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Ted guy

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  1. The worst I've ever had was back at university. There was a girl who would follow me around and take pictures of me, pretending it was something different. My cousin sat behind her in one class and saw her zooming in on pictures of me the entire class. When I was around her, she said things indicating she was only happy around me, and that she had been dealing with suicidal thoughts. I was still a teenager and didn't know how to handle the situation like i would now, it really freaked me out at the time. You guys got any stories? I feel as an aro, we are kind of immune to those obsessive thoughts.
  2. Those are interesting answers that put it into a perspective I didn't think about. Forbidden fruit..interesting
  3. That's for sure what I would have done when I was younger. I guess I'm becoming de-sensitized to it because what she did isn't that uncommon out here.
  4. I think its better if you keep it private. I've thought about outing myself, but its true when they say "some things are better left unsaid"
  5. My co-worker was never keen on the guy she was set to get married, and she has always liked me over the years. She tried to kiss me on the lips at work, where I just pulled away. Then she kept complaining about the guy she is with, and would be "can't you just marry me and have 2 wives?" She wasn't joking. I would just politely laugh her off. But instead it made her mad and she threw garbage at my head, and now has blocked off contact from me. ------------- I keep telling you guys, this stuff is so foreign to my aromantic mind. Why the heck would I want 2 wives and why on earth would she want that kind of drama. She is a pretty lady. She looks like the singer pink, except long hair. I find everyone weird except myself (when it comes to romance)
  6. I'm sorry you are going through this. I dont know much about Grey. What's the difference between that and aro
  7. No no no, the homeopathic remedy causticum. It's in a dilution where there isn't causticum in it (whatever potency they make it) That's why there is argument homeopathy is just sugar pills, which i understand the argument. Lol you made me laugh though
  8. I don't know if you're indicating you don't believe in homeopathy. But there is a toddler with autism in my family and she changes drastically when we give her causticum. She doesn't know we are giving her anything. It was by seeing this i decided to try it, but I understand if you don't believe it.
  9. Well, what I was seeing him for was ADHD with auditory processing problems. The next day I felt really different, I was experiencing some kind of euphoria. By day 3 I felt a lot more emotional as a whole, and more confident in myself. Maybe around day 5 I noticed I was attracted to people I'm usually not. It Made me kinder and more affectionate to my wife, as I just felt more emotions to her. It's really hard to explain, but as I said, it went away after 3 weeks. It was weird being attracted to people who usually are as attractive as a chair to me at baseline.
  10. There is a popular homeopathic doctor where I'm from. I have other problems I was seeing him for. Surprisingly, he asked me about my attraction to people. I told him I don't find women attractive like I want to. I lost almost all of it when I was sexually abused when I was younger. I also lack emotion (I've wondered if I'm a psychopath, but I do feel empathy). He said he believes a lot of my problem is suppressed emotions, so he gave me staphysagria. WHOA!!!!!!! I spent the next 3 weeks drooling at women everywhere I went. I was completely attracted to a co-worker, who I wasn't before, among other people. The emotions and everything were intense and very pleasurable. I've now gone back to being to how i was before, no emotion and a lack of attraction. But I cant wait to follow up with this doctor soon.
  11. A long time ago my brother brought up thinking I might be asexual (because he couldn't understand why I never wanted a girlfriend). I dismissed the idea because I am attracted to women, but its mostly aesthetic attraction. It's very hard to reach sexual attraction, but it does happen. Because of that I didn't know I was aromantic until somebody told me online. Because of that I might bring it to him, but yeah I think my family won't be overly cool with it (as you mentioned)
  12. I've considered outing myself as an aro in my real life. I think "some things are better left unsaid". A couple reasons I don't want to: I don't think my wife or family would understand. They might interpret that I'm completely lost to the world of love and feel nothing. It's just misinterpretations. People don't understand what you're going through until they're in your shoes. -------- Reasons I want to: I'm worried I've offended a lot of people in the past, some women thinking we had a connection. It turned out I didn't feel that way and I think they took it to heart. Perhaps outing myself would offer them consolation.
  13. No worries. That's the answer I'm looking for. I've never researched aesthetic attraction, but it might be what I feel.
  14. I feel some things, but they're diluted. I just don't have the range other people have. 1. I feel platonic love....I have no idea how it would compare to romantic love 2. I get crushes but they are short lived. On average they last a month. I haven't had a lasting crush in 12 years. 3. I do feel physical attraction to women but it's diluted and it fades as I get used to their looks. However, the attraction usually doesn't matter to me (like I won't care that I'm attracted to that person) 4. I do feel enough that I can survive in a relationship with a lot of requirements.
  15. I also occasionally get a crush on someone but generally it is short lived and diluted. I do feel some sexual attraction to women but no romantic attraction, which makes it more interesting trying to figure out what part of the equation I'm missing.
  16. Despite not being able to feel romance or understand it, I find it so fascinating, wondering what people feel.
  17. Yes. I haven't revealed in my life being an aro. It might have to come up at some point, your point makes me feel
  18. Dating is relatively loose where I come from. I've had times where a girl essentially thought I was dating her, when I didn't have a clue she felt that way. --------------------------- Like for example, in college, I met back up with someone I went to high school with. I was bored for Christmas break and messaging people for stuff to do. She messaged me and we were talking about hanging out for Christmas supper etc. Then we hung out with her cousin (my best friend at the time) and I kept leaving because I wasn't feeling good from my meds. There had been NO talk of love, romance, or anything at all. But my friend messaged me the week later, saying she was upset and wasn't sure if she could be in a relationship someone who was running from her like me. She thought I was her boyfriend. WHAT!?!?!?!?! I quickly proceeded to message her I just looked at her as a friend. I didn't know that was what she thought. But that's happened to me many times. From my perception it is SO STRANGE, and I bet most people reading, you feel the same way. Now that I'm aware of being aro, I'm always confused what other people think. I'm just wordering if anyone relates. ------------- As I said on my other posts, because I'm not able to understand the perception of non-aros, I'm worried about getting in trouble. I dont understand 70% of it. I like being nice to people and my co-workers bringing them things like coffees and cupcakes etc. But now I'm worried they think it's me trying to bed them
  19. Yes, romantic. But actually your answer is interesting..... I wonder if being an aro could make us lack the feeling of bonding in friendships too.
  20. I am curious. If I was single again, I would probably stay single. Obviously, my needs are different than hers being an aro. I don't need much affection.
  21. Probably the right thing to do, I guess I'm worried about hurting feelings Yeah I agree with you. I'm going to ignore it. It's hard to develop an opinion when our perceptions are different. I really don't understand what's going on in other peoples' heads. Attraction is an interesting thing. Now that I'm aware I'm aromantic, I never know what the other person is thinking. Unless they are being completely open, I expect they feel nothing
  22. That's a good question. She is pretty, but mostly I was trying to figure out who she was and why she is always around 2 spots of the building lol (upstairs to downstairs, leaving early). I glanced at her and took my eyes away when she saw me. But she is definitely pretty though. Really, it's quite fascinating. I really like trying to figure out what they're thinking, as long as nothing gets taken the wrong way. I would be heart broken if I ever made someone uncomfortable and didn't know it.
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