Goatherder

You're straightened out into one long wire and can now only do what a wire can do. I wish I had new boots.

There was a bit in highschool where I thought I was aromantic without realizing that was an actual thing. It was just something I came up with on my own. Me finding out I was demi didn't so much change how I saw myself as much as it changed how I saw others. I just thought everyone was like that. I thought people dated people they weren't attracted to all the time and due to societal pressure both people just went along with it as part of an unspoken agreement to pretend like they were. So I guess this was just a long winded way of saying I thought I was a normal straight person and then realized the world was different than how I thought it was.

As a demi I can say that from my perspective, romantic attraction is like pornography. You know it when you see it. I acknowledge that that is not a helpful description.

Me too which seems to put me in good company here. I have had a friend tell me because I'm good at looking at them objectively. Really, I only know two pieces of advice to give: 1) Talk to them about it. 2) Break up with them. In any interpersonal relationship, if you're past the point where talking can help, it's pretty much over.