of mine, and I was fine with sex...(still deciding about that). It wasn't until this year where I seriously thought about 'what am I?' when it comes to labeling my attraction and my wants of romantic relationships. I had started liking a girl that I've been talking to and hadn't mind seeing myself in a romantic relationship with her (although it's rocky and my feelings go back and forth on the matter). Around Pride month, I finally took the step towards seeing what being demiromantic meant to me. I denied it in the past, saying that I had had feelings, but they would often feel empty and go nowhere. I've flirted with people a lot in my life, thought about holding hands or cuddling, wanting to go on dates and see myself with someone, but I still had no intentions in initiating something like it out of nowhere or suddenly. I hadn't felt the need to be in a romantic relationship for years (being almost 8 years out of high school), and I finally feel happy that I found solace and understanding in being demiromantic! I finally know that it's not just a "that's what everyone goes through, people usually become friends before dating". Now, I understand what people mean, and it makes me feel happy. I'm no longer frustrated in what I couldn't understand: now i have a better grasp why I feel this way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alto Posted August 26 Share Posted August 26 Welcome to Arocalypse! 🧁 Always good to find yourself! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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