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Honestly, I always find it a bit creepy when people ship other people in real life.
Then again, I also find some fictional romantic ships disturbing and/or pointless so maybe that's just me.
I just enjoy two characters I like interacting with each other and having great chemistry.
They don't have to be a confirmed pair at all, I just need the sensation of "yeah, they [would] get along great".
(because of their history / development / matching personalities, etc. )
I'm more of a platonic shipper, even in fiction I struggle with romance.
When it comes to fanfiction I prefer to read smut over romance and aroace (no sexual or romantic (sub)plot) - both can be tough to find.
For example, there is rarely smut which doesn't end up in romance.
My own works are focused on these preferences too. I feel too weird when I try to write romance, it always feels artificial and I don't want to feel sick while proofreading my own stuff. :D

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I absolutely despise shipping people in real life. I think its a horrible invasion of privacy.

I wish I could stop shipping my OTP, unfortunately I don't want to leave the fandom just yet. Leaving a fandom for me means leaving any pairings I was shipping behind as well.

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Guest Xinah

I like to ship my own characters when I'm writing, but it's never "a love at first sight" - I'm demiromantic, so that's probably why. Also no romance just to have romance, if you know what I mean. I H A T E real people shipping. Please don't. I know I would be really uncomfortable if someone shipped me with, for example, my friend. Ships in fandom are cool, I have a few "OTPs" and sometimes I enjoy reading ship fanfics, there has to be chemistry though. I also prefer canon ships. And as a sex-repulsed ace, I don't like lemons/smut.

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On 6/29/2020 at 3:54 PM, Guest Xinah said:

I like to ship my own characters when I'm writing, but it's never "a love at first sight"

I remember when I describe the first crush of my character, not exactly "love at first sight" but he was indeed attracted to her at soon as he saw her. And it was si strange to write, the while time I was thinking "but that doesn't really happen in real life". Now that I know I'm aro, I understand why I feel this way about that scene. 

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I usually ship in fiction when it is obvious that there is chemistry between the pair. (Ex. Dean-Castiel cuz it is just there the connection between both). I don't like real life shipping cuz I think that people are not toys to play with and thus making a ship between real people seems like playing. The only shipping I believe 100% is me with coffee tbh, other than that it is up to interpretation of the actions between the two or more inside the ship.

Before identifying as aro, I think I believed in Love at First Sight, even though it seemed weird. Now I do not believe that and kinda repulsed by the idea of it cuz I see it as unreal at best. People choose to fall in love, the do not fall in it, cuz the concept of falling is like a mistep, a mistake.

Lastly, my vision of otp and ships change when I finished watching on netflix sense 8, since the description made there (no spoilers) is what I would believe should happen.

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Real life ugh why would you. Those are real people.

I don't even write fic for live action stuff (barring "there are live action versions of this but it was originally drawn in some form") 

As a result, I'm only in two fandoms. 

I have a massive project that has grown to cover both fandoms, separately while sharing lore and eventually merging. Excluding prequels, they merge 17 years into the story. There are no timeskips. What have I done help me. 

This is gonna be long, but I swear I have a point:

Anyway, the main character of one (both canon-wise and here) I ended up writing him greyro demisexual without realising it. He's literally slated to break up with his best friend because he loves him, but "he doesn't feel comfortable with" romantic stuff basically and best friend needs it, so they're incompatible (it's'97 in Japan. People know about trans stuff, he's living as male already because I made him trans male instead of cis male, but there's no words for this yet) he later becomes poly with that guy, but they have an understanding, and that guy's (trans) wife is the one he indulge in romance with. The main character's husband at this point, they're kind of likemega-best buds on the adventures of life, a problem solving team, they're always the first to validate each other, and making a giant family together (because the world demanding sterilisation to be valid sticks in my craw, so there) but they're not romantic at all, despite the main character's parents imaginations of them being allo, they're both greysexual and I'm still figuring out what romantic boundaries are, but they're definitely arospec, even though they don't have the words for a long time. (The reason they're greysexual is mostly meta for unplanned pregnancy, and making them cupiosexual was not something that occurred to me, even though if that's a word, it me, as the kids say) The closest to romantic they get is actually husband calming main character down because it's the 2008 housing crash and they lost their shirts. And one other later, reason would take too much words. But both are just... slow dancing to lite rock and the words "I love you." Then cut to others in the room and it's back to being a written sitcom. 

I wanted to share this here in detail because I've been nailing this out since I abandoned the old version (in my native, but this is in English), on Pixiv in *2011*. When I was still claiming bisexual. And had no idea what this meant, let alone I could be it. I only realised what any a-orientation meant *last year* Eight years after I started this. (Though I'm not demi anything, so it's not the same. I'm pretty sure no one exactly matches what I am) So I did this *completely subconsciously.*

One of the prequels I'm actually trying to write an allo (bi trans man+gay cis man) relationship starting, and I feel like that DJing dog meme. Even though we've all been deluged with allo romance portrayals. 

The point is, though, that while yes, I ship, I've realised I do it in pretty arospec ways. When I do try to write romance, it's like when you try drawing with foreshortening for the first time. You know it looks off but you don't know how or why. 

 

AND SOMEHOW NONE OF THIS CLUED ME IN. That's the real kicker. 

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Shipping peoples in real life sound really invasive never mind their relationships, orientation etc.... Just because they are celebrities don't mean you can do everything you want. In fact, i know some cases in wich it made things really awkward for them. 

 

For fiction, i usually don't care, or sometime i got along with it if it's not too bad. I can even like it! 

I am not a fan of romance, understand. And if it take too much place or it's done in a way that annoy me i stop i guess? My only problem is romantised abuse, romantized jealousy and you know, incest, pedophilia, etc

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