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Anyone else feeling lonely but on a platonic level?


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I mean, I don't even understand relationships and even less the concept of romance at all. 

But anyone else feeling lonely on a platonic level? 

I don't have much friends and I never feel like I can talk to the few I have. Moreover, I'm shit at making new friends and especially forming lasting friendships (mostly because I'm a social and emotional disaster who tends to push people away as soon as I get emotionally attached to them). 

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Absolutely, i'm incredibly grateful for my friends but i'm so bad at maintaining friendships and we're all finishing school next year:(( Just kinda sucks bc I have difficulty approaching people I want to talk to and will probably lose my existing friends rip

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Yeah, that's me. Never had any friendships past the casual level. Got used to being alone - mostly.

Companionship and emotional support would be nice, but I don't know how to offer those myself, so how can I ask others to?

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11 minutes ago, Confused Artist said:

I'm almost always lonely. I'm not really sure why, but it even happens when I'm with other people. It's kinda weird...

Same and I zone out but then I remember: these people care and if they don't then they should leave. I refocus on the present and be present.

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I've been good at contacting friends recently, but in catching up I compare my life to theirs and I feel shame because I think I haven't achieved anything worthwhile. Which is some sort of internal desolate wasteland.....which make me feel lonelier when I'm with my friends.... So, completely not what you asked! 

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I just really want a good hug but I'm not close enough with anyone I know to be super close to them that way...

Plus, like a lot of other people on this thread, I'm so awful at being vulnerable so I just end up being the mom or therapist friend and can't return that kind of friendship. 

kinda sucks. 

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Yep. Besides the pandemic not letting me hug any human, all my friends are now getting jobs and continuing studying and are separated. We hang out once per week via internet to catch up but I really miss them and would love to get a group hug to not feel alone. Since I am the only one not in a relationship, I fear they may slowly drift apart and cut me up, maybe is my anxiety and depression but that feeling is there 24/7 now.

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Yes, I haven't seen most of my friends in person since last February. Video chats just aren't the same. The couple I have occasionally seen it has been for 2m distanced walks, which isn't exactly companionable. I miss them, and I'm feeling lonely.

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On 2/14/2021 at 3:48 PM, Sam Spade said:

Yes, I only had a few friends, and they moved away. I'm always the one who reaches out which makes me wonder if anyone actually likes hanging out with me...

Omg same! I mean, not with all of my friends, not all the time but, when it does happen that they reach out first, usually they need information or just want to make sure I'm ok haha

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