LifezVictory Posted August 2, 2022 Share Posted August 2, 2022 I recently posted a status about my pronoun changes, and decided to look up a label that might fit, and I've decided that the best one for me would be a paragirl. It's sort of like a demigirl, but instead of identifying as about half female it's like 90 percent. I think it explains how I mostly want to use she/her pronouns but also like they/them, plus the fact that I've always been kind of a tomboy. I don't know if I'm going to tell anyone IRL. Definitely not my grandparents but my mom might understand. But since I don't feel dysphoria when still describing myself as a girl and using she/her mostly, I don't really think I need to and might only say something when or if it comes up. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alto Posted August 2, 2022 Share Posted August 2, 2022 Sounds like a plan. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovebird Posted August 3, 2022 Share Posted August 3, 2022 Congrats!! I recently realised I was librafeminine and changed my pronouns too, it's also part of the demigirl 'spectrum' I'm unsure if I'll ever come out myself, but if I do, I just say I'm agender or nonbinary as constantly explaining what my gender actually is takes too much mental strength to explain Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsrainingtacos Posted August 3, 2022 Share Posted August 3, 2022 It's good that you've figured your gender out! I bet that's a huge weight lifted off of your shoulders. It took me 2+ years to finally realise my own identity lmao, so I know how frustrating it can be. However, I would like to offer some advice if that's ok: if you are sure you want to tell your mom, then before coming out, maybe ask her what her opinions are on the LGBTQ+ community in general first, as well as more specific LGBTQ+ identities. I believe it's important to get an idea of what she thinks to make sure you are safe when telling her. Anyway, congrats and good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LifezVictory Posted August 3, 2022 Author Share Posted August 3, 2022 5 minutes ago, QueerDisabledVegan said: It's good that you've figured your gender out! I bet that's a huge weight lifted off of your shoulders. It took me 2+ years to finally realise my own identity lmao, so I know how frustrating it can be. Idk, I mostly just felt guilty over liking to be called they/them sometimes since I also felt like a girl because I thought I shouldn't. I thought it would be like spitting in the faces of NB people, since they need to be called those pronouns to feel comfortable and I'm totally fine with she/her being used and haven't had any dysphoria (not with my gender anyway.) It sounds a little dumb written out this way, but I'll admit I still feel that way a bit, even now. But I figure hey, they're just words that anyone's allowed to use, and me using them isn't keeping other people from also using them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LifezVictory Posted August 3, 2022 Author Share Posted August 3, 2022 Update: I think I mit be genderflux, as well. Because right now, I don't think I'd want to be called they/them. I'll have to think about this more. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LifezVictory Posted August 5, 2022 Author Share Posted August 5, 2022 Update: Okay so I thought about it, and I realized that I don't think I'm actually a paragirl. I'm now pretty sure that I'm fully female, but just gender non-conforming. This feels like a much better fit to be honest. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeltaAro Posted August 6, 2022 Share Posted August 6, 2022 (edited) On 8/5/2022 at 2:38 AM, LifezVictory said: Update: Okay so I thought about it, and I realized that I don't think I'm actually a paragirl. I'm now pretty sure that I'm fully female, but just gender non-conforming. This feels like a much better fit to be honest. If someone really likes a gender label and strongly identifies with it, I'm happy for them. But this is not a straightforward and clear-cut thing - there is no "right" answer. Gender and gender labels are very difficult to understand and IMHO even paradoxical sometimes. Edited August 6, 2022 by DeltaV 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alto Posted August 6, 2022 Share Posted August 6, 2022 I think I might be a paragirl too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LifezVictory Posted September 3, 2022 Author Share Posted September 3, 2022 On 8/6/2022 at 3:51 PM, alto said: I think I might be a paragirl too. Cool. I'm glad I could help you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aye Posted October 2, 2022 Share Posted October 2, 2022 i think i'm paragirlflux i'm quite late to the convo but gender is really confusing and i'm glad you guys could figure stuff out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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