Ruby

Hey there, I'm still facing my reality as an AroAce individual, so I don't have a lot of wisdom to offer on the subject, but I want you to know you're not alone. Identity is a complex thing, made all the more complex when you start to recognise that your personal experiences don't seem to line up with the world reflected back to you. I found Jaiden Animations' video (below) was what made me really start to see that I'm AroAce and not just someone who "hasn't met the right person yet", or "is just anxious", or "too depressed", or having "attachment issues". All of these things might have been true, or contributing, but also cruelly let me believe that this was a fluid thing for me that would change, rather than a part of who I am. Jaiden's experience doesn't directly match my own, but it spoke enough to my own truth that I had to start facing the truth, have to keep facing. It is hard. It hurts. And you're not alone.