AlwaysConfused

You could be romantically attracted to both (biromantic) and be sexually attracted to boys (homosexual assuming you identify as male) Or you could be gay, but just think that girls look nice. You don’t have to be attracted to someone and think they’re hot :)

Hello!!

Originally in my school, there weren’t any members of the LGBTQIA+ community either, or so we thought. A few years later and there’s over 40 of us (estimate) that are open and attend the school’s ‘gay club’. I realised I was asexual quite a few years ago, it was when a couple of people were chatting about how attractive this man was and they’d love to… uh, you know, to him. I was really confused at the time, and wondered how that worked. How can you look at someone and think that? Alright, it’s a body, cool. Why would that make me want to have s*x? I explained all my feelings to a friend and they recommended that I researched the ‘asexual’ term. Bear in mind that not all asexuals feel the same way, and there are lots of umbrella terms you can research until you find one that fits you. But honestly, nothing has to change if you don’t want it to! And if you find you do feel that kind of attraction, then that’s cool too. It takes time to find your own identity, but we’re here to help in the mean time :D

Hi, I’m AlwaysConfused, I can assure you it’s not just a username. My friends call me Ti, and I live in the middle of nowhere, collecting shiny rocks and feeding wild birds. I’m Girlflux and I use all pronouns (although they/them is fine if you’re unsure) and I’m Panromantic Asexual (and questioning aegoromantic!) It’s lovely to meet you all!!

Definitely tea, pg tips or clipper’s, the tradition whatever it’s called one (black tea I think). If I’m out and about I’d probably choose something with chocolate in it. Though if it’s really hot, water is definitely my go to, I just don’t enjoy other drinks in the heat (like now, it’s too hot now ,_,)

Right. Hello, I just joined arocalypse!! It’s really nice to be here :) - The first part is basically background about my current relationship, you can get the jist of it if you skip to the next paragraph break. The focus isn’t my relationship, but it’s a really crucial part of this. So, I’ve been in a relationship with my Girlfriend for about 10 (almost 11) months. It’s really great relationship in my eyes, we both enjoy spending time together, we have similar interests and generally we’re good at communicating problems. Though recently she’s been saying that we‘ve not been spending enough time together and asking to go round my house quite literally every time I see her. Quite a few times I’ve said, ‘No’ because I’m generally someone who wants private time and I often feel uncomfortable with someone invading a space that’s just mine (probably weird), but she always says, ‘why not?’ and things like, ‘other people actually spend time with their partners’ ‘You’re going to leave me aren’t you. You just think I’m so stupid.’ I always feel terrible but sometimes I just don’t want to be around people. Anyway, over the course of our relationship, there has been a few hiccups, namely the physical contact. She knows that I’m asexual, and she respects that I don’t want to ever has s*x (it just makes me super uncomfortable) but she doesn’t understand that I don’t really feel an awful lot of romantic attraction, to anyone I’ve dated. I’ll always think about it, and imagine various romantic situations and it makes me really happy. It’s just when it actually happens that I feel incredibly awkward and it just doesn’t feel right. I always blush really red and she’ll make comments like, ‘ha, you blush easily’ but it’s more of a, ‘this is so weird I don’t know how to get out of this situation’ kind of flush. I’ve spoken to her about this, and she replied with, ‘Oh, right, so we’re basically just going to be friends then?’ And I explained that, no, I feel differently about her than I do with friends, I would just prefer not to do overly romantic stuff (if that makes sense??). She nodded and later when we got back to my house, she immediately tried to engage in overly romantic stuff, and hinting on stuff that was bordering the line of sexual. I felt like I was going to throw up. It was like she just ignored everything I just said. I later dropped her off at her house and she said she wants to come round again, I only smiled back, still currently trying not to think about what had happened that day. That was about a week ago and I feel terrible that I still haven’t texted her. I’ve been thinking that perhaps I’m Aegromantic, because while I enjoy planning and thinking about romantic activities, I don’t really feel comfortable actually going through with them. It’s been like this is all of my past relationships, so it’s not just that I ‘haven’t found the right person yet’ (I’ve been told that many times, and it’s infuriating). Do you think I’m right, and can I be aegromantic and panromantic? Thank you for any info and sorry for the rant, I probably sound like a horrible person ;_;