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11 hours ago, Violet Stars said:

I made friendship bracelets in the aro and ace colors respectively! I might do a combined one eventually, but I would probably have to get more colors for it (my favorite is the orange and blue flag, it's soo pretty. My friends have dubbed it the "tidepod flag" :P)

The tide pod flag 😂 I love it! I like that flag too, nice beachy colors.

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hey i love sharing my ring that my mother got my for my birthday. obviously the black is for ace and the white is for aro, and instead of having to wear two separate rings i got one that has both! of course most strangers won't get it if they were to see it on me but idk, its mostly for me.

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I don't really have anything to say but just wanted to drop into this thread and say hi! I'm so used to feeling like I'm the only one who feels the way I do that I almost forget other aroaces do exist...and it's so fun to be among you all :) I love the memes in this thread too haha

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Hhpey, I just want to leave this text here...

bc I feel like it has some very good points and I thought some of you might like it, too. Feel free to share what you think about it!
 

it’s from an aroace perspective so I thought it’s maybe better here than in another thread, but I don’t know the thread-structure of this forum that well haha

the article

 

” And yet, most aroace people we get to know or heard about or read about – they mostly and firstly identify as ace. We ponder why this is the case? Why aromanticism feels less important to them in this amatonormative world? We can’t get our head around this concept. We are aroace too, but thinking about it – we feel more aro than ace. Aromanticism is about relationships. It’s about friendships we have that won’t turn into another kind of relationship – a romantic one. We feel fine about them being ‘just’ friendships, but also we ponder if this doesn’t make our friends feel like ‘they don’t have a chance’ in a romantic sense, with us. And we ponder if they won’t put as much heart and work into those friendships as we do – because even if they’re not romantically interested in us, they would be in someone else. And then maybe they see those romantic relationships as needing more from them than any friendship would. Maybe not. But we ponder that nonetheless.
 

i personally “started” my journey by identifying more ace than aro as well - but it changed through the last weeks/month. I am happy when I see ace representation, but I am searching for aro-rep and i do not find it. I am happy when others understand asexuality, but I want them to understand aromanticism - and I don’t know how. People understand that asexuality is a sexuality and that I CAN know I am ace - but I want them to understand that I CAN know I am aro despite I have not met every person in the world yet. I want people to differ their sexual from their romantic orientation, even if they are heteroromantic heterosexual - bc if they don’t, I feel as if I would not exist. As if aromanticism could not exist.

i am happy for every ace-meeting or ace-group - but I want to have aro-meetings and as far as I’ve seen, there is NO aro community in my country. Nothing. At least aros can join ace spaces but I want to have a soecific aro-area, I want to meet Aros, even alloromantic aros, I want to hear their experiences, their happy endings, I want to hear how they discover friendships, I want to talk about them.

i want to talk about aromanticism.

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I have never been interested in relationships and never understood why people so need to be in a relationship to be "happy" as they say. I only find out about aromantism recently because in France we don't even know that word. And now I finally know what I am and it is such a relief to be able to put a word on it even if being labelled is not important to me. I am also glad to have find this forum because I don't have any aroace or just aro around me.

On 5/7/2021 at 7:14 PM, Acecream said:

Hhpey, I just want to leave this text here...

bc I feel like it has some very good points and I thought some of you might like it, too. Feel free to share what you think about it!
 

it’s from an aroace perspective so I thought it’s maybe better here than in another thread, but I don’t know the thread-structure of this forum that well haha

the article

 

” And yet, most aroace people we get to know or heard about or read about – they mostly and firstly identify as ace. We ponder why this is the case? Why aromanticism feels less important to them in this amatonormative world? We can’t get our head around this concept. We are aroace too, but thinking about it – we feel more aro than ace. Aromanticism is about relationships. It’s about friendships we have that won’t turn into another kind of relationship – a romantic one. We feel fine about them being ‘just’ friendships, but also we ponder if this doesn’t make our friends feel like ‘they don’t have a chance’ in a romantic sense, with us. And we ponder if they won’t put as much heart and work into those friendships as we do – because even if they’re not romantically interested in us, they would be in someone else. And then maybe they see those romantic relationships as needing more from them than any friendship would. Maybe not. But we ponder that nonetheless.
 

i personally “started” my journey by identifying more ace than aro as well - but it changed through the last weeks/month. I am happy when I see ace representation, but I am searching for aro-rep and i do not find it. I am happy when others understand asexuality, but I want them to understand aromanticism - and I don’t know how. People understand that asexuality is a sexuality and that I CAN know I am ace - but I want them to understand that I CAN know I am aro despite I have not met every person in the world yet. I want people to differ their sexual from their romantic orientation, even if they are heteroromantic heterosexual - bc if they don’t, I feel as if I would not exist. As if aromanticism could not exist.

i am happy for every ace-meeting or ace-group - but I want to have aro-meetings and as far as I’ve seen, there is NO aro community in my country. Nothing. At least aros can join ace spaces but I want to have a soecific aro-area, I want to meet Aros, even alloromantic aros, I want to hear their experiences, their happy endings, I want to hear how they discover friendships, I want to talk about them.

i want to talk about aromanticism.

I so feel like you there is nothing about aromantism in my country too (or about asexuality actually) and I would love to get to know some aropeople too, make friends, share things. I identify myself more as an aro than a asexual even if I know that I am asexual too. I am lucky that my best friend understands that I am aro and accept it but all the others don't and it is not always easy. I want the world to know about aromantism!!!

 

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Heyo!

Can someone please give me an example of situation that would've made someone think they weren't like other people in the romantic aspect?

I'm not sure this is understandable but I hope it is. 

Thanks!

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