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mythlady

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  1. I figured I better get this off my chest now before the forum possibly shuts down... I've been questioning for a while now, and am wondering if I'm on the aro spectrum. Some stuff that made me wonder about the possibility: - While doing a school project about my future, I never mentioned a boyfriend or husband, no romantic partner at all in fact - I think I only tried dating because I thought it was something I was "supposed" to do - I don't want to get married/have children (being tied to someone sounds like a total nightmare) - I don't think about romance/dating - I actually got disgusted at myself for becoming infatuated with a guy (I know I'm not attracted to women, so...) - I could never consume any media with romance as the main plot without being bored/frustrated - I found myself searching "what does it mean if you're not interested in romance" online some years ago (It's how I found this place) Now for the part that has me confused: I got burned the one time I tried dating and my parents' marriage isn't the healthiest, so that could count against the possibility. Anyway, I would be grateful for any advice from anyone reading this, thank you in advance.
  2. I had one, and got burned pretty badly by him. He simply would not take my "no" for an answer. But idiot that I am, I ended up caving in. He tainted several of my dreams as well- when I said I'd like to be a librarian, he was all, so you can do the hot librarian thing then? (That really hurt.) Also, he all but called me evil the first time I tried to break it off. The straw that finally broke the camel's back was when he said, "We're going to turn those quick no's into slow yeses." I really hope another woman doesn't get stuck with him. It completely put me off getting into another relationship, and is muddying the waters for me as to if I really belong here.
  3. I absolutely despise shipping people in real life. I think its a horrible invasion of privacy. I wish I could stop shipping my OTP, unfortunately I don't want to leave the fandom just yet. Leaving a fandom for me means leaving any pairings I was shipping behind as well.
  4. I've never really cared about my looks, I've been that way for most of my life (and long before I started questioning).
  5. I got sick of the same old romance plots and started reading slash fanfic as a result because I was desperate for something, anything to make the romances feel fresh again. It backfired on me - romance plots are romance plots, just you get a higher chance of out-of-character behavior in fanfic when it's a same sex couple.
  6. That's something I've tried. Unfortunately I'm the type of person who by not looking after my weight made me more top heavy, if you catch my drift. So it pretty much backfired.
  7. I wasn't all that clear earlier, I'm not so much atheist as agnostic and repulsed by some aspects of organized religion (not going into details, I'll just end up hurting or offending someone).
  8. Roses are red Violets are blue Ask me on a date and I'll ignore you
  9. I'm not religious/spiritual at all, but I don't think that's really had an effect on my questioning if I'm aro-spec.
  10. How am I being a 'bad' (possibly) aro person? 2 ways: I got burned the one time I actually tried dating a guy, and my parents' marriage isn't healthy, so I might have just developed a negative view of romantic relationships from personal experience I still have ships I consume fanworks of, particularly the one I haven't managed to let go of with all the in-universe problems
  11. YMBAI you were grossed out by kissing scenes long after you would have outgrown the "girls/guys have cooties" phase. At least that happened to me...
  12. This thing turned up in my Dreamwidth subscription page. A comm that initially looked promising- a writing/art fest that would go toward promoting diversity. They even split sexual and romantic orientations. The misstep here (and misstep is putting things lightly) is that they decided to put in a BLEEPing points system for participating. Dead serious, here's a link. I feel that cheapens the message, and am seriously considering a calling out for the admin, and an angry rant on my personal Dreamwidth journal.

    1. Jot-Aro Kujo

      Jot-Aro Kujo

      Wow, what the fuck... Yeah, that's definitely no good. Yikes.

    2. Costati

      Costati

      Wow yes do that. It's really f**ked. I get that the idea is to motivate people into putting more diversity but that's really wrong. You can't say that some sexual orientations or romantic orientations deserve less points than others. Strangely it mostly bothers me for mental disorder. Because I guess for the other things I can understand a bit it's about representation but for mental disorder it's honestly insulting it's like saying someone with OCD, anxiety or PTSD struggles less than someone with an eating disorder (and I have all four so I am in a position to say they're all equally making my life hell.) It also varies a lot on the level someone can have a really bad case of OCD in the way it really stop them from functioning healthily when I for example doesn't have it in that form. Same for anxiety. My best friend have really frequent panic attacks and social anxiety when for me it's somatic meaning it creates physical pain and insomnia (and other things) from all the stress that I interiorize. And it's the same for physical disability btw who are they to say that amputation is better than epilepsy. That's so weird. If they want to give people kudos for putting more diversity that's great but put everything on the same score. You can't just judge what deserves more points. I completely get that you're angry. And you really need to at least explain how this is so wrong because I think the author really don't realize the issue because they're stuck in their perspective and how in their heads they're really trying to do their best to motivate people to include more diversity.

  13. Ok, I'm on the Discord server as MythicMistress- That's my existing Discord account name, but its me.
  14. Listening to "Monster" by Imagine Dragons, identifying with the lyrics due to my mindset, not so much the chorus.
  15. I need to get on that fanfic writing! Erm...does it matter what the fandom is for the fanfic? I would like to vid too, but I can't afford to right now... As for fic, I should crack down on writing that team as family/family of choice Weiss-centric RWBY fic.
  16. Talents? I don't really have any right now. I do want to write song parodies and fanfiction though. If anyone has a song they want parodied, feel free to tell me. As for fanfiction, I plan on writing mostly gen (no romance) fanfiction.
  17. A character I headcanon as aromantic is Ruby Rose from the web series RWBY. I just don't see her being romantically involved with anyone.
  18. I'm listening to a (rather demonic sounding) cover of "Shiny" from the Disney movie Moana right now.
  19. I guess I should have read the thread more carefully! Oh well, at least the explanation's up now, that's something at least...
  20. I can answer that. NoTP is a piece of fandom slang. It's derived from fandom term "OTP" which stands for "One True Pairing", meaning the one romantic pairing the specific fan likes over any other pairing. NoTP, in that context means the opposite-a pairing that the fan will never ever support. Another derivative is BrOTP, for platonic pairs. Does this help?
  21. I don't really do too much shipping these days, mainly because I'm tired of the way the louder parts of fandom treat it (all the incredibly petty character derailing/demonizing/bashing...). Another factor was realizing that I wasn't really shipping some things because I liked the idea of the characters being romantically involved, but to spite shippers of rival pairs. So I figured maybe it was time to get some distance from it.
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  23. I feel your pain. Sometimes I feel like people get so caught up in writing their favorite romance they completely miss the point of a character or the book/show/movie/whatever they are writing fanfiction about. As for finding it, putting "gen fanfiction" into the search features at Livejournal or Dreamwidth can help, Archive of our own does have filters, but they aren't entirely reliable. Here's a Dreamwidth community for recommending fanfiction with no/very little romance: gensplosion
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