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  1. Could she have just forgotten? If she stays really busy, she might not remember that she was supposed to contact you. I'm really bad about stuff like that; I often forget to contact people, and it has nothing to do with how much I like them or want to hang out. I just forget. If you really want to hang out with her, I would try to mention it again casually. I wouldn't make it sound serious though--keep it lighthearted if you're worried about her feeling pressured. For me personally, if someone comes on too strong or intense at first I can get pretty uncomfortable, so being casual works better for me.
  2. That sounds terrifying, @DannyFenton123! I feel exactly the same way about bugs. I've done the same thing--caught a bug under something and weighted it down, waiting for it to die . When I was younger I would just yell "bug!!!" and wait for one of my parents to get it . No joke, although I prefer living alone now, I've actually wondered if I should live with someone just so they can get bugs for me.
  3. I definitely remember this from my psych classes. I like the concept of it, but I think @Saaaro makes a good point that it erroneously combines sexual and romantic attraction. As an aro ace, this model would work fairly well for me, but I don't think it would for everyone.
  4. My experience is the same. The idea always seemed so ridiculous to me that I never even thought to try, to be honest. I wouldn't say that I ever felt pressured about it, but I've certainly felt judged for it. That never was incentive enough for me to try though. I'm not really susceptible to peer pressure
  5. Welcome! There are definitely plenty of people who get where you're coming from here I'm sorry to hear you've had such a difficult time with friendships, but I hope you'll be able to find what you're looking for!
  6. This is true. It's certainly possible to believe there is a spiritual component to the universe without being religious. I've known people who are are theistic or spiritual, but don't follow any particular religious doctrine.
  7. Welcome! I'm also a vegetarian who loves cats and coffee Oh, and Pokemon Go is awesome, even if it does occasionally make you look like a crazy person in public.
  8. There was actually a really large homeschool group in my area when I was a teen, and they held a homeschool prom, which I avoided. I remember being confused that everyone else didn't seem to see the lack of prom as a benefit of being homeschooled like I did.
  9. Welcome! Look forward to seeing you around
  10. Another atheist here, but I was raised in a devout Christian Evangelical home, and I grew up in the Bible Belt. I got myself out of the church when I was a teenager. Everyone from my hometown thinks I'm a heathen now .
  11. I immediately thought of the Korean word 바보, sometimes romanized as "papo," which means "idiot." So that would make this the idiot cult
  12. I'm glad to hear it went well! That conversation is always a bit nerve wracking. But it sounds like you approached the topic in a really good way. Congrats!
  13. There are also professional cuddle services. I know they exist in the US and UK, at least, although I'm not sure if it's a thing elsewhere. You can pay a "professional cuddler" for a session, and the contracts usually specify it has to remain platonic
  14. Welcome! Hope to see you around
  15. I feel the same way. I don't get gender at all and have never understood how people know their gender in a personal (as opposed to socially determined) way. I feel zero connection to any gender identity or label and find it completely irrelevant to my life. I go with female 'cause that's how everyone else sees me, and I don't have enough of a reason to go to the trouble of contradicting it. So I guess I'm "female" out of laziness.
  16. I can completely relate. I've had to share a bed with friends and family members on occasion, and I hate it. When I was little, I distinctly remember wondering how people in romantic relationships dealt with this problem. Nobody could possibly want to share a bed, right? I remember assuming this was just another price you had to pay if you got married
  17. Same. Being aro affects the way I relate to people and society in general much more strongly than being ace does. Also, like others have pointed out, romantic orientation is often more visible. I can't count the number of times I've been interrogated about whether or not I'm dating, have a partner, etc. and subsequently judged for my choice to be single. On the other hand, I don't typically get interrogated about my sex life.
  18. It's a way to demonstrate that he's a decent "family man" with good old-fashioned values .
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