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Since I've realized I'm Aro I feel so much happiness and affection for this piece of me and I hope others here feel the same! So please comment why you love being aro or what makes you love your Aroness! 

I'll go first! I love the way I love unromantically. I feel like I get to experience more varieties of affection and intimacy that alloros may miss. That makes me really excited. It feels like more colors were added to my life!

I hope this will spread some aro self love as well! So please go wild and let me know all the good feels! :)

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I love how I can focus on other things in life. Alloromantics seem to put to much effort in finding a partner, then keep their partner, having their relationship works... It seems like a lot of energy is give for that. But as I am aro, I can put this energy in other projects and I have more time for myself.

I love to not go crazy about shipping and enjoy shows for their plot, not for the couples.

I also like how I can look to romantic relationships in a more analytic and logical way.

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I don't have to worry about suddenly becoming irrational & obsessive over someone.  I won't act like a pervert or abandon a friend for a chance to get closer to someone I just met.

You know, I'm glad we can talk like this on Arocalypse.  At AVEN the rules are like "don't say it's an advantage to be ace, that's discrimination!"  But from a minority perspective:  3GL-you-keep-using-that-word-but-i-don-t

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44 minutes ago, 2 Spirit Cherokee Princess said:

At AVEN the rules are like "don't say it's an advantage to be ace, that's discrimination!" 

What? How does liking a part of yourself is discrimination? Are we not allowed to have self-esteem our to love ourselves for what we are?

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One great thing about being aro is that we give the best relationship advice (aka break up).

Or, we actually give really well articulated advice because of how unrelatable some of the situations are, so our perspective isn't muddled with emotion.

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I love the fact that I feel freer as an aro. For example, I don't get crushes, which I think lock a person into a mental prison. I will not desire to spend thousands for a wedding, because I'm never going to get married. Without the burden of commitment to a romantic relationship, I can focus on other things in my life, such as school.

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3 hours ago, nonmerci said:

What? How does liking a part of yourself is discrimination? Are we not allowed to have self-esteem our to love ourselves for what we are?

That's what I thought when I 1st saw it.  In fairness I haven't seen that rule enforced, but it's unsettling that they even say such a thing.

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The label makes me feel freerer. I'm finally able to sort out my feelings towards other people because I know they are not romantic. And I feel less like an outcast now for not wanting a relationship. 

I'm at peace with the fact that platonic affection for my friends and family is enough for me. 

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Allo's say they 'can't focus on stupid work bc I am thinking of themm <3' which to me sounds awful, especially as I have ADHD, meaning I already have problems with productivity.

But I am also not trying to impress people I don't like, on dates I don't enjoy. 

I am not constantly having to sacrifice things for my parter, telling them everything I intend to do so as not to offend, or stepping round their emotions, always wondering if I said something wrong.

And thank god; I find my companions not based off of oxytocin and dopamine releases, chemicals which will inevitably fade over time, but those who I have a genuine, great love for as a person, those who I have similarities with and enjoy being around. I think somehow this is more real, it's certainly longer lasting than romantic attraction, which I consider to be an embellishment to platonic love. This love is put first for me, while allo's will chuck their friends to the wayside, a result of finding that dopamine fix.

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I love that the journey to finding out I am aro has led me to interesting thoughts on friendship and the weight put on people by our ideas of love and what a relationship would do. If I wasn't aro I would likely never have heard of the idea of amatonormativity for example, despite it explining so many things even for people who aren't aro. I probably wouldn't have heard of relationship anarchy either, or basically any idea of how to live life besides grow up, get married, have a couple of kids.

Also while there is a cost to being single it is freeing to be in control of my own income in  way which is not possible in a relationship. I can make the financial sacrifices I want to save money if I am comfortable making them without worrying about whether someone else would agree to that. Similarly anything I get as a luxury is defined by what I want, I don't have to worry about being in a relationship with someone and having to come to agreement over what we are allowed to get.

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To be honest, the most important reason to love my aroness is I’m a represenation of underrepresented nonheteronormative minority and I don’t have to try find less known things about the topic to create content about it! I simply can post everything because in my language it’s very rare to find anything about aromanticism and it’s a very good feeling to be ’in the right place’. Yeah, I know it probably sounds a little egocentric but I’ve been always a quiet person and now I have a reason to talk to people.

And I met a lot of great persons by it. Unfortunately all are internet friends but I really like them and if not being aro I probably wouldn’t know them!

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this thread is so wholesome, i love it!

I feel like I value my relationships more than my allo friends. They focus so much on their romantic relationships or on seeking for a romantic relationship, they seem to put their other relationships aside.

During my self-discovery journey, I found out about so many new interesting terms and was able to reframe my idea of love. It made me think outside the box and reflect on what I truly want and what I don't. I think if I wasn't aromantic, I wouldn't try to understand my feelings in such depth. And I love understanding more about myself!

(also I love the aromantic flag very much, green is my favorite color)

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i don’t have to worry about crushes anymore. or... make up elaborate reasons and stories about how i totally definitely have a crush on this one person. it’s... very freeing realizing that i’ll never have a crush on someone no matter how long i wait; i don’t have to wait anymore.

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