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Everything posted by awkwardchickenpotatodragon

  1. ...I would kind of like to be a part of this? I wanna make friends... but I'm too scared to message anyone else (all the friends I've ever made were because they talked to me first or I was introduced to them through a friend I already had). Uhhh... I am a small child in highschool... I love dragons with every inch of my soul (and they're one of the only things I feel allowed to admit that I like?). I like video games, especially ones that children can reasonably play, but a lot of them I don't play, I just watch let's plays on youtube (and then stalk the fandom). I play pokemon a lot, es
  2. Here are the aro pride dragons I did! Gonna post this now before I lose the nerve!! The small black one with the flag background I did like a day or two ago and I made it really quickly because I felt like it, while the others are from a while back and took way longer to make.. Anyways, looking at it now, two of them have the same expression and I don't know what to think about that..
  3. My school's library just put up a valentine's day display. I was really surprised (in a good way!) by what was on it.

    It was talking about the different kinds of loves, and how romantic love is not the only one! I was so excited to see it acknowledge this, instead of continuing to push an amatonormative message.

    1. NotHeartless


      Wow! I'm impressed. There's hope :arolove:

    2. Anything_but_allo


      Ah that’s awesome! Someone on insta I follow also posted on their story that for Valentine’s Day that actually made a “best friends forever” candy mold! 

    3. Apathetic Echidna

      Apathetic Echidna

      That is so great! It is very important not to exclude all the people not dating and that is a great way to spread all the loves :) 

  4. I can't personally relate, sorry, but that might be because I cover any potential sadness with general anger at amatonormativity and sometimes at romantic love in general (even though there's nothing wrong with romantic love in itself). I have been stalking the community for a while though, and that does seem to be at least somewhat common.
  5. @NotHeartless Thanks! If I do end up posting something I'll do that! It's less that I'm concerned about what other people think, it's just that I have a weird paranoia that someone will track the picture back to me in real life, despite the fact that the pictures I want to show I have not posted anywhere else.
  6. I made a couple of aro dragons a while back but I'm too scared and paranoid of the internet to post them right now. other than that I have some other dragons that I'm also too paranoid to post. I also can't figure out how to put images on here so there's that.
  7. I'm going to be 17 in a month. To me, that's super old because that's older than I've ever been and it's a year away from legal adulthood. In comparison to the average human lifespan, I am but a tiny little young child still learning about the world. In comparison to how long the universe has been around, I am just a fraction of a tiny little spec of dust in the timeline. It's really interesting to see the ages. 15-20 seems to be the most common age range so far. So many of us are so young. I mean, our community is so young, it makes sense that a lot of the yo
  8. Good to know. With the hand thing, I think my touch aversion is mostly with hands and faces and everything else is almost an afterthought really. Huh. That's an interesting thought. I can't think of any circumstances that would lead to my touch aversion, but what do I know. Yeah, that's what I want to know too.
  9. Touch aversion is just a thing that sometimes shows up in the aro and ace communities, and I haven't really seen any discussion (that I remember or know of) about why it exists. I guess touch aversion has connections with romantic stuff/sexual stuff, but I'm touch averse to a lot of things that are entirely platonic, that I do not at all associate with romance or anything. Is touch aversion just a thing that shows up in the aspec communities? (not counting touch aversion or whatever as a result of trauma. that's a whole different thing, as there is a logical explanation
  10. I was like 13 or 14 when I first heard the term aroace, and I sort of was like, "okay sure, sounds like me" and mostly forgot about it until later, when I was uncertain about it again and questioned it, leading me to do some research, and eventually to deciding I'm definitely aro (and ace, but I didn't really debate that). I kind of knew that I didn't get crushes when I was a young child and all my friends (well, one in particular) were ranting about all of their million different crushes that I could never keep track of. I'm 16 now, so it hasn't really been that long, but I am fully conv
  11. I refuse to wear makeup, but that's probably more me wanting to be weird and different than everyone else. I love to wear pretty dresses and skirts occasionally because I like feeling cute (don't care what other people think though). I also like wearing "weird" things, like this cool cape/cloak/poncho????? thing I have that's really cool and warm. So really I don't know. All of this is really probably just connected to me wanting to be weird and different from people, rather than connected to my aromanticism.
  12. For me it was mostly just not ever thinking about romantic relationships or getting married or whatever. All my friends had this plan of getting married, having x amount of kids, the usual, while I just never thought about that. Somewhere in the back of my mind I had decided that was something I would think about in the future, and that was that. I somehow understood almost exactly what a crush would be, and so I knew enough to know I didn't have any crushes, and I boasted that whenever the topic came up. Thankfully the other kids were just deeply surprised, and never questioned me
  13. Presented on Aro Spec Awarenss Week at school today! It was terrifying. BUT, my teacher is amazing! Kept saying how we should stop assuming things, and then when I showed her the aro spectrum identities she said she thought she might be demiromantic! I thought that was cool. So it was terrifying but 100% worth it.

