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I've discovered my aro/ace-ness about one year ago. I could probably find the date in my journal from when I went and raved about how heard I felt, but I'm too lazy...

Valentine's Day is kinda soon, and I want to celebrate, but obviously I don't have a partner. But I still want to do stuff with my friends!

What kind of things do you guys do on Valentine's Day? Do you have any traditions or ideas for this year in particular?

(And also if you have any Valentine's Day horror stories, I love reading about them!)

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I won't really be doing anything this year, but I like to send silly little Valentine's cards to my friends. Especially the fun aro/ace ones. Besides that, it'd just be having a nice Palentine's dinner with friends and expressing my appreciation of them. With some friends, we give each other yellow roses.

Do you have any ideas of what you'd like to do with your friends?

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5 hours ago, ScarfOfSexualPreference said:

What kind of things do you guys do on Valentine's Day? Do you have any traditions or ideas for this year in particular?

Every year for the last... eight? or so years* now, I've organised a Valentine's Day dinner for single people only, and invited everyone I know who's not in a relationship. The point of the dinner absolutely is not for people to meet potential partners, just an excuse to dress up and have a fun night out while everyone else we know is busy doing couply things. I highly recommend it as a Valentine's Day activity ✌️ 

 

*Yeah, I started doing this before I'd ever heard the word "aromantic". Yet another "early signs you were aro" moment... 

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I guess this might sound a bit weird, but I usually just chat with people on dating websites, and ask them about random stuff. Usually my matches are on other continents anyway, so it's just a time for me to be social and meet people. I've never had too much luck with IRL friends, as they are usually chilling with their partners and/or chilling with their friends that they have more in common with. The only cool thing that ever happened on valentine's day for me as an adult was going to an LGBTQ+ bar and club with one of my friends on valentine's day and then took a long walk afterwards in the most dangerous parts of the nearest major city in my region and talked about politics all night. We got some food at a random fast food place that was open at 2 AM but there were some sketchy guys that wanted to harass us and since we weren't in a car we couldn't go through the drive-through line.

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Every year my mom and I go buy a bunch of chocolate and my dad leaves some kind of surprise for everyone before he leaves for work. Valentine's Day has always been about familial and platonic love, rather than romantic love for me. Other than that, the only thing that was special about Valentine's Day was giving out classroom Valentines to my friends and teachers in grade school and my sped teacher bringing tiny cupcakes. And that one time that my school had a Valentines candy gram fund raiser and I got one from some anonymous fellow. 

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On every valentine's day, my friend reveals his crush to whoever his new crush is and then runs away super embarrassed before his crush can say anything. Then we eat lunch together and give each other candy and I rant about how much I don't understand crushes.

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On 1/30/2021 at 7:11 PM, MulticulturalFarmer said:

The only cool thing that ever happened on valentine's day for me as an adult was going to an LGBTQ+ bar and club with one of my friends on valentine's day and then took a long walk afterwards in the most dangerous parts of the nearest major city in my region and talked about politics all night. We got some food at a random fast food place that was open at 2 AM but there were some sketchy guys that wanted to harass us and since we weren't in a car we couldn't go through the drive-through line.

I love the nights when you just go around with friends and do sketchy or adventurous stuff. Best homecoming of my life was the one I went to with a group of friends!

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Valentine's Day practically does not exist for me and I don't celebrate it in any way. It's a day like any other day and since my birthday is in February, I always associated the month with mine and especially my dad's birthday. But I like some of the ideas you guys came up with here, like sending silly aro/ace cards to friends and the dinner idea sounds really great. Thanks for the input.

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I've never got valentines day, it just seems very commercialised and I forget it happens unless it was for the shops or the social media posts. I highly doubt it will ever change 😂

Also love the username, starkid for the win

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To be honest I don't usually do much on valentines day. maybe have a nice meal I guess (doesn't help that the apocalypse is currently happening).

I agree with @~Aurora~, It is very commercialised. I never really got the fuss either.

The day after though, cheap chocolate day, that I will celebrate.

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