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  1. Mod Note: This thread was moved to Off-Topic as it appeared to be a general discussion of Schizoid PD (similar to the Aros with disabilities thread) rather than a discussion explicitly centered around aromanticism.
  2. I don't know a ton about this either, so I can't speak to accuracy, but here is another AVEN thread I've seen that discusses the emergence of the romantic orientation model and its associated terms: http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/53539-romantic-orientation/.
  3. Welcome, Naomi! Glad you decided to introduce yourself . Look forward to seeing you around!
  4. It's nice to meet you, Marit! Welcome!
  5. Welcome! Nice to meet you
  6. Same. Now I'm wondering if this has happened, and I just never figured it out . I feel like this is quite possible.
  7. This is just such a mess. Between this and the current US election cycle, I do not like where things are headed lately....
  8. The percentage of people who are ace and aro is reported to be about 20%, according to the 2014 AVEN Census. It's certainly not a majority, but there are enough aro aces that asexuality and aromanticism do get conflated sometimes.
  9. I have pretty varied musical tastes; honestly, I don't think there's a genre I dislike. Putting my Spotify on shuffle can be a jarring experience . I love music, and I'm one of those people who has to have music on at all times. I'd say I listen to R&B, pop, hard rock/metal, and musical theater (Broadway) most frequently. I'm into vocals, so I'm drawn to music with good vocal performances above all else. If I find a singer's voice to be bad or irritating in some way, I typically can't listen to the song even if it's good.
  10. Thanks . I basically tried to use as many resources as I could find. Mainly I used a textbook and Talk to Me in Korean for grammar stuff, and I watched and listened to a lot of Korean entertainment (Kdramas, Kpop, variety shows, etc.) for listening practice. Obviously, I couldn't really do conversation practice by myself I honestly don't know why I like Korean so much, but I've always thought it was an interesting language linguistically.
  11. Welcome, Eri! Look forward to seeing you around the forum!
  12. Honestly, I think there are ways in which all of us feel like outsiders. None of us "fit in" perfectly, and I believe that diversity is a strength of our community. We need people of various sexualities, genders, ages, ethnicities, life experiences, cultural experiences, and so on. Diversity allows us to have a deeper understanding of people in general, as well as aromanticism. We learn from each other and become better, less narrow-minded people. People are marginalized too much in life, and exploring and celebrating our differences is key to seeing each other as simply people with differences as opposed to separate (and often unequal) categories. Personally, I think whether or not we all tick the same boxes is far less important than our shared desire to fight things like amatonormativity in our societies.
  13. I feel exactly the same way. AVEN was hugely helpful to me when I was figuring everything out; I'll always have a fondness for it for that. But I often feel on the sidelines there, whereas I don't here
  14. Welcome, Will! Look forward to seeing you around!
  15. Welcome! I completely get where you're coming from about AVEN. Hopefully you find what you're looking for here
  16. I honestly don't know. I'm not currently interested, but I don't know that I won't ever be interested. I've never met anyone I would consider being in a QPR with, but I can see the possibility in the future if I met someone compatible enough. I find the chances of that happening pretty slim, though.
  17. From my experience, that works about as well as trying to cover up your personality. I used to dress in clothes a size or two too big for me just to avoid sexual attention, but I still got it. Even though wearing revealing clothing will get you more sexual attention, covering up doesn't stop the attention altogether. Maybe it's the same with romantic attraction. By acting non-flirty and adopting an interaction style that indicates romantic indifference you might be able to lessen advances, but I don't think there is any way to completely prevent them.
  18. 한국어를 잘 못 하는데 조금 할 수 있다. 저음에 혼자서 배우지만 한국어 너무 재미있어서 대학권에서 한국어 공부하기로 결정했다. (Not sure if that made sense--I'm still learning ) I've also studied ASL, Spanish, Japanese, and Hindi to varying degrees. The only one I was ever close to fluent in was ASL. It's been a long time since I've used it though, so I've lost a lot unfortunately.
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