I told my mom I’m not getting married

[PeepsInTheChiliPot]

This is mainly just to get this off my chest. A few days ago my mom and I were talking and I don’t remember how it came up but I said something like, “ Don’t worry, just because I’ll never get married doesn’t mean I’ll live at home forever. “ She asked, who said I’d never get married and I said me. I was being light hearted with the conversation, kind of testing the waters because I’ve never specifically said anything like this. I said getting married wasn’t my thing and I didn’t want to. She said it’s not like I’ve had a bad example of marriage (her and my dad have been married for 32 years and are a good couple). I just said again I didn’t want to do it myself and I’ve never even had a crush. She brought up a boy from my high school that I remember saying if I dated someone it would be him but I didn’t want to ruin our relationship. I said I didn’t have a crush on him but I don’t think she believed me. We kind of changed the subject after that. 

It wasn’t a bad conversation or anything but, she thinks I’ll change my mind or something. I know 23 is still young but I feel like I know myself well enough to know what I want. I’m very close with my mom and family but, I know now I’m still not ready to come out to them.

Edited December 16, 2020 by PeepsInTheChiliPot

[ScarfOfSexualPreference]

I really wish that stuff wasn’t expected of people. It sucks that we can’t just say: I don’t want to do this, and others think we have to or whatever

[roboticanary]

well done @PeepsInTheChiliPot

its a shame that so many people just wont believe you but on the whole that sounded like a decent testing of the waters. You have a fair idea what to expect if you decide to come out in the future and that is a useful thing to know.

Also at 23 you are probably right about knowing yourself enough to know what you want, certainly for something like romance. You have had probably over a decade of working yourself out in that regard.

[AroaceParrot]

My dad and I were talking about my plans for after university, he mentioned me getting married and was like "or would you rather stay single" in a joking manner. I straight up said I'd rather stay single... He looked concerned and changed then changed the subject. I honestly think he assumes I'll change my mind... either that or that there's smth wrong with me... Idk, I haven't brought it up again and I don't plan on it.