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Mr butterflies

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  1. Goodness me, how does anyone actually ever figure all this out!?
  2. That's definitely something I need to look into and think about cause I know I have loved the people I've been in relationships with just didn't feel like what romantic love is described as.
  3. Am I aromantic? I'm a 30 yr (NB) and was in a relationship with 32 yr (F). I broke things off a few days ago and I'm filled with so much regret. We knew we were incompatible but decided to continue until one or both of us didn't want to anymore. Most of those were really me not wanting to live with a partner, get married etc. Her love language is physical touch and I get overstimulated being touched a lot. She loves all the cutesy romantic stuff and at first I could do them because she enjoys them but they progressively got harder after I started considering maybe I could be aromantic. I have always struggled with romance but felt like I just needed to try harder. It was the loving and selfless thing to do. The romantic things that felt so suffocating before I broke things off, feel so insignificant now. I know I'd feel the same if we got back together but it's so hard to come to terms with why all this stuff is difficult for me. It seems so simple when I think about it, she just wants to slow dance in the living room while lovelingly gazing at each other, why does that make me feel like I have ants crawling under my skin?! I enjoyed spending time with her, the sex was great and I don't know how to exactly pinpoint the 'romantic' stuff that made things so hard. I know I love her and it's not platonic but it's not romantic either, atleast not in the way she loved me. We agreed to be friends but it pains me to think that she won't ever treat me with anywhere near the same regard as a friend that she did when we were dating. I'm so confused and scared.
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