    1. Naegleria fowleri
    2. The Angel of Eternity

      The Angel of Eternity

      This is how I see society in the far future!

  14. (is this too long for a status update? I don't know where else to put my rant) Reallllly annoyed today because in one of my classes, we were told to do a project about a specific date related to social justice issues (it is a social justice class, after all) and so I was saying how I was thinking about doing either Asexuality Awareness Week or Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week  (major step out of my comfort zone, literally the first time in my life I ever said the words "asexual" and "aromantic" out loud, very proud of myself). So the teacher listens in to my conversation, obviously means well, but then starts talking about asexuality as a mental illness (and aromanticism, too, I guess, but she obviously doesn't know much). And then some other dude in the class agreed (though I'm not convinced he heard right), and then my sort-of friend, (who is openly gay) says it's a mental illness too, and I was very upset. And then I mentioned that it's not considered a mental illness, I forget how they reacted to that, but it wasn't enough of a response that I was placated. Later I mentioned aromanticism to my sort-of friend, who was like, "Don't worry, you'll find someone," (seriously, dude, do you not understand what I'm saying?)  to which I of course replied, "Screw you" (though in a sort of joking voice because I do that automatically so as to not horribly offend people; I honestly wish I had said that more offendedly so he would get the point). But I'm still annoyed, because everyone was 20 miles deep into misconceptions and misunderstandings, and it upsets me so much that people know so little.

    1. Neir


      Being pathologized is something I have dealt with too and I really strongly identify with your feelings here! (As well as your Screw You attitude!) I remember finding scientific studies online that debunked the whole ace/aro=mentally ill thing and that helped me feel better, so know that science is on your side. You're right to be mad about your teacher's and peers' reactions though; I'm so annoyed on your behalf. Sending good vibes your way. You're in the right.

    2. The Angel of Eternity

      The Angel of Eternity

      In April, I did a report on asexuality and romanticism in my English class, though, thankfully, I didn't get any reactions of invalidation. However, if I'd gone through the reactions of invalidation, I could see myself getting into warrior mode. Their reactions kind of remind me of cult mentality, to be honest.....

  15. Yes. (although not that specific article; I showed her the main page of it, which I figure gives about the same info, if not more) I don't know how much of it she read, though.
  16. Do you think it's important to talk about romantic orientations as well as sexual ones? Do you feel like this is necessary but only within the context of being a-spec, as our experiences tend to be more varied? 1. Yes, there does need to be more discussion, mostly for varioriented people who need to hear it and so they feel included (do ace/aro people count as varioriented? I'd assume so). I feel there should be more discussion of the split attraction model too, keeping in mind it's flaws and not forcing it on anyone. Do you think that it would also be nice if people acknowledged ki
  17. My mom says it reeks of cult and heresay, in that it's saying everyone can become divine, and become God. When I was reading through this (and going to the actual website of it), I kind of ignored that because I thought it was exaggeration and they were saying we could become like God in being a good person and stuff.. I also noticed that nothing they said they reinforced with bible verses, though I assumed they would do that in whatever courses they were offering or whatever. Honestly, when I was reading through it I kind of liked what it was saying, the call to be like Chris
  18. Apparently me able to balance books on my head is a talent, according to all the people who come up to me when I'm casually balancing them on my head in the halls of my school. Personally, I just think it's because I have a flat area on my head, but whatever. I obsessively draw dragons (and only dragons), so I've gotten decent at that, I guess?
  19. I feel like I'm late to reply to this, but I'm going to do it anyways because these are some interesting questions. 1. As far as a mascot goes, I don't really care, as long as it's cute. Of the already suggested animals, I kinda really like the cat, because I like cats. 2. I wouldn't use it personally, because I feel it's usually used in a romantic context, but I do absolutely believe that it should be able to be used in any instance where it applies... So, yeah, if someone lost a friend, I'd be cool with them calling it heartbreak. It still counts. 3. A QPR is its
  20. Hugs- it depends. I guess I'll hug my mom, because I'm expected to hug her, and it doesn't make me that uncomfortable. I love hugging my little brother, and hugs with young children is perfectly fine, because they're adorable and innocent and such. But everyone else, even friends? No. I'm uncomfortable with that. The idea of kisses mildly grosses me out. I'm the one looking away and occasionally loudly saying, "Ew!" when kissing scenes come up on tv or movies. What is cuddling anyways?? I mean, if a little kid wants to sit on my lap, sure, go ahead. I'll rest my feet on
  21. Thanks! It's really nice to have a label, though before I never really considered my sexuality at all.
  22. Hi? I've been stalking/lurking/looking through this site (and AVEN) since Saturday and I finally gathered the courage to make an account- so here I am! I'm a very shy 16-year-old girl, and I don't think I'll post much? Maybe? But, I really really want to be able to talk openly around here. Anyways, I'm aro/ace, have been sort of identifying with that (to myself) since I discovered the terms by chance while wandering the interwebs. I'm not out yet to anyone, but I'm trying to gather the courage to do so. I'm not so much scared as how everyone will react, but more scared of
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