Dominus Temporis

Garlic should be a symbol of aromanticism

I was homeschooled from the ages of 12-15, so yeah, I can certainly relate to that.

I, too, found it weird at first that aro and ace wasn't the same when I came across the terms

My name is latin for "time lord" because I used to like Doctor Who a lot when I was younger, and I enjoy learning different languages + I have a massive interest in history.

I'm not playing any... I miss it sometimes

Green tea

Very interesting perspective! I can certainly agree with a lot of the points here. All the early signs that I was asexual were likewise early signs that I was aromantic - they were always parts of the same thing. I'm fine with calling myself aroace, but I see them as a whole, and the fact that one can be one without the other is something I struggle to understand.

As long as it's vegan, I'll eat it. But if I had to pick one dish, I'd go for Borsch (the soup) - without meat, obviously -. It's great!

Sure. I mean, I am asexual as well, so it's not like polygamy really has a place in my life, but I always thought monogamy was pretty weird.

Yes, I asked the question on Aven as well, and it's not surprising that most people on here feel more aro than ace, and that the folks on Aven feel more ace than aro. I personally feel like they are two sides of the same coin. I suppose aromanticism makes asexuality more visible as well - if someone who is asexual is in a relationship, people will just assume they're not asexual.

Yuck Beyond meat (look it up)

I find that describing how you feel without calling yourself aromantic asexual might help. But people will probably still react with "you're too young to know". I'm 19, and I still get reactions like that.

Yeah, I can understand that. I don't really know what's considered a "high libido", but I think mine is in the lower-ish range. I am sex repulsed as well, so sex isn't something I'd ever actually consider.

Here is a question for all my fellow aroaces out there: do you feel more aro or ace? Which part of your orientation takes up the most space? Which do you think the most about? Which do you struggle with the most? Which do you feel the most discrimination because of? I've personally spent a lot more time thinking about my asexuality, but I think that's mainly due to the fact that aromanticism is even more invisible than asexuality. And to be honest, I often have a really hard time relating to alloromantic aces; finding a partner seems to be a big part of their lives.

I live with my mother. Everyone keeps assuming that I want to find my own place soon, but I'm happy like this, and so is she. It makes everything cheaper for both of us, and seeing as I'm aroace, and she plans to remain single, I think it's a great solution.

I remember this one time, many years ago, when I was 11; I was at school, and during recess some of my friends were talking. I wasn't really part of the conversation as such, but I was sitting more or less next to them, and I probably joined in with the occasional remark. At some point, one of my friends took out his phone and started showing everyone pictures of his "girlfriend". I was quite puzzled. I thought we were WAY too young to have girlfriends, but no one else seemed surprised. On the contrary, all my other friends started nodding and saying things like, "lucky you", or "she's pretty". I couldn't think of anything to say, so I asked him why he had a girlfriend. I don't think he understood the question. "Like... Why would you have a girlfriend?", I continued. "What do you mean?", he asked. "Like... Why aren't you just friends? And why have one girlfriend and not multiple? What do you two even do together that make you more than friends? Why bother? None of it makes sense", I responded (There was probably a bit more back and forth, and I might not have been to precise in my wording back then). Everyone looked at me. He started explaining, "A girlfriend is like... Someone you care for. Someone you stick to. Someone who is especially important to you. You do everything not to lose her". It still didn't make any sense to me. I honestly thought he was being a bit silly; surly no one ACTUALLY felt like that! I mean, sure, that's how they talk about it in the movies, but come on! People don't REALLY feel like that... Do they? After I kept on not understanding anything (and after one of the other boys had tried to explain it to me by saying exactly the same), he eventually gave up, concluding, "It will make sense when you get a bit older. Soon, you will want a girlfriend as well". And how wrong he was! Now, almost a decade later, I have never even kissed a girl (or a guy), and trust me, I've had MANY opportunities.