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What's the oposite to amatonormativity?

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So if amatonormativity is the prejudice that all humans should be in a monogamous romantic relationship. Is there any opposite word to that? The closest I could come to fit would be relationship anarchy. It would be nice to have some sort of umbrella term for things that promotes other relationships as equally valid.

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it would help if the umbrella term was one word, just to increase searchability. Does relationship anarchy cover single/non-partnering acceptance? 

I'm not good with latin, but could a derivative of lifestyle-variety-acceptance be a possibility?

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What do you mean by opposite of amatonormativity ?

Is it a societal norm that whould state that monogamous relationship are inherently bad ?

Is it something more about not having a prejudice against not having monongamous relationship ?

Because relationship anarchy is neiter (but widely encompass the second). Relationsip anarchy is treating relationship according to anarchist principles (even if the term have been recently massively reclaimed by many non anarchists). That roughly means trying to :

  • not prioritize any relationship over another based on external criterias (such as amatonormativity)
  • not prioritize  relationships over what you want in life beside them
  • avoid things that could constrain you or your partners in something they don't want in the relationship (including sex, romance, friendship, monogamy, polygamy, bed sharing, comitment, etc.)

 

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On 5/29/2020 at 4:24 AM, John Rando said:

What do you mean by opposite of amatonormativity ?

Is it a societal norm that whould state that monogamous relationship are inherently bad ?

Is it something more about not having a prejudice against not having monongamous relationship ?

 

The second option. I know RA is not that, but it's the closest term I could think of that describes it. 

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There's no opposite of amatonormativity.

Amatonormative is the systematic idea that love, specially monogamous/monoamorous romantic love, is needed and universal. Amatonormativity is not exclusive of monoamorous romantic people, as there are a lot of polyamorous people and/or alloplatonic/alloalterous arospec that have extremely amatonormative ideas too.

 

There's no opposite of amatonormativity because there's no system that put love in every form as inherently bad and oppress those who express it. 

 

 

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I've seen relationship anarchy as a thing! If that's something that resonates with you, maybe you should look more into it? I've also seen the term "non hierarchical" polyamory/non monogamy. It's when you don't experience primary/secondary relationship structures.

EDIT: I'm reading further into this too! I know here it says sexual and romantic relationships, but it can be applied to other dynamics too

http://www.relationship-anarchy.com/videos/2016/6/20/the-difference-between-relationship-anarchy-and-non-hierarchical-polyamory

 

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4 hours ago, Qim said:

There's no opposite of amatonormativity because there's no system that put love in every form as inherently bad and oppress those who express it.

Interesting that you looked at it in a binary way of good/bad when I saw the question as finding a presence/absence binary. An alternative to saying 'non-amatonormative', for situations where amatonormativity isn't present or is actively resisted.

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13 hours ago, yurihands said:

I'm reading further into this too! I know here it says sexual and romantic relationships, but it can be applied to other dynamics too

To be relationsip anarchy it must be applied to every kind of relationship (platonic, affinity relationship, colleagues, familly, etc...) (and if it it can feel to be a too wide scopes, that's just because anarchy is by definition a anti-authoritarian totalitarian ideology, so it applies everywhere)

8 hours ago, Apathetic Echidna said:

Interesting that you looked at it in a binary way of good/bad when I saw the question as finding a presence/absence binary. An alternative to saying 'non-amatonormative', for situations where amatonormativity isn't present or is actively resisted.

If I had to coin a word for that, I think I would  go for "amatoneutrality". As @Qim said, there is no such thing as anti-amatonormativity as a system, but sometimes, amatonormativity can be overlooked in some particular situations within the amatonormative society ; hence "neutrality" as in "gender-neutral pronouns".

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The opposite of any normativity is diversity.

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9 minutes ago, Mark said:

The opposite of any normativity is diversity.

Amatodiversity :P
I don't even know what amato is supposed to stand for though

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2 hours ago, Holmbo said:

I don't even know what amato is supposed to stand for though

I suppose it comes from latin? Makes me think of the verb amare that means to love. But I'm not an expert so I'm not sure.

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1 hour ago, nonmerci said:

I suppose it comes from latin? Makes me think of the verb amare that means to love. But I'm not an expert so I'm not sure.

IIRC it means beloved 
Mentioned in this article. Which starts by referencing Plato.

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