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mythlady

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  1. I figured I better get this off my chest now before the forum possibly shuts down...

     

    I've been questioning for a while now, and am wondering if I'm on the aro spectrum. Some stuff that made me wonder about the possibility:

    - While doing a school project about my future, I never mentioned a boyfriend or husband, no romantic partner at all in fact

    - I think I only tried dating because I thought it was something I was "supposed" to do

    - I don't want to get married/have children (being tied to someone sounds like a total nightmare)

    - I don't think about romance/dating

    - I actually got disgusted at myself for becoming infatuated with a guy (I know I'm not attracted to women, so...)

    - I could never consume any media with romance as the main plot without being bored/frustrated

    - I found myself searching "what does it mean if you're not interested in romance" online some years ago (It's how I found this place)

     

    Now for the part that has me confused: I got burned the one time I tried dating and my parents' marriage isn't the healthiest, so that could count against the possibility.

     

    Anyway, I would be grateful for any advice from anyone reading this, thank you in advance.

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  2. I had one, and got burned pretty badly by him. He simply would not take my "no" for an answer. But idiot that I am, I ended up caving in. He tainted several of my dreams as well- when I said I'd like to be a librarian, he was all, so you can do the hot librarian thing then? (That really hurt.) Also, he all but called me evil the first time I tried to break it off. The straw that finally broke the camel's back was when he said, "We're going to turn those quick no's into slow yeses." I really hope another woman doesn't get stuck with him. It completely put me off getting into another relationship, and is muddying the waters for me as to if I really belong here.

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  3. I absolutely despise shipping people in real life. I think its a horrible invasion of privacy.

    I wish I could stop shipping my OTP, unfortunately I don't want to leave the fandom just yet. Leaving a fandom for me means leaving any pairings I was shipping behind as well.

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  4. 23 hours ago, CheeseOverlord said:

    YMBAI you ruined your public image and made yourself unattractive just to prevent people from flirting with you

    That's something I've tried. Unfortunately I'm the type of person who by not looking after my weight made me more top heavy, if you catch my drift. So it pretty much backfired.

  5. How am I being a 'bad' (possibly) aro person? 2 ways:

    • I got burned the one time I actually tried dating a guy, and my parents' marriage isn't healthy, so I might have just developed a negative view of romantic relationships from personal experience
    • I still have ships I consume fanworks of, particularly the one I haven't managed to let go of with all the in-universe problems
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  6. 15 hours ago, techno-trashcan said:

    @mythlady Ah, I know what it is! I was answering someone else who asked if there was a word for the opposite of shipping, but I guess I didn't tag them! My bad, thanks for the explanation anyway!

    I guess I should have read the thread more carefully! Oh well, at least the explanation's up now, that's something at least...

  7. On 1/4/2018 at 2:53 PM, techno-trashcan said:

    NoTP?

    I can answer that. NoTP is a piece of fandom slang.  It's derived from fandom term "OTP" which stands for "One True Pairing", meaning the one romantic pairing the specific fan likes over any other pairing. NoTP, in that context means the opposite-a pairing that the fan will never ever support. Another derivative is BrOTP, for platonic pairs. Does this help?

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  8. I don't really do too much shipping these days, mainly because I'm tired of the way the louder parts of fandom treat it (all the incredibly petty character derailing/demonizing/bashing...). Another factor was realizing that I wasn't really shipping some things because I liked the idea of the characters being romantically involved, but to spite shippers of rival pairs. So I figured maybe it was time to get some distance from it.

